The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

shegar

Phew me, im mentally knackered , had enough , Im sort of chilling a bit today , nothing planned at all, just see how it go.........

Be so glad when Monday get here , to see the other half off and away for a week , how ive managed not to say anything to him to clear the air I will never know, must be mellowing in my years ...........

I see how I feel in this next week and decide if I can carry on caring , how I feel now I just want to live on my own and take the work load and worry from my shoulders ...........Well at least he is going into a nursing care home so they will have to do the extra care work for his back like ive been doing.................
On to the terrible subject of death / funerals, well I really cant talk about it , end of...................

Im going to see the clairvoyant /medium this coming Wednesday with my DILs at local theartre quite looking forward to that , nothing dont worry me in the spirit world , we wait in anticipation !!!......Hope you all have a peaceful sudayb afternoon....Sheila....
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Popperwell

It was allowed on Friday to take images at the Osmonds concert so for any fans here's one image...the only way you could see them was to stand up, raise a camera and sit down again. I was thinking of others but probably should have done what the others were doing.

My main view all evening was the backs of audience in front of me.

StressedOutMummy

Pop - I am sooo jealous JCN!!! Had I been there I would not have been able to contain myself! As for funeral songs my dad wants Monty Python - The Universe Song.My mum had Memories and Time To Say Goodbye which was very poignant.As for me, don't care .Hope everyone is having a stress-free, happy Sunday! TLC to all that need it ! x

SOM

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I've just had my treat of the week, the lurcha and I were out on our afternoon walkies and I became aware of some high up bird activity, enough birds to make me notice them, fliting and wheeling around and they got a bit lower and I realised that they were swallows. There must be more than 100 all swirling round hunting a hatch of insects such beauty, such a treat. They must be stocking up on insects ready for thier migration to Africa, they're late this year they normally gather and go early in the month, I'll go down to the river later on today as they usually roost on the ropes from the masts of the moored up yachts and those in the boatclub compound and look like feathered bunting. It's the sound I like best though, thousands of twittery, argumentative, close packed swallows is a lovely thing, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Popperwell

StressedOutMummy I really did not mind people getting excited I like to see genuine enjoyment but like me you might have had problems seeing them...the problem was how the theatre staff arranged things and the design of the theatre itself.

The first half everyone stayed put but the crowd started to build up during the interval and were allowed to continue...people came forward from seats further back too.

Funnily enough Jimmy the youngest of the brothers on stage but at times he looked as though he was flagging...

Hey Ho...

Something has gone wrong and I cannot upload images in the usual way to the internet at present but here's my attempt to decorate a Gingerbread Man:)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/96738323@N08/9874860294/

That cake flavour I could not think of earlier is chocolate, orange and...potato. Maybe that's something I can attempt when I start to bake during winter(unusual combinations for cakes)

kidcat

Afternoon toughies

Shegar ((hugs)) it feels ages since you last had respite to me so I can only imagine it feels an eternity to you. If you do think you are no longer able to carry on I am sure everyone around you will be supportive and understand what a difficult decision it is

I am exhausted today, I just have no energy at all and as much as I am trying to force myself to move I am drooping

Loads of posts I wanted to comment on but having been reading posts piecemeal today I have lost track of what has been said properly.

Thankfully I have managed to get DD7 homework done - whilst I appreciate that schools like to send some work home, I would personally appreciate a structured homework that she can do herself, rather than the two pieces she did get which required hours of my supervision and effort. Last weeks has not even been marked and if this weeks isnt marked either I think I am going to refuse to do any more. Finding the six hours plus to do this work is hard enough without the teacher not bothering to even acknowledge DD7 efforts.

monnagran

For my funeral I am having every emotional hymn, song and music that I can find. I want to hear sobbing and see plenty of mopping of eyes with huge white handkerchiefs. A few groans of grief wouldn't come amiss either. If anyone feels like prostrating themselves in agonies of mourning that'll be OK too.
Boy!!! They'd better miss me.

x

(Just in case there are any newbies reading - I AM joking.)

Possession

Kidcat has DD7 got this new Brain Builder homework? It's driving me up the wall. Airy fairy nonsense and takes an age. DD8 has 2 weeks to do hers, but there's 3 project type pieces (ridiculous questions like facts about France nobody else knows - how is she supposed to find them out if nobody knows them?!) as well as times tables, reading and spellings as usual.

