The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

camelot1001

Well said Mrs LW.

I don't know what the argument is, nor do I need to know but it is very sad that folk feel that they can no longer be part of this lovely thread.

[Deleted User]

Good morning Toughies, this is going to be an extremely difficult post to write and I hope will not be seen as accusatory but it has been flagged up to me by a couple of different members that a facebook group has been set up and people are being invited to join it with the puropse of forcing at least one regular poster off and away from the thread. I'll not name anyone but if you have joined what is an infant school playground 'gang' than you should be ashamed of yourselves as we are all allegedly adults at least in age but perhaps not in behaviour. I don't do facebook so I have no way of varification but the very idea that such manipulative and spitefully wicked things could happen amongst what I consider to be a group of good friends and good people makes me nauseous. A couple of years ago a male member recently joined after the death of his mother and very distressed was witch hunted and a campaign was run against him which DID end with his leaving permanently and I really do think that once for that kind of behaviour is once too many, you have free choice in what you do and I urge anyone to think very caferully before actually participating in anything quite as distasteful and unacceptable as this. I have been mulling over for most of the night whether to actually put this post up today, I hope I'll be forgiven by the board guides and this is not meant to be agressive or anti anyone but knowing that this is happening I just didn't feel I could let it run without disclosure.

candlelight_2013

Lyn, well said. As you know I rarely post on this thread but I am so sorry this has happened again.

I do not have a F**ebook acct, and my grandchildren laugh at me because I call it the work of the d*v*l. When I have my nails done I listen to the girls talking and it almost seems that anything can be said about anybody. I assume some people feel they can say this sort of thing if they are not face to face with the person concerned.

I hope everything settles down again because I do enjoy reading.

Take care

Candlelightx

Nargleblast

Well said Mrs LW! I don't know the full ins and outs of what has been going on, other than what has been posted on here, and you know what? I don't give a monkey's. It has no relevance to my or anyone else's struggles in daily life. Twitface and all that malarkey has a lot to answer for, these social media sites are sometimes used as outlets for the socially dysfunctional, and grown adults start behaving like kids in a school playground.

If a person decides to stop posting here that is up to them and nobody else's business, however, if any people have truly been doing the Twitface witch hunt stuff they should grow up and get a life. I was sorry the chap you mentioned left the thread, that too was appalling how things he posted were twisted and how he felt he was no longer able to post. It is no wonder some folks in the forums think there's' a snooty clique going on here if this is how people behave.

This is and should remain a supportive thread for adults interested in OS stuff, and playground antics have no place here.

And on that note, have a good day, OS peeps!

kezlou

I have had quite enough of this, will you both stop acting like children.

I am many groups on Facebook.
Yes I have created a group and it is a closed membership but anyone and I mean anyone can join.
One of the reasons I set it up is because my family are on there and guess what if I wrote for example of my father's dementia it would very quickly spread and that's it my father would be hounded for money, his house broken into the lot. So I know other people from here on Facebook who know my situation and I felt I could chat to them that way and at the same time they could chat like wise. There is no ousting or money saving. No nastiness has been said about anyone. They is no playground mentality, no attitudes or show downs.


The group itself has I think has been set up for less than 24 hours. It is OPEN to ANYONE.
I haven't invited you fuddle because I have blocked you on my Facebook page for well over a year, I can't see your profile and nor do I wish to.

I am not creating sides as that is such an awful thing to do. I have always been open on here.

A male member recieved an extreme amount of abuse from fuddle. I apologised to the male member perfusely and ask about his welfare.

This is why I felt I couldn't post on here Sheila because of the vicious gossips.

I'm sorry for upsetting any one but this is a vicious attack any more fuddle and I am reporting you to the police. I don't know how many times I have to warn you but you are psychologically torturing a person who has severe mental health issues.

Now for goodness sakes back off and stop making a show of yourself.

Pooky

This is now utterly daft.

Yes, there is a FB group recently set up. It is not a secret group - it is a closed group (more about that in a bit)

No, it hasn't been done with any bad intent, just a group of people that chat regularly on this forum (not just OS) have got together to chat, whinge, moan and generally offload about their day/life/cat/dog/partner/aches and pains.

Yes it is a closed group and you need to be invited to join - in FB terms that means that you're not being spammed by 1000's of people trying to join, you don't have to have admin set on the page to approve every post and you can post pictures etc without them being seen by everyone on your own timeline. Facebook groups work like this. I belong to maybe 20 other groups related to MSE and they all work the same.

If anyone that's on here would like to join the group then pm me - I shall point you in the right direction. It's an instant and easier way for many of us to stay in touch. It doesn't exclude anyone.

For those of you that don't have FB and don't want to join the group then that's entirely your choice, as is those that have joined it and any others they are involved with.

This forum and this thread has brought together a lot of like minded people, lots of whom I consider friends. I'm happy to share a bit of my daily life with these friends.

Whilst I'm hurt that anyone would consider this thread or any other group as being part of a playground gang, I'm not going to waste any more of my precious time over it.

My life is complicated enough as it is.

[Deleted User]

Oh is it you Kez? no one mentioned a specific name to me and just the idea that anyone could set up anything for such a purpose made me feel very uncomfortable. I'm sorry that we always seem to be poles apart in our thinking and how we see the world. I'm surprised that Fuddle didn't flag it up to me but a couple of other folks who were uncomfortable with the concept did individually. I'm sorry to be at outs with you over anything and of course if it has family things on there is a need for privacy, very understandable in that case. I hope this is just a storm in a teacup and will end now. No offence intended to anyone but I felt we need to move on from personalities and couldn't think how to achieve that easily, hence the post.

peony40

If all the above is really upsetting me, surely I cannot be the only one? It is enough for me to now stay away from the board, but I hope others are made of stronger stuff than myself and remain and get the thread back on track.

My best wishes to you all.

[Deleted User]

If I'm the cause of distress and to the extent of people leaving the thread in discomfort and distaste I'm very sorry for it. I dislike injustices and try very hard to find the right words to diffuse situations. To actually be causing distress by doing this is contra to the aims of posting here so I'm very happy to drop out if that would help and leave people easier in mind and let the thread poddle along in peace without me. I seem to be spending an inordinate amount of my time here in one way and another and the idea of taking a break from it all has an appeal particularly if I'm causing angst and not helping soothe fractures.

Please don't put any 'thank you's on this post it's not thing to be thanked and doesn't need comment.

Nargleblast

Used correctly, in the spirit it was intended, social media can be useful for social interaction and keeping in touch with family and friends. Like anything else it can also be used for evil purposes as well, sadly, and it is that side of it I find disgusting. I hope we can get back to normal, with no nastiness or cattiness, and all support those who need support.