The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

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Morning Toughies, why is it that you can do a very good job of getting your home clean and tidy before going away for a weekend and come home to an absolute wreck? I adore He Who Knows, really I do, but he is the most untidy being I've ever come across. His idea of housework is to make piles of things, lots and lots of piles and to sweep the floors, not vacuum, just sweep, even carpets and dusting is unknown territory. This is by the way not a complaint, just eons old mystification at the different approach to life between the male and female of the species!!! Guess what I'll be doing today!!! Have just got the first load of laundry through the machine and off to change bedding and get that sorted too as it looks like it might be a nice drying day. Delved deep into the freezer and found some nice YS cod fillets which I'll wrap in proscuttio and oven bake, was going to be breaded fish but these are oldest in date.I'll serve them with basmati rice, peas and oven baked tomatoes which will be nice but light. I'm going to make a big effort to clear some of the YS items I've got stashed in the freezer to make room for this years crops, I'm aware that it's still running really full with bargains from the winter months and last years tomatoes and we really do need to use it up. Have a nice day everyone, Lyn xxx.

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Monna surely not a year since your last jaunt abroad? Must be! I think it's about time you got your rev in check dearest Monna so pleased to read you've all been together and enjoyed good times.

Lyn goodness gracious - poor you but no one can keep a home like a homemaker eh? I dare say He Who Knows thought he had done enough t keep you happy bless 'im. Hope you're finished now. It is a good drying day - beautiful in fact!

I have had a busy 4 hours collecting scripts and delivering meds, shopping and a few domestic chores. I feel shattered! About to go pick up youngest then we will walk to store to pick up some fruit and eldest from netball club.

DH is collecting the second hand pine chest of drawers this evening. I can't wait to have my bedroom organised!

Just had some part baked baguette for lunch (Brie and chutney) so going to make the rest into garlic breads for tea which will be gammon and salad.

Got to go post our rental agreements - just signed for another 6 months. Time flies!!

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Yes it is a beautifly drying day isn't it? all flapping gaily on the whirligig in the garden. All better now indoors, it doesn't take long to sort it out once you get going does it love? I can't believe it's been 6 months already, gosh just look how far you've come since then not just in the house but in your job and everything else too, smashing stuff, yes? Hope the pine bedroom furniture comes out just as you want it to, it will look so nice when it's finished and then be home for you and just the way you want it!!!

PRINCESSX87

Hi all.

Been a crazy few days which has gone past in a blur. I can honestly say that one more thing might actually break me.

Oh: Is better, Managed to get back to work today. However, All weekend he’s been complaining, in pain & still having the occasional bleed. Now we believe that a infection might have started. Swelling has finally started to go down (One side) and he’s managing bigger portions of food. (Still soft like mash ect)

Dad, got his results back today after a long three weeks and when I say results, They all come back inconclusive. So, Now he has been referred to a specialist. BUT….Because he is stupid, old fashioned, even a moron, He is now refusing all and everything to do with further testing / treatment. He’s made me so angry and upset over the past few days. I want to say enough is enough, But I cant. Because I know deep down, somewhere he is just as frightened.

I am meant to be quitting smoking and getting my fertility results back this week. But I have nothing left to give. I just seem to have had so much going on with the people I love recently I am really considering just giving in. After all, I don’t seem much help to anyone. Instead, I am biting peoples heads off, Falling out with people left - right & centre.

Anyways, Got to make a start on dinner prep. Sorry for the long rambling post. x

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PX87 your dad just needs a bit of time to get his head round the inconclusive results, he's probably been convinced that it was going to be the worse case scenario and this has thrown him off balance, he'll need to take this in before he can go forward, don't worry too much, it's too important for him to just stop and do nothing else, wait and see, he'll be off to the next step soon. Yes you're angry and after all you've had to cope with over the last couple of months who wouldn't be? You've been holding everyone else in your heart and going through all the emotional gamut with them, it's no wonder you're feeling out of sorts with the world love. I'm sure that without you there being the support that you have been all of them would have been in a right old pickle. You are a good and supportive little person lovie, you always step up to the mark and you do everything that you possibly can to help, you just can't DO it for them, you give freely and you care about each and every one of them, you can't do more than that!!! You're OK you are, one of the good'uns!!! so hold your little head up and keep on keeping on cos' you can and we know you will!!! Hugs, hugs and more hugs Lyn xxx.

FairyPrincessk

Princess that is such a big load for one person to carry, and you've been doing it with such grace for so long. Don't even think for a moment that you don't do any good, you love and care for everyone around you the best you can--if that comes through on here then I know it comes through to some of your nearest and dearest. It is a tough time for the whole family.

Your dad will come around. Give him a few days and then maybe gently broach the subject--offer to go with him if you think that would help and let him know you'll be there in his corner no matter what.

Most of all though, great big hugs to you. I wish i could offer you a nice cuppa and a bit of time to just sit. This hard time where it feels like one thing after another will eventually pass--there may be some hard times ahead yet but you will pull through!

paidinchickens

p87 of course you are biting peoples heads off you've had a lot to cope with, tired and run down would be an understatement. The fags have to be the right time to stop or you will just put more pressure on yourself that you just don't need x

Pyxis wrote: »

PIC - sorry to butt in, but was wondering how things were with the neighbour situation?

Well, I haven't seen the woman next door but one but the fella who started shouting at me is a bit strange. He speaks sometimes and then doesn't others depending who he is with. He saw me coming the other day and turned round dragging his poor pooch behind him (Alfie likes my dogs and wanted to see his friends) and the other day he walked passed saying hello like nothing had happened. They're all crazy .........


Hubby is still very sore about being blamed for everything and I've said just say hello, good morning but if they ask for anything tell them we have ran out, we're going out or some other polite excuse.

I think they are just sitting and plotting about the next thing. The widow woman is now complaining about the trampoline in the garden behind her but she is a nice as they come when the fella climbs over the fence to let her in (as she keeps locking herself out) and he cleans her car for her and she doesn't complain then. I really don't like two faced so I would like to keep away if I can..........sorry rambling again

I've got a strawberry bed dug today thanks to the rain last night

PiC x

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PIC just smile a lot whenever you see them either alone or together, smile and walk away smiling. They will be so worried about why you're smiling, they will leave you alone in the future. Ask me how I know this works?????

paidinchickens

Lyn How do you know this works prey tell?

greenbee

paidinchickens wrote: »

Lyn How do you know this works prey tell?

They probably think she's mad PIC. Have you noticed how miserable the majority of the population look most of the time?!