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My neighbours Mum who is 90 said to me that the family had asked for and been given nearly all her savings(she's not going to tell them though) and that when her will was read and they were told all the money had gone they would be crying and wailing and very unhappy, and everyone would say 'Look how upset they are because Maria has died, she must have been a wonderful person for such an outpouring of grief, I've never seen such family devotion'. You'll gather from this that she is a very strong willed lady with a pronounced sense of the ridiculous, bless her!!!

gailey_2

I pottered round the house a bit tidying up, watching tv with ki
Chicken thighs in the oven with allotment herbs, last of the courgettes & sweetcorn, celery, a leek, onion & a bottle of cheap red we were given...smells delish! I also made a cheesecake with smart price ginger biscuits, value cream cheese with lemon juice & zest and will put allotment rasps on top.

Your post made me feel bit hungry.

would love the cheesecake recipe.
ds, sorted lots laundry, made a nice leek and potato soup. with homegrown potatoes from the garden.

Today had lie in.

hubby took eldest round b&q finish off the hedgehog house.

eldests mates been over most day.

did roast dinner with reduced chicken £2 reduced potatoes 59p,value yorkies, frozen veg, aldi stuffing and bisto was ok fed everyone now need bol up carcass and get a chicken an potato soup out of it tommorow,

Hubby has done reduced run daily and struck gold on morries:D

was stocktaking cupboards and freezer today trying meal plan.

we need to do store cupboard shop but have 2 weeks worth of meals for dinners just lunches and breckfasts,snacks and fruit bowl adds up.

got some more rasberries from garden.

seen some apples locally to get look tiny though and maybe not eating ones but can stew them make couple crumbles and freeze.

hardly any blackberries.

will go chesut hunting.

sweetcorn and pumkins n garden not ready yet.

tommorow

its open hubby new bank account
go chemists hes giving up smoking.
go see agents as they useless and stuff needs fixing.
ring acas
ring tax credits.

do shopping list.
meal plan

got reduced lamb steak and reduced pork loin from morries neither very big-what meals would you make from these?

might go down country lanes see f can find blackberries and do fruit winders if I can.

gong to defrost some cherries picked in july and make cherry flapjacks and round fairy cakes this week

seen some berries hedgerow unsure if they hawthorns or sloes they cadbury purple like oval blue berries with quite small leaves.

So as usual stay positive keep myself busy.

this week list some stuff for sale
redo my cv.

going to check out up my income see what else could be doing.

going keep doing reduced run as would be lovely by end of this week to feel secure we have 4 weeks worth of food.

got lots free craft stuff from a mate which is keeping kids happy.
Feeling guilty small boy has no preschool so build a preschool in corner of living room and may need to pull daughter from nursery she loves thankfully we 2months in credit with them.

need to make packed lunches more inspiring stop eldest from whinging.

going to settle down watch ET soon with kids hopefully they will love it.
bath kids
get early night
get packed lunches and uniforrm ready tonight.

might have early nite with choc bar and pinterest and plan random stuff to make people for xmas.

Hope everyones doing ok. its not sunny here but not rainy either.
shame couldent have gone for long walk or attempted to go for run but my energy levels feel depleted this week and doing what a can a little bit each day.


yesterday I did a yard sale with a freind. but made zero money but was good to be out for few hours take my mind off things.

friday evening best mate took me out for belated birthday drinks at local cheapy pub where i confided my troubles to her she was sympathetic and said does not know how im coping so well.
Cranky40-I like the security of having food in for me its on apar with savings in the bank if xxxx hits the fan or it snows we wont go hungry.


thanks again everyone for kind words of advice and support.

been odd quiet weekend but better than the last one.

thats best can hope for.

mr gailey pleased hes got job but worried about money.

The benefits are confusing as he wont be paid new job for 6weeks, hes cant claim jsa, hes doing odd agency days so have no idea how benefits will work and when we get them.

trying to focus on small things that make us happy and spend quality time with each other and not let stress make us snappy.

last night have cheap bottle wine and sat and chatted when kiids were asleep which was nice.