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  • fuddle
    fuddle Posts: 6,823 Forumite
    Milky drinks before bed sounds like it will be a real goer, ovaltine/horlicks to thicken and add calories? So weird talking about putting processed/carbs into the most (and other DD of course) precious thing in your life when I'm reading that for optimum health you should eridicate them, but I just don't want to mess with conventional methods at the moment, where they are concerned anyway.

    I adore almond milk Mar, I haven't had it in my tea and admit to allowing myself one cuppa nightly with cows milk in. Green/herbal tea other times, or cordial which has sugar in. (Never mind can't be perfect)

    I digress. Thick fruity shakes will go down very well, and she for like peanut butter. It's difficult to say whether she's stressed as we're all stressed at the moment what with mam. She most probably knows too much about that to be fair. School, no problems at all, she comes out beaming and tells me about her friend and her signing one direction songs. She loves school. Home life is calm other than me really. Maybe she's worried about me?

    Se idolises Jessica Ennis and is very interested in sport. I wonder if the fit body chat is one worth having or whether it will make her think more about eating/not eating. It's not that she doesn't eat, it's that she's extremely picky and will only eat a little at meal times, unless its sweets/choc/ice cream and then she will eat lots but that's not the norm and only when visitors come. I hope she doesn't have issues and is just too busy!
  • mardatha
    mardatha Posts: 15,612 Forumite
    FAME AT LAST!!! god. Kale!!! arggggggggggggh lol
  • FUDDLE that is a way in to making sure the little one does eat properly, somewhere on this amazing interwebulator must be the information about what super athletes like Jessica Ennis have as a diet, what better way to encourage your DD to eat than by printing off a list of the day to day diet of her favourite star?
  • Popperwell
    Popperwell Posts: 5,088 Forumite
    I hope its nothing to fear...I am not due to see my consultant(until July 18th)or a Dr unless I make an appointment. And all was well at the last check up approx 3 months ago but my surgery has written to me telling me they have a message for me and to phone them after 2pm.

    That's never happened before...there's always something.
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  • Possession
    Possession Posts: 3,262 Forumite
    I bet Jessica Ennis eats stuffs like roasted almonds - a very healthy way of getting healthy protein calories.
  • FairyPrincessk
    FairyPrincessk Posts: 2,439 Forumite
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    Just wanted to chime in for Fuddle-

    I was a very picky and very skinny kid and was underweight until I was 26 when I made a huge effort not to be. I became less picky long before that, but I'm a small person anyway so even my eating habits in Uni affected me very little.

    I think a chat might be good--just to make sure nothing is bothering her, could it be that she is worried about the cost of food? I wouldn't broach it as a topic about her weight, more of a chat about the fainting and how you can manage things better to avoid it. I was also a periodic fainter and used to be anxious about it, particularly after the first time it happened at school in front of everyone. It used to make me feel quite ill for a couple of days after, as the adrenaline your body releases can upset your stomach a bit. Even now it often takes me a day or two to feel right again after an episode. Juice and high protein foods taken together (i.e. juice with some cheese and biscuits) is usually what I find most palatable for a day or two after.

    Longterm, I agree with above suggestions-- I would also look at making healthy snacks available for her to graze. I could never eat huge meals but would snack little and often. My brother was the complete opposite, large, ate loads at meal times etc. It really helped when I was a bit older that my mum made sure there was a stock of healthy foods in the fridge for me. I wasn't allowed "junk" without asking, but I could get something healthy any time I wanted- Cold quiche, salads made with grains like cous cous or tabbouleh, pickled cucumbers, cheese, wraps, yoghurt and american applesauce (like pureed apples--not really a thing here) were all favourites for me as a teen. Peanut butter, nuts and vegetable sticks were also nice. Even now I tend not to snack on fruit as it makes me feel more hungry. When I was trying to put on weight, I used to have a hot chocolate every evening made with full fat milk. Now that I'm a healthy weight I've switched back to a lower fat content, but it really did help me to get more calories in. It was also a soothing ritual for me at a time that wasn't easy, so even though it was high in sugar it is worth a try.

    Although I don't struggle with being overweight now, I did go through a period of feeling anxious about it since it coincided with my dad being dxed with diabetes and having a multitude of problems with that. I started watching my diet more carefully and found that my knowledge from before was still useful, so perhaps some more casual chats about nutrition might be helpful? If nothing else it might make her feel more in control and confident about her choices.
  • juliettet
    juliettet Posts: 726 Forumite
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    Hi Fuddle, I echo Alfsmum re your DD. I just was not interested much in food too. Encourage her to eat more often then small bites will be more appetising. Milk in a pretty glass and tiny peanut butter sandwices look dainty. I still get overwhelmed by large portions of food.
  • tattycath
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    I've got some elderflowers. :)
    Pls can I have the recipe again.
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  • EstherH
    EstherH Posts: 1,150 Forumite
    Hi FUDDLE, if your daughter seems happy and is healthy and will eat chocolates etc.m try not to worry, she will eat when she is hungry and won't starve. Some people are always naturally thin. As long as you have snacks about that she can help herself to which are healthy, she will eat when she wants. If she was worrying about her weight and not eating because of that she wouldn't be eating chocolate. Esther
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  • lobbyludd
    lobbyludd Posts: 1,464 Forumite
    I was underweight my entire adolescence and into my 20's and 30's - until pregnancy changed my appetite for ever apparently. I had no issues with food, I occassionally fainted in early teans but this turned out to be due to my menstrual cycle, 1 episode of fainting is really nothing to worry about.

    I also found that eating pretty much anything in the 2 days prior to menstruating left me in unbeleivable pain that knocked me out for days, howling on the floor like a wounded animal, so I naturally decreased my intake then. I was, however, very healthy, took part in sports, had lots of energy, very alert, atained well in school, but naturally thin and ate according to my appetite.

    I'd talk to her about worries and the fainting, but leave any discussion of her eating habits, and certainly weight, out of it. I also wouldn't calory-up her intake as this may be counterproductive, leading her to eat smaller and smaller portions.
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