The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

savingqueen

glad you have got the mammogram over and done with ginny, hope all goes well for tomorrow's appointment.


Glad you are ok SDG, shame about the drier but at least you were there to turn it off. I never leave the washing machine on whilst I'm out (and tried not to when we had a tumble drier and dishwasher) - big fire risk. DH thinks I am ridiculously cautious about this (and other things) but I don't care, sometimes I am RIGHT!


I know several people (adult and little) who have disabilities, health conditions or other stuff to contend with and so many people just don't get it. I could give so many examples, including personal ones but I would be here all day. Thank goodness not everyone is like that and society is on the whole becoming more understanding and accepting, long way to go though. I feel it is my duty to challenge people whenever I am able to.

savingqueen

Hope your DS has a lovely birthday silvasava.

chickens11

Kezlou....That there wrist of yours sounds terribly painful, (I said that in my Suffolk accent)........Hope you manage to rest it ......
Saving Queen.......Yes I know what January and February is like , are you on your anti depressants ..?....
Mrs Stilty.....So sorry to hear your bad news on MIL, Its no good looking for good news when it sounds like you and hubby have prepared yourselves for the bad news, you know it doesnt sound good by her symptoms , I hope you are able to sort things out so you can visit her while you have a chance too, but its noteasy at all for you with the 2 children , take care ....
Ginnyknit....I quite agree with you about how painful mammograms are , but its a must to have done .......
Nursemaggie...You certaintly dont have anything to feel bad about ...
Nutty....So glad hubby is back at work , hoipe all goes well for you both...
I hope I havent forgotten anyone with troubles, a lot of of us seem to be suffering one way or other , its that terrible time of year again January /February are the worst months in the year , well I think so, so much gloomy damp weather , if the sun shines our problems seem less , if that makes sense to you all...........

I feel guilty feeling so well and lots of people here are ill and have so many family problems , I will light my candles in a few mins for all the "sickies" and say a little pray..............
SDG...The white knight tumble dryer is rated very good and they are the cheapest dryer you can get , around £140, which is good, I had to have another in October after my old white knight died ob me, I only finish my towels off in mine to keep them soft , so my dryer doesnt get used too much..........
Ive got my fire alight just me and the dawg in the sitting room , it helps keep the GCH off by just using the one room of a night......Im well in credit with my gas and electric , and the coal im burning was paid for at "summer prices" and my wood is free ......

.I notice since hubby has been in the nursing home since May 2014 that my water and sewage bills dropped dramatically so I should be able to save on the fuel bills too.......

Went to hospital yesterday and my surgeon was very happy with how my foot is healing , although my appointment was at 3 pm and id been on my feet all day my foot was swollen around the heel and painful , nothing that a couple of painkillers wouldnt cure .....
I think we are all in for some really rough windy weather in a day or two so take care everyone...Sheila

monnagran

Stilty: have only just come on and read your horrid news. Oh, my dear! As if your life wasn't difficult enough. I do hope that your DH will be able to get down to see his mother enough to please them both, and I am glad that there is family living nearby - it does help to share the load. I don't know if it will help but I always found that when preparing any children for the imminent departure of grandparents it was essential to emphasise that this is something that happens to very old people. Children's one fear is that their parents will disappear and need lots of reassurance that their parents are younger and healthy (fingers crossed) and will be there for years to come. Of course this doesn't work in all cases but in this case it might. Forgive me if this is so obvious that you feel insulted by me mentioning it. Like others on here, I feel desperate to do something to help but realise that there's not much any of us can actually do.
Loads of hugs for your whole family.

Had a lazy day today but must get into gear tomorrow and find a suitcase - not to mention look out some decentish clothes to take away next week. I just hope that we don't get any real winter weather until we are safely back home.

x

maryb

Stiltwalker, so very sorry. Will pray for you and yours

stiltwalker

My wonderful online family - how I love every one of you! Please excuse the soppy but not one real life so called friend has offered support (although my own mum a tower of strength for both of us) so to come on here and read such encouraging messages is worth way more then it's weight in gold. DH welled up as I read out the couple of offers of a bed if need be.


We must all have been good as the prayers and good will from the tough thread seem to have helped and most recent news is a little more positive. Ovarian cancer confirmed (but no further mention of liver) currently undergoing more tests to decide whether to operate or whether they need to try to "reduce" first (if MIL decides to go for that - she has always been resistant to the idea of anything to prolong, as 'twere). Hopefully BIL is telling us the full story (he has form for being less than forthcoming) but DH is looking a little less harassed tonight, which can only be a good thing. I'm hoping that as the docs have suggested invasive methods for an 81 year old that we are looking at a worthwhile prognosis - it's just so frustrating being so far away and having to rely on BIL for info.


Once again thanks for all the support - H x

kidcat

Oh stiltwalker thats sounding more positive. So pleased for you all.

kezlou

Stilty what great positive news !!!!

So pleased

stiltwalker

As for small people arriving precipitously! - I wish!! DD arrived by urgent c section after induced labour of 30 hours(waters broke pre labour). Opted for VBAC for DS as didn't want to not be able to lift DD for 6 weeks after he was born as she couldn't walk or even pull to stand (due to the Jouberts syndrome) he was another induced birth (2 weeks post due date) and ended up being a ventuse cap delivery with significant tearing and bruising to me - even the midwife winced when she came to check up on me!

savingqueen

Glad you have received your MIL's results and they are more positive than you all feared stilty. Still a tough time by the sounds of things but hope is a wonderful thing and positive thinking too. Will be thinking of you all lots and sending daily hugs.
I am so annoyed on your behalf about your RL friends - I am hoping that maybe they (of some at least) ARE thinking about you both but not sure what to say/worried about saying the wrong thing so are doing nothing.


thanks Sheila (can't call you chickens!), I am taking the ADs though unofficially cutting them down very slightly as I worried that the Doc will want to take me off them at some point and I will go into a panic then. Its not just the weather for me, (although I am sure that affects me too) its the wider family stuff- Xmas, then my birthday in Jan and DH's in Feb. The hurt and rejection I feel seem to climax around now, everyone talking about who they saw over Christmas and asking me about ours, I am finding it so upsetting but trying not to show it as I don't want my friends to walk on eggshells and not tell me about the important people in their life. My 2 closest local friends have both lost parents in the last year or so and I need to take their feelings into account too. I haven't told many less close friends about the estrangement in both sides of our family as I think some people may judge me and I am not yet strong enough to shrug it off. Sorry everyone didn't mean to offload, I can't seem to get my act together this week.