The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kezlou

Fuddle :j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j

monnogran :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

nutty :mad:

molly i'm so sorry hun. your poor dad and mum

Sorry i haven't been on, just been through the emotional wringer and needed to run away for a bit.
I've had my black dog chasing me like i don't know what, the little booger just won't shove off.

Saturday we just stayed in and chilled out, we had film day so had some naughty £1 pizzas, ys chicken goujons and made spicy potato skins with chips and dips.

Really proud of ds1, he did the m'boro 3k and came out with a medal . OH did the 3k with him and then the 10k straight afterwards. So both of them were shattered, so thats Sunday gone!
Myself and OH had a naughty ys £2.99 supermarket takeaway with a £1 little bottle of pear cider each and sat and chilled in front of tv.

Monday was a trial in itself, took me ages to get ds2 to school, he was in a right state again. He's been sleepwalking again and his accidents have been getting worse. Just waiting for his bed to dry out so i can make his bed.

We had our first coffee morning which was good. I was panicking like mad but it went well. After went round town with LA and had a really good laugh.After she left i met OH and we took the lads to Morrsions for they tea before an arranged meet up with the local charity i volunteer for. Its a monthly catch up for us and the kids to play in a play centre thats just for them. THe whole place is rented out for 2 hours and the money from the parents paying covers the cost. Its all non profit for the charity. We ended up paying £8 for two adult main, two childrens meals, all drinks and packs of fruits for the kids!

OH dropped us off at the play centre while he went to a seminar.
Got in there and met my friend sparkles and two other lovely peeps (K and V) and chatted for the whole two hours with them.
The witches of eastwick were there, but i totally ignored them.

they caused havoc and really upset K's children, ignored sparkles and V simply because i was chatting to them. Evil swines, honestly you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. V doesn't know whats happened over the holidays and she was shocked at they behaviour.

I feel terrible as they getting all this carp because of me. They treating them this way purely because i speak to them. It just isn't right. today i went to the charity meeting and got picked up by K and V. Found the witches have been awful to K and she's sick. V asked what happened and i said its all my fault. K was fuming and said it is not, they just ignorant so and so's and i'm not having it. V said to me, er no, i don't know what's gone on, but from what i've seen tonight before you even turned up they was tension.

So i'm still apart of the steering group for the charity i have been told in no uncertain that i'm not allowed to leave as i'm too nice a person. I create a nice atmosphere for the kids and no matter how severe the disability and how bad the autism is all the kids like me because i talk to them like people rather than just ignoring them.

Saw the counsellor today and told everything that has gone on, she said she was very proud of me for restraining myself through everything. She also said echoed princesses words and said i shouldn't be worried.

ginnyknit

Congrats Fuddle - new life starts here!

Nuttyp, life is hard but you got through it again, well done hunny. xx

Stilty you have lots to sort out but Im sure between you both you will find a satisfactory solution, dont rush too much and it will come to you how best to do it. meanwhile we are all here to listen and support ... thats the royal we as Im sure many agree with me

Kezlou, sending hugs. It sounds as if everyone is now seeing what you see about the nasty women , you wouldnt be getting all this support if you were not right. Im so pleased about your DS1 getting a medal - well deserved.

I think we all need to be kind to ourselves at the moment and enjoy little treats here and there, whatever they may be as life is tough and a lot of outsiders seem to be resentful and jealous of our happy little families forgetting how hard we all work to make them happy.

My DGs has just had to go to anew childminder as his old one doesnt cover the school he will be going to, so there were tears on Friday when he did his last day. However the childminders in Dd's area all work together so the changeover was smooth and he fell in love all over again with his new lady. He has come on in leaps and bounds the last few weeks and we now have a conversation of sorts and he is becoming able to tell us when somethings wrong :j Its becoming a little easier every weekend when he stays here, even bedtime was stress free this week.

Well i had best go and finish what I was doing...wont mention I was knitting a santa cos that would mean you all think of the C word and shout at me :rotfl:

GreyQueen

:j Great news, Fuddle, I'm chuffed for you. :j

kezlou

stiltwalker your doing an amazing job!!

