Taking off wedding rings?

katrina001

I took mine off straight away. My ex still wears his, 2 years on...

squidgeum

I kept mine on for 8 months after finding out he'd been serially cheating on me with women he met on adult websites. Four weeks ago, despite him swearing he was 'done with all that' and 'realised how seedy it was', I discovered he's never actually stopped it.

The wedding ring came off and the divorce papers went in.

Unfortunately my wedding ring was my dead Mum's, so I could never part with it, but what really upset me was when they kept my Marriage Certificate at the divorce court!!

kjmtidea

piglet74 wrote: »

I am married (very happy) but I don't wear my wedding and eternity ring as they don't fit anymore (see sig !) But some of the gossip-mongers in work have been saying that they think we have split up.. (Hubby works away a lot.. Far to much in fact! But is currently looking for a new job) whereas I would never even notice if someone was wearing a wedding ring or not

I was amazed at the amount of people who noticed when I took my engagement ring off because of weight loss. Everyone seemed to think that we had split up :rotfl:. I would never notice this on someone else but then someone could chop their head off and I wouldn't even see a difference.

pigpen

I wore mine for around 2 years after he left.. mainly because I had worn a ring on that hand for so long I felt naked without it so I kept it on.

I bought myself one of those 3 band rings which I now wear instead.. after 20 years of wearing a ring on that finger is was uncomfortable and noticeable that I was not wearing it. However, the number of people that asked if OH and I had married was mad.

I had also been wearing his ring for months before he left too.. I took that off after I got myself a ring to replace that too

I have my engagement, eternity and wedding ring and his wedding ring in a box in my knicker drawer.. I really liked my engagement ring and would love to still wear it but I don't because it would feel strange to me and I wouldn't want to upset OH even though he says he doesn't care.

pigpen

squidgeum wrote: »

what really upset me was when they kept my Marriage Certificate at the divorce court!!

I was really !!!!!! that I had to buy a replacement as I couldn't find the original.. it was the only time I had ever been asked for the darn thing too!

paulineb_2

My mum wears a ring on her left hand even though shes not been married for a long time. In fact she wears 3 gold bands I think, one is my grans wedding ring, my gran died 2 years ago, another might be my grans engagement ring but Im not sure.

Tbh, you dont need to be married to go into a relationship with someone you think you are going to spend your life with, Ive been in one relationship where I did think I was going to spend the rest of my life with the person and I was absolutely devastated when we split up.

Ive never been married so obviously I dont know what its like when you actually vow to be with someone for the rest of your life.

But, there are people who split up and get back together, including people who are married and get divorced and remarry.

Nothing is set in stone and yes I am sure some couples split knowing that they will never ever even dream of making a go of it.

But personally, if I liked a ring that much, Id wear it on my right hand or Id have it made into another piece of jewellery such as a necklace.

Taking your rings off might hurt, but lots of people get hurt, very hurt and they dont all have a symbol of that relationship in ring form.

Its up to people what they do going forward, but if theres a way to make a ring into something positive going forward, rather than just leaving it sitting in a box, then Id think about it.

zzzLazyDaisy

I wore my wedding ring until I felt ready to date again - even though it was my decision to leave. When I did take it off my hand felt so naked that I went out and spent some time choosing a lovely gold ring with a blue stone which was my commitment ring to ME.

I don't know what happened to that ring, but then I don't know what happened to my wedding ring either. It's around somewhere.

I don't think I could ever wear a ring on that finger again now - it would feel like being 'owned'.

Pollycat

squidgeum wrote: »

Unfortunately my wedding ring was my dead Mum's, so I could never part with it, but what really upset me was when they kept my Marriage Certificate at the divorce court!!

I hope in time that you'll see the ring as belonging to your Mum rather than associate it with the nasty experience you had with your ex - he sounds a jerk!

mintymoneysaver

We separated about 15 months ago. Ex had already taken his ring off, he'd lost loads of weight and it didn't fit anymore. Mine stayed on until about 3 months later. I'd organised a big girls' night out for my birthday as a sort of celebration of how well I was coping, ( It was amicable, but as Marisco said I was devastated that my marriage couldn't survive) so I decided to take it off for that night, as a bit of a statement. Then I just never wore it again. They're in my jewellery box now, and my girls can have them one day. When those rings were put on my finger there was love and hope and a future there, so they still seem 'happy' to me, and I want my girls to think of them like that too.

tyllwyd

RupertTheCat wrote: »

I've never put mine on! I've been married for 9 years now and have never worn either my engagement or wedding ring. Whereas my husband, who didn't want a ring in the first place, refuses to take his off. Rings don't mean a thing to me, but it's interesting they do to others.

I'm another person who doesn't wear a ring - I don't wear jewellery, but I did wear my engagement and wedding rings for a few months, but when my DD was born I didn't like taking them on and off to wash my hands when I was changing her, so I took them off and since then I've put on weight so they don't fit. I don't think I've ever heard anyone comment that I'm not wearing a ring. (My husband also doesn't wear jewellery, and I'm not sure he's ever worn his except on our wedding day.)