The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

savingqueen

Hi everyone.

good luck for tomorrow's hearing nutty.

glad you got to the docs cornishchick and feel a bit better with some time off sorted.

hope DH's back is better today Pooky and he has managed a bath.

lynseyjane - I still occasionally think about an ex I went out with for about 3 years in my early 20s, we broke up about 20 years ago now!! Our relationship was very close and special and we were crazy about each other. He broke my heart and I flitted from one relationship to the next for years after... never met anyone I felt the same type/depth of feeling until I meet my DH. I knew DH was a keeper partly because he was the first person to "match up to" my first love. I don't want to sound like DH is second best, he most definitely isn't and I love him for being him and we are also a family and married and all. I have never as much as looked at another man since DH but I still have moments when I feel I miss my ex is some way.

You can't help your feelings LJ. Time will tell with your current fella, what is meant to be will be .... Hugs to you.

Sweden sounded (sounds!) fantastic FairyP. It was me joining the council gym, have my induction on Thurs so not started there yet!

Kidcat - I would like to have punched that teacher at school on your behalf or maybe wacked him with my handbag (the weight of it would have had him down in one), does he even know your situation, how rude of him to make such comments whatever anyway.

Hi GQ, I miss ya when you don't post... sometimes I will take a peek on SHTF to get a dose of your humour, 'specially the stuff about the slugs "they don't like it up 'em" always makes me grin thank you.

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savingqueen

Well made a snap decision to get a doc's appointment today before I changed my mind. I really didn't fancy seeing my GP and thought I would try my luck seeing the nurse, thought the receptionist would want to know why and then make me see the GP but didn't. Nurse is nice and you can have a proper 2 way conversation with her. She reckons I have classic menopausal symptoms, well more the peri-menopause (jeez is this just the warm-up to the real thing :eek:) She is sending me off to get blood tests to check plus stuff like checks for diabetes, thryoid, anaemia etc as I said I was really tired. Will be good to know I have something otherwise I am just a big, lazy wimp . I won't get away without seeing the GP though as need to see him when then results come back.

And the worst of it.... no breakfast for me, not even a cuppa tomorrow before the blood tests... how am I going to survive getting the kids out of the door and into school...:rotfl:

off to the land of nod, night all
sq:)

cornishchick

And the worst of it.... no breakfast for me, not even a cuppa tomorrow before the blood tests... how am I going to survive getting the kids out of the door and into school...:rotfl:

off to the land of nod, night all
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Take a flask SQ;) ohh and some cake, then after the tests treat you3 self to a picnic.. in the car if its like this tomorrow, well done for plucking uo the courage. Seems we are all trying to make head way in the storm of life.
Well as i dont have to work tomorrow, i will b3 joining DH for lunch with his great aunt who i have never met, SIL is going to teach me to make chocolate eclairs cos mine never come out right, DH said he would eat any that were wonky or wrong, as long as they had cream and chocoloate on them,,,, hes word " someone has to do it" :rotfl:
ok toughies
hang in there, batten down the hatches, check the ropes and have a good sleep, see you in the morning.
X CC

GreyQueen

Morning all.

Thanks for the compliment, SQ, I fell guilty about not keeping up with my vaiorus online "places" even if this is the only forum I've ever joined. Crazy, isn't it?

monnagran, fuming on behalf of that poor fellow but not understanding how a 6 week sanction, even an undeserved sanction, led to the loss of his bedsit?

If you have a change to a DWP benefit, they automatically notify the LA paying the housing benefit, who then put the claim into suspension (because they can't calc a means-tested benefit without knowing the means) and write out to ask the person what their income it. If it's nil, it's nil, and they only have to sign a form to confirm nil income and the HB comes back into payment.

I have had myself to claim HB in a period of nil income when a DWP letter advised they'd stopped my benefit several days before the letter was received. I took the letter straight to the LA who was paying my benefit and just signed the Nil Income Declaration at the desk.

Assuming this guy was signing on, and had paid in for 30 years, he would have been on JSA, yes? So he would have been on full HB, not paying his rent out of the JSA? And a bedsit would have been rented out under an assured shorthold tenancy (if it was a bedsit and he wasn't a lodger, the key determinant is does the landlord live in the same accomodation) then the LL would have had to take him to court, proven 8 weeks rent arrears, then get legal possession, then get an eviction order and a court bailiff appointment to enact the eviction.

All of that doesn't equal out in 6 weeks. Something doesn't add up there. If he was put out without due legal process, he needs to get to the housing advisors at the local authority quickly. Ideally, he would have gone to them as soon as he was in difficulty. If you meet him again, please urge him to go for help.

