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Take Illegitimate sone on holiday abroad

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  • ValHaller
    ValHaller Posts: 5,212 Forumite
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    peachyprice wrote: »
    Illegitimacy it is a more polite was of saying b'stard .... It really is not a nice way to describe your son.
    The trouble is, how do you express this in a single word other than clumsy circumlocutions such as 'my son whom I fathered with a woman to whom I am not married'.

    Whatever word you use, the horror of the situation described is going to dominate the perception of the word and there will never be an acceptable word.
    You might as well ask the Wizard of Oz to give you a big number as pay a Credit Referencing Agency for a so-called 'credit-score'
  • geoffky
    geoffky Posts: 6,835 Forumite
    Wow..FLASHBACK...1970s...
    Just use the word my son who i have no relationship with the mother..
    It is nice to see the value of your house going up'' Why ?
    Unless you are planning to sell up and not live anywhere, I can;t see the advantage.
    If you are planning to upsize the new house will cost more.
    If you are planning to downsize your new house will cost more than it should
    If you are trying to buy your first house its almost impossible.
  • Person_one
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    pearl123 wrote: »

    What a terrible expression. I would have hoped that word would have died out sometime in the 60's and 70's.

    It did, these days people just say 'son', the OP is a bit behind.
  • harrys_nan
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    For goodness sake, the op has said time and time again that the child IS his son, he only used that word to explain, why dont you all back off now??
    OP, I hope you have a smashing time time with your son, just get written permission from his mother to say your allowed to take him with you and that she gives her permission to oversee any medical problems that hopefully wont occur. You do sound a lovely dad x
    Treat other's how you like to be treated.

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  • gibson123
    gibson123 Posts: 1,733 Forumite
    SavingPennies wrote: »
    Give the OP a break, he has explained himself enough times!

    Exactly!! some people just can't get a break
  • gibson123
    gibson123 Posts: 1,733 Forumite
    edited 11 June 2013 at 9:58AM
    Marker wrote: »
    Why haven't you added your name to the birth certificate yet? If you and the mother are civil enough for her to accept your child support AND take him on holiday I don't understand why you don't add your name.

    None of your (text removed by Forum Team) business, the OP asked a simple question, either answer the original question or !!!!!!.... why are so many people judging him. Good grief!:mad::mad:
  • Gloomendoom
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    Person_one wrote: »
    It did, these days people just say 'son', the OP is a bit behind.

    The OP was just trying to clarify why he was wondering if he might have difficulties.

    No need to get any big baggy PC knickers in a twist.
  • Jojo_the_Tightfisted
    Jojo_the_Tightfisted Posts: 27,228 Forumite
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    antdon wrote: »
    Sorry, I dont get this reply... 'I word'???

    I do have 'parental responsibility' and I take this very seriously(this is why I pay this child maintenance and have him at weekends)
    And this is why I am showing concern with his wellfare while on holiday

    If you have PR, you won't have a problem consenting to treatment.

    It'll make life less stressy if mum just provides a note with her contact details on it saying she gives consent to the holiday and any necessary medical treatment, keep it with your passports and if anybody asks, it's there.

    But they rarely ask.
    I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.
    colinw wrote: »
    Yup you are officially Rock n Roll :D
  • Errata
    Errata Posts: 38,230 Forumite
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    edited 11 June 2013 at 9:58AM
    I suspect it's probably because the word hit a nerve with some people.
    .................:)....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    Gloomendoom wrote: »
    The OP was just trying to clarify why he was wondering if he might have difficulties.

    No need to get any big baggy PC knickers in a twist.

    I suspect you have a very specific mental image of me...
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