We have that every morning, your doing the best thing just trying to distract her Thats all we do.
On the bus ds2 either plays on my phone,kindle or my gem bracelets. otherwise he gets all freaked out.


oops theys all kinds of carp going down with the witches. Now everyone can see what they like on the page. They still having a go because they couldn't be bothered to make they make they way to the steering group. Instead they complaining because they not being picked up and taken back home again. The rest of us just make our own way there. I'm so angry :mad::mad::mad::mad:

Breathe kez just breathe

monnagran

Fuddle: PHEW!!! Great sighs of relief. Start collecting cardboard boxes and packing up stuff that you won't be using again this year. It will make it seem real.

Stiltwalker: Good Heavens! It was bad enough trying to get 2 ordinary, got-no-problems boys off to school in the mornings. Goodness knows how you manage. I take my hat off to you, I really do. Where do you get your stamina from?

Just waiting for my last batch of llittle cakes to come out of the oven. Yes, I know but I've been playing catch up all day and today is going to be worse. I'm on Lunch Club duty first (fruit flans for 60 please Joy.) Then a group of us are going to look at a disused church to see if it's possible to move all our activities there if all continues to go pear shaped at the church. Just time to dash home and change before the big celebration service that the Rev's churches are putting on for her to say 'thank-you' for all she has done in the four years she has been here. I think it is a bit premature as she is here until next July anyway, but they say they will do it all again if necessary. So that it today taken care of.

I could really do with a bit of boredom.

x

boultdj

Yippee! to tje good news fuddle.

carlymummy

Hi everyone,
Great news Fuddle, hope you enjoy planning for your new start
Kez sorry to hear you are still having problems with those women!!! You are a better person than me, I certainly wouldn't have been able to restrain myself or keep my mouth shut :0
Now a Warning - ****RANT****
Well I think I spoke too soon regarding school and my youngest **sigh** when I went to pick him up last night the teacher asked me to pop inside and have a word whilst in the background I could see the TA holding DS by the arm
Anyway she said that the headteacher wanted to have a meeting with me and the 2 teachers (they jobshare) after school on Wednesday (as in tonight) but DS has speech therapy and I will be collecting him at 12pm anyway and won't make it back in time to collect middle DS, I also felt that I might like the option to have my DH in there with me, I don't like being railroaded and felt a bit like it would be 3 against 1 if you see what I mean although that might just be me and my thoughts. I asked what the meeting was in relation to and she said his behaviour so I asked behaviour such as (at this point I was thinking he had been violent or something, my heart was beating so fast) she replied he is not compliant, he won't sit on the carpet with the other children and didn't like getting changed for P.E and he ran off when they asked him to line up on the playground now bearing in mind he is 4yrs 4 mths has speech issues possible Dyspraxia and it is his 5th fulltime day of school EVER am I being unreasonable thinking that a meeting called by the head with a view to a behaviour plan may be a bit premature :eek: I just feel sad to be honest, in the meantime I have made an apt with the GP although they can't see us until the 30th Sep As I can't meet with the head today and now have a bit of time to 'prepare' what do you all think?
She mentioned they think he might be on the 'spectrum', as he doesn't like loud noises or people/peers in his personal space.
I think I may ask them to set up a home school diary so I can see exactly what they are classing as 'unacceptable behaviour'. Sorry for the rant everyone I could just sit and cry how I feel at the moment, the worst thing is DH didn't want me to start him in Reception yet he wanted me to Home Ed for a bit so I feel very alone now in my decision to start him at school x

FairyPrincessk

Morning all,

Kez--oh, I will the Witches of Eastwick would sort themselves out! In the mean time, sounds like you're making the best of a tough situation.

Stilty--big hugs. It sounds like a big decision.