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Go that MONNAGRAN, hope that you can both come out of the meeting feeling like some of the obstacles have been moved aside and with a clearer pathway in view to your futures. Life is so unsettled when you can't see or even guess as to where the future is taking you. Hoping for a positive post from you later on, will be thinking of you today and adding my mite to the prayer mountain, Love and Hugs Lyn xxx.

SDG31000

I'm just popping in to offer hugs to everyone that needs them. You are all such strong, remarkable and incredible women and I am in awe of you all.

(((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm still coughing and keep losing my voice, but am at the stir crazy stage of being ill. I have my first appointment with the practice therapist today and I don't know if I'm feeling sick because I am so nervous or because of all the yucky stuff I'm still producing.

I'd better get moving, so bye for now everyone xxxxxxxxxxxx

mardatha

When TPTB are being pigs and dead set against you then at least you still have your mind and your gob. Let them have a piece of each!
I spent yesterday playing with sugar scrubs - never liked the thought of rubbing myself with sugar, it sounded sticky and disgusting - but they are gorgeous. Is probly TMI for you, but the RV has treated his skin to a Mangomania sugar scrub :rotfl::rotfl: Well if you have no kids handy to experiment on, husbands are the next best thing eh?
What do you eat with Med roast veg? I got 3 packs from asda because I thought it was freezable and it isn't so we have to eat it all this week.
And can I ask how you all think Farmfoods compares to Aldi? Since everything is so far from me, I can't just pop in and out of shops and pick the best bargains, it has to be a planned trip and has to be worth it.

Pooky

Morning all

I'm full of beans this morning...it won't last long I'm sure.

Mar - sugar scrubs sound lovely. As for FF/@ldi....FF is mostly frozen stuff with lots of biscuits and junkie stuff cheap. No where near the range of stuff that @ldi stocks. I don't tend to buy their frozen veg as the value supermarket ranges are cheaper but they do have good deals on things like chicken breasts (3 large bags for £10) stewing beef/pork steaks/gammon steaks etc. I think a frozen large chicken was £3.99, huge turkey crown was £9. We use it now and then to fill the freezer.

DD2 is still dying with her cold, it's hit her really hard. Never mind, the paint fumes with open her sinuses later (bathroom painting today)

katieowl_2

Morning all...Market yesterday was quite busy, considering it was pouring with rain horrid standing under a drippy cover for four hours.

DD called me when I got back and said the tumble drier they were given has stopped blowing hot air, and that she had piles of washing, and if I came and got her so she could use my drier, she'd wash up the market stuff for me So we did that, and she's dissapeared off with my Lakeland heated rack to sort out some more drying, I've just folded a pile of baby stuff to drop back to her later. They need to sort a drier. It has to be a condenser though, cos they've not really anywhere to run one otherwise.

My mum is sending me some money, to stock up both the DD's & me with storecupboard stuff - so when I got a code for £15 off a £60 shop from Mr T online, I thought Oooooh. When the post came yesterday, they'd offered DD one too...double ooooh. We've split the shop between me and her, used both vouchers, and got in effect £24 worth of extra shopping!!! :T Didn't even have to drive LOL!

DS is back at college now, so I got up at the crack of doom to drive him in for the bus at 7.20 but OH staggered down and said he was taking him, I was a bit p.o. because there was not really any point BOTH of us getting up Grrrrrr. I could have had a lie in if he'd told me he was going to do it :mad:

Anyway. Got a friend coming tonight, we are going out to hear a talk about a nearby archaeological dig, we'll also go for lunch tomorrow. Got to go and get the B&B ready for her to stay in.

Hope all have a good day!

Kate

ArthriticOldThing

Good morningeveryone. Thanks for the information Pops.I like Nottingham and its small enough for me to walk around but hilly.
I’ve beenvery ‘down’ since came home though and had a few tears. I go to Nottingham tovisit my youngest son, who never comes to visit me, and stay in a hotel. Thistime have been so hurt by his attitude, its as if he can’t be bothered with me.I never intrude on his life or interfere, its just I like to see him now andthen, but he didn’t seem to want to meet me even for a couple of hours and whenhe did he was anxious to be away. And, although he knew I was struggling witharthritis, he didn’t phone to check had got train ok or reached home oranything. I know it sounds trivial in comparison to the things others have tostruggle thru but has really upset me. I don’t know what to do now, don’t thinkI’ll go again. The travelling is getting harder for me in any case.
Sorry to havewhinged on.