The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

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VJsmum wrote: »

Oh Fuddle, how awful for you


I am not sure someone like that will see sense - and certainly not through anything you can do, they have to come to it themselves. I wonder if cutting all ties is the only way to keep yourself sane. Lynne would be better for this than me as she has experience but I think your mother may have to be left to her own devices, you are banging your head against a brick wall.

Sad for you

Cutting all ties is the best and only way around it, yep head against brickwall is all it is.........

Lifes stressful enough , let her do her own thing .......I definately wouldnt bother with her if she was my mother, no way would I let my children see what drink does to a family...No way........Life definately is too precious and short .............................

Right outside I go, ive got to paint the summer house , ...Sheila

alfsmum

Yay! So proud of DD18, triple distinction in her results today and place confirmed at Uni to study adult nursing next month. Just wanted to share :T

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ALFSMUM what a triumph, you must be so proud of her and she must be over the moon, huge congratulations to all of you and good luck to your DD on her career and time at Uni!!!!! Celebrate and have fun, Love Lyn xxx.

Possession

Mr Molly needs to stop barking at the foxes, then he won't get woken up.
Good A level news here - my nephews both got As, so hopefully they will be getting into their chosen universities. One of them was convinced he'd messed up a maths paper badly, but obviously not. Fingers crossed for everyone else expecting results today.
Edit: Great news AlfsMum!

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Brilliant news POSESSION, one very proud Aunt I guess? Huge congratulations to them both and the very best wishes for thier futures at University, well done, Cheers Lyn xxx.

FairyPrincessk

SDG, so lovely to hear from you! I'm glad you're settling in to the medication. It sounds like a very stressful time, but best of luck to your eldest.

Fuddle, I'm sorry to hear about the past few days. I think you've done the right thing--protecting yourself and your daughters. I also think you've done the right thing by your mum by refusing to support her disease. In refusing to see her, I really think you've done the best thing for her, showing you believe she could be different than she is now. Until she decides it is time to address the disease, she is allowing it to take over who she is and you and your family do not have to put up with that. For the record, I moved school about 5 times (not counting when I simply moved up to another school). Yes, sometimes it was a little hard moving, but in the long run it meant I got loads of interesting experiences and I saw my parents working hard for a better life. Don't worry, the girls will be fine.

Oh Molly, I'm sure it isn't funny but I did have a laugh.

Well done to all of those with results today. I'm so please for those who have gotten what they wanted so far and fingers crossed for those still waiting!

nlj1520

I don't think I have posted on this thread before and haven't read back, just needed a place to post my anxiety. Sorry if that appears rude.............it's not meant to be.
This afternoon we have a BBQ planned at my son's house. He is autistic with learning diffulties and behaviour which challenges. The BBQ is to celebrate what a wonderful year he has had (and overall he has). There may be up to 12 guests including him and me and his support. Only it's raining. And there is NO WAY he will cope with that number of people in his home. If it was bright and sunny we could all spread out around the garden, but that's not looking likely.
Also yesterday was a 'twitchy' day for him with some self-injurious behaviour and I wonder if it's linked with today's event.
Now I will be the first to 'abort the mission' if it looks like he's not enjoying it or it might trigger a challenge, but the lead up to it has me a jibbering wreck. Not sure why, but am feeling twitchy, sick and very very panicked. Wish we'd never planned the damn thing!
It's supposed to be a happy event, but I know from the past that these things can go terribly, terribly wrong (hence the plan to abort at the first sign of a problem).
am packing up my air bed as I plan to spend the night there, and the stuff for the BBQ and just wish I could say 'NO I CANNOT DO THIS'. But don't want to deprive him of the opportunity of showing off how independent he now is and enjoying good company.
SO I must gird my loins, accept that he will do what he will do and we will deal with it and stop being such a woos.
Thank you for listening and any prayers for sunshine over Milton Keynes late this afternoon gratefully accepted.

SDG31000

DS1 has passed his theory test and has celebrated by vomiting all over the back of the car :eek: Guess who has found out just how far last night's toad in the hole can be spread and what nooks and crannies it can get into. Three buckets of disinfectant filled water and half a bottle of frebreeze later and DH had to go and collect his exam results.

DS1 has got 2 As, 1 B and 1 C for his AS results :T:T:T

Now I just need to deal with the sick covered clothes and a clogged bath drain. _pale_

Well done Miss alfsmum and Possession's nephew :T

FairyPrincessk

nlj, I'll be thinking of you. I do hope that things go well, and above all that your son is happy with the way things turn out today. Please come back and let us know how it all goes. Whatever the result, it sounds as if you're doing your absolute best to ensure your son has everything he needs as that you do whatever you can to give him a good life.

Hoory SDG! And my sympathy about all of the sick:(

Possession

Well done Master SDG (on the results, not the vomiting!), but you are having a day of it!
Fingers crossed for your son nlj, I hope for the best.