Carlymummy, Your expectations of your child are reasonable. That is the age group my mum teaches in surestart (slightly different to what is in the UK, for children with disabilities or difficult backgrounds) and she doesn't expect them to have settled into a routine like that for awhile yet. Furthermore, her response to a child not complying on so many levels is that there is something else going on and to see what kind of help she can find for the child (or what she can change about how she engages the children). I don't know what is meant by a behaviour plan, but if she is thinking that he may be on the spectrum, perhaps she means a plan where they pursue assessment to see what he may be struggling with and and find some alternative options and resources for him? If not, then that is what I'd be demanding! Remember, if your child has particular needs, it is the job of the school to accommodate the child, not the other way around!

Right. Yesterday was crazy busy. The good news is that I got plenty of teaching this term to help pay bills and build our savings back up after this summer. Of course, I won't get paid until the end of October, so I'm still skint for Stockholm, but I'll feel less worried knowing my teaching has come through. I also got some extra hours on a study skills course that I'm very excited about. I really love teaching first year students, and in particular helping them to find the things they love to do and how to navigate the University system and make it their own. While it is more hours away from my thesis, it really does make me feel good about what do and I think that is so important.

I also managed to pick up some dye, although I probably won't get a chance to use it for a few weeks as I've now got training when I get back from Sweden, and all sorts of meetings next week.

Right, off to finish off the last of my work for this week and then start packing.

Hugs to all who need them.x

cuddlymarm

Hi Carlymummy

I don't post often but just wanted to send you a little support. Four year olds in my eyes ( my boys are 26 and 30 ) are still babies and all grow up in their own time. If the school think they see a problem maybe it is best to deal with it sooner than later. If your little one does need a little help at school don't beat yourself up about it, try to think positively and accept it. You are doing a wonderful job but you don't have to do it alone. You've got here to vent and voice your worries.

Hope you don't think I'm interfering. All mums worry. It's our job.

Cuddles

alfsmum

Morning all, dull and grey here . Have put washing out but not sure why I bothered as rain due later. Maybe I'm a bit optimistic....

FUDDLE, yay, delighted for you and your family. Now you'll be able to tell your sis and aunt how pleased you are they they will be on hand to keep an eye on your Mum as you have to move away with work :j

STILTWALKER, hope the routine is running better this morning. It must be a constant struggle so please offload and moan if it helps. We may not be able to do anything practical but we can listen - or read and it often helps just to express the worries rather than keep them bottled up, then you can move on.

KEZ, I don't watch the soaps but it sounds as if if you've got more than your fair share of 'baddies' to deal with. Thankfully you have friends who share your views to help you. Perhaps the witches will get fed up and move on to bother someone else? Not that I would wish them on anyone....

MRSLW, so glad your lady got her purse back, must have been a terrible worry for her. Nice that you were there to help, good on you.

CARLYMUMMY, your little one is on a baby still at four. It should be the school seeing what it can do to help him in conjunction with you so try not to worry too much. Take OH or a friend if you can so you don't feel ganged up on and write down your concerns before you go so that you don't forget anything you want to ask.

NUTTYP, hope everything gets sorted at work, take it easy if and when you can.

MONNAGRAN, 60 fruit flans ???. Aaghh....hope you get a few minutes of that boredom you need

POPS, hope you're keeping well and able to get out? Think the east of the country has had some rotten weather lately?

I can report that I made my first visit to the recently opened B&M yesterday. Was chuffed to pick up some food bargains, 4xBranston Baked beans at £1.25, don't think we will see the 4 for £1 again, a double pack of dd16's favourite cookies for less than half the price of a single pack in the SM and with a long BBE. Downside is that I got a couple of packs of Spec**l K savoury flakes at 79p a pack and DH and I munched our way through a pack while watching the Bake Off. I must not buy snacks, I must not buy snacks.....Dd18 was discussing diets with her BF's Mum who has got under 12 stone now and keen to lose more. They were speculating how much I weighed, Dd said she didn't think it was more than 10 stone. Didn't know whether to laugh or be offended as I am 8 stone 2, and the 2 is the result of all the scones Dd has been bringing home from work. They must think I have very heavy bones :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ah well, duty calls. Have a good day all and be kind to yourselves, you deserve it.