The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

ginnyknit

Stilty, never say you are whining or I will come over and thump you - and I know where you live :rotfl: you are amazing but sometimes you are tired or in pain and its understandable. After DGs has been my bad shoulder hurts like a bu**er and he is mobile! Thats fine because I only have him part time but you do it day in and day out so Im pleased that someone has realised you need help. By the sound of it your littlies are real troopers too xx

I would love a stairlift for hubby but more for putting the washing on and running it up and downstairs

stiltwalker

Have thought about that Molly but apparently the kids fall into that grey area where they need assistance but they are considered too young/too mobile to require equipment! - May have to look into charity funding or maybe the next fundraiser (as charities will no doubt say it should be statutorily provided if needed). Not even sure that its a postcode lottery either, a friend in another area who has an 8 year old with the same condition as mine but who is more severely affected has just been turned down for a hoist???!!!!

Hoping that some physio will sort me out for now and maybe get myself to the gym to do some back strengthening exercises.

Thanks for your concern though - it is appreciated X

ETA - love the mental image Ginny!! Can just see your washing zipping up and down the stairs!

Sarah2490

Thanks for the warm welcome

I used MES, mainly debt free wannabe a few years ago and have been successful in clearing 11 of my 15k debt :j Need to knuckle down now and get the last 4k gone so I can build a more stable financial future for my little people

I am newly separated form my husband and this has sent my life into chaos with surviving form morning to night a battle some days :embarasse but there are more good than bad days now so that's one thing!

I don't mine the 'mess' so much it the running out of pj's for the kids or never getting round to hoovering that is the problem :eek:

PRINCESSX87

@Sarah,
Its hard enough in life to just live. Therefore you must consider which is more important to you and deal with that one thing at a time.

This is the path i'm learning - Before hand i was rushing around trying my best to make everything perfect...But for other people, Resulting in my own needs & wants being pushed aside. Lucky my partner understands that i'm the type of person who will do anything (within reason) for anyone. Sadly, This has led me down a tough road so in theory i'm trying to rebuild my life to suit us!

We're still burying our heads in the sand as to just how much we currently owe, Off the top of my head is must be around 10K. Which we moan about alot but once i came here & relies that others have far much more serious issues that their "DEALING" with, It gave OH & I a much needed kick up the rear!! :eek:

Hopefully you'll get loads of information, support, advice and shoulders here should you require them!!

siegemode

Sarah2490 wrote: »

Morning all

I am hoping to join your lovely thread, if that's ok?

Life is very tough and a big mess right now and I don't really have anyone to talk to or much support in life so feel alone

I'm a 30 year old recently single mum of 2 with financial worry, a very messy house and a very unorganised life...I'm such a catch lol

Welcome :wave:
They're a lovely bunch here, but hard to keep up with at times. So much friendly chatter and advice that you'll never feel alone. I guess things look bleak at the mo and perhaps a bit scarey but you'll find loads of support here and will feel empowered soon I'm sure. My house is a mess in some peoples eyes especially mother's, but it's clean (not spotless admittedly) but I call it the lived in look

mardatha wrote: »

After our recent war, I am pleased to declare victory. An Armistice has been signed and I GOT MY WAY ;) Have opened a savings account and am planning a HOLIDAY for next year. The RV doesn't do holidays - but next year he is bloody well going to take one and like it!

Glad you won, I have one that doesn't do holidays:( Thankfully I had worked in travel before meeting him so kind of got it out of my system and travelled far more than most. I wouldn't mind a few days away, but the best I'll get is a day out.
Never mind we have each other and that's what's important. We are so different, but rarely argue even though we are together 24/7 in a very small house. Truely blessed I recon :j

PRINCESSX87 wrote: »

@Sarah,
Its hard enough in life to just live. Therefore you must consider which is more important to you and deal with that one thing at a time.

This is the path i'm learning - Before hand i was rushing around trying my best to make everything perfect...But for other people, Resulting in my own needs & wants being pushed aside. Lucky my partner understands that i'm the type of person who will do anything (within reason) for anyone. Sadly, This has led me down a tough road so in theory i'm trying to rebuild my life to suit us!

Sounds so familiar. I've had to be really tough at times over the last year or too in saying no or leaving others to work stuff out or cope. It's been difficult and I've felt awful and mean, but we have decided that our first responsibility is to ourselves and if energy and resources permit then we can help others. My instinct is to immediately do what I can and forget my own problems or wellbeing. So many have taken advantage in the past though and no one seems to be there for us. Still I don't always say no and will never see anyone suffer if I can help.

Possession

Personally I prefer the lived in look, although I aspire to a few clear surfaces. I don't want the kids to feel they have to keep it a show home but equally I want them to pick up after themselves. I remember having a friend at secondary school, and her house never had a thing out of place, not even a newspaper on the coffee table. She was an only child and her parents were older and her mum was a SAHM who cleaned and vacuumed every inch every day. It was a very odd, and not very homely atmosphere in her house - there needs to be a happy medium between that and chaos!

[Deleted User]

Welcome sarah don'tworry about the mess happy kids are far more important When they grow up they will remember cuddles far more than shiny surfaces Your life will only get better now and one day at a time honey ,we are all hear when you need to have a rant or a moan and no one will think the worse of you .You are doing the most important job in the world bringing up children and hold them close to you and tell them how much you love them everyday Thats whats important not a hoovered hose Dust will always be there, but your children won't
Take care
JackieO xxx

nuatha

ginnyknit wrote: »

Stilty, never say you are whining or I will come over and thump you - and I know where you live :rotfl: you are amazing but sometimes you are tired or in pain and its understandable. After DGs has been my bad shoulder hurts like a bu**er and he is mobile! Thats fine because I only have him part time but you do it day in and day out so Im pleased that someone has realised you need help. By the sound of it your littlies are real troopers too xx

I would love a stairlift for hubby but more for putting the washing on and running it up and downstairs

Stairlifts are wonderful, ours gets used at least as much for moving things up and downstairs as by Herself. Thankfully I'm back to managing stairs the majority of times, but wouldn't be if I had to carry stuff up and down them.

Sarah there's a lot of amazing folk in here.

Stiltwalker if the powers that be have decided the littlies are still a grey area, ask for a referral to the Moving and Handling Team, they may end up being able to provide sufficient additional evidence to tip the balance, or may be able to point you towards other equipment and sources of funding, they certainly should be able to show you safer handling techniques for moving the kids.

VJsmum

ginnyknit wrote: »

Jem not everyone can use Mum and chainsaw in the same sentence, she sounds like a real trooper though :rotfl: Hope she doesnt create too much havoc.

I bet GQ could

siegemode

Hi,
I'm feeling really peed off and silly as it sounds I feel like crying. I've finally caught up and had written a fairly long post about my wk and some responses to others. I pressed submit and I was asked to log in and the whole lot has been lost. The words don't always flow and I have to correct things often and having tried to share and lost everything I feel really down to say the least.
Anyone know why this happens and what I did wrong:(