holiday vouchers whilst on dla/dca

raq

Pollycat wrote: »

My view is that if the OP meets the requirements of the FamilyFund then they have every right to apply & get a break.

It is, after all, a fund to help disabled children.
It's not just giving some Joe Bloggs a free All Inclusive fortnight in a 5* Spa resort in St Lucia.

So the OP is in debt.
So the OP uses Clinique.
So the OP bought a Samsung tablet for Xmas.

So what?

Maybe the tablet helps the OP's child's development.



As long as the OP is dealing with her debts, what business is it of anyone else?

Instead of having a go at the OP - who is only considering applying for something that she (as a parent of a disabled child) may or may not be granted - why not direct your ire at the organisations who allow such things to happen.

My inlaws kindly bought the children their tablets for christmas.

Can,t believe I,m explaining myself on this site but I will
Who isn,t in debt this day and age !!! We are in debt as we converted the attic for our ds to have his "OWN" room and space which was much needed

Nobody has a clue on this site about the whole of peoples backgrounds and I am not one to spout of about it.

We are working people and I have worked since I was 15 and have put hell of a lot of tax into this country for the past 30 years and still is.

As someone mentioned, other people take it so we thought we would look into it.

raq

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Does that make it any better?

I think that is even worse.

In previous posts the OP talks about hotels for Legoland, having a recent loft conversion, buying a new tablet and using premium beauty products... Yet wants a charity to fund a holiday.

She needs to get her priorities straight!

AND we all need to stop acting like it's OK to take advantage of the "system" - it's not!

Oh dear me Tiddlywinks, Just sent a post regarding our situation

Your another person who spends far too much time on digging up previous posts.

This site was once excellent but starting to think otherwise.....

raq

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

The OP has described (in other threads) her son as being "mildly autistic".

Firstly, I accept that autism brings challenges but let's not go overboard about how much the OP might need to treat herself or how much more difficult her life is as a result.

People face challenges everyday... some see them as part if life, others see them more "opportunistically"...

Would you like me to list what "NEEDS" our ds has on a daily basis even though he is "mild autistic". ??? Really don,t mind listing them for you.

Gather you are very fortunate not to have a disabled child to care for 24/7

raq

Pollycat wrote: »

I suggest you check out the FamilyFund website before bandying about words like 'want us to pay'.
That's 'Simples'. :cool:

You have no idea what the OP's life is like - neither do i but I'm not on the 'dependency culture' bashing bandwagon..
Maybe the Clinique is the only little luxury she allows herself - and if she is looking after a disabled child who are you to say she should forgo that?
Maybe she does put her child child's welfare and needs before her own and does understand that - first and foremost - she is responsible for her child's care.
She's applying to the FamilyFund, not the State!

I think you are confused - we are not talking about benefits here.
I read a lot of posts on the Benefits board and certainly don't condone the 'dependency culture'.
I dislike posts that try to get round the system - for example someone who's thinking of moving in with a partner but wants to keep their benefits - but this is different.



I suggest you take this advice;

Oh yes, LEGOLAND>

Middle son,s 9th birthday in April... Again was looking but was expensive so we didn,t end up going.

Again, this was an enquirey

Dogger69

raq wrote: »

My inlaws kindly bought the children their tablets for christmas.

Can,t believe I,m explaining myself on this site but I will
Who isn,t in debt this day and age !!! We are in debt as we converted the attic for our ds to have his "OWN" room and space which was much needed

Nobody has a clue on this site about the whole of peoples backgrounds and I am not one to spout of about it.

We are working people and I have worked since I was 15 and have put hell of a lot of tax into this country for the past 30 years and still is.

As someone mentioned, other people take it so we thought we would look into it.

Could you ask your inlaws for help with your holiday, rather than asking for help from a very limited pot of money, that could be helping people with no other source of help?

Perhaps you could post on the Debt Free Wannabe board for help with managing your outgoings, and the Health and Beauty board for cheaper alternatives to your current products? I have saved a small fortune by changing my cosmetic brands.

raq

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

This is totally one of the reasons I have given up posting and asking for help. They try to twist and catch u out and make you feel stupid for asking. Intimidate you and at worse send horrible pms to you. I have found this forum lately to be vindictive and horrible. i cannot believe that people are allowed to get away with it. They go and check all your previous postings going back years and then pull you apart. i am sorry but i read and offer advice when I can but i have totally given up on posting any questions or threads myself... :mad:

Hi Pinkladyof66

Feeling exactly the same way. As previously mentioned, this was an excellent website but sadly no longer

x

raq

Dogger69 wrote: »

Could you ask your inlaws for help with your holiday, rather than asking for help from a very limited pot of money, that could be helping people with no other source of help?

Perhaps you could post on the Debt Free Wannabe board for help with managing your outgoings, and the Health and Beauty board for cheaper alternatives to your current products? I have saved a small fortune by changing my cosmetic brands.

Thanks dogger69

Our inlaws are really good, helpful people and they did help us over the christmas and recently when my hubby lost out of some work. ( thankgod back to normal now ).

They would give you their last penny but we don,t want to ask on this occasion.

Tiddlywinks

raq wrote: »

We are working people and I have worked since I was 15 and have put hell of a lot of tax into this country for the past 30 years and still is.

As someone mentioned, other people take it so we thought we would look into it.

Both working? For the past 30 years? Really? Do you really think you have paid in the equivalent of the healthcare, tax credits, free school meals etc that your family claim and will continue to claim? Not forgetting future pensions etc.

From your other posts, you are minimising your tax bill, keep saying how little your OH earns etc... You clearly aren't paying in as much as you are claiming / costing.

I understand there is a welfare safety net available and I do not begrudge that... BUT I do find it unpalatable that you feel it is ok to apply for a charitable handout to subsidise your use of must-have Clinique and your loft conversion... And then justify that by saying that other people do it so why not join them.

Person_one

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Both working? For the past 30 years? Really? Do you really think you have paid in the equivalent of the healthcare, tax credits, free school meals etc that your family claim and will continue to claim? Not forgetting future pensions etc.

I wasn't aware there was a requirement that we all had to pay in as much as we take out.

I certainly haven't, I've been working since I was 16 but I've definitely had more benefit from public funds than I'll likely ever contribute, most people except the very highest earners do I would have thought.

raq

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Both working? For the past 30 years? Really? Do you really think you have paid in the equivalent of the healthcare, tax credits, free school meals etc that your family claim and will continue to claim? Not forgetting future pensions etc.

From your other posts, you are minimising your tax bill, keep saying how little your OH earns etc... You clearly aren't paying in as much as you are claiming / costing.

I understand there is a welfare safety net available and I do not begrudge that... BUT I do find it unpalatable that you feel it is ok to apply for a charitable handout to subsidise your use of must-have Clinique and your loft conversion... And then justify that by saying that other people do it so why not join them.

We have NEVER claimed school dinners

We don,t abuse the nhs system. If you remember , ( troll back to my previous posts ), I sprained my ankle in april and didn,t want to waste the precioustime of the nhs staff at our local hospital.

OH is on low money hence why I have , and wanted to may I add , is now working whilst the children are in school.

As as my post stated 10 minutes ago the loft conversion was for our ds space. With all the cost and people letting us down last year this eventually was finished and has been well worth it to see our ds in his own room.

Not being racist or anything but have you seen the amount of people coming into this country over the past 10 years and not paid a penny into our country and claiming everything they possibly can. I see and hear it just in the local school alone, never mind the council offices and so forth.

I would leave it there if I was you.