Take Illegitimate sone on holiday abroad

antdon

Hi All

I have an illegitimate son and am considering taking him abroad for a holiday.

I have a good understanding with his mother...
I provide monthly child support directly to his mother
and have hime regulary at weekends...

But I am NOT on his Birth Certificate and was not married to his mother.

His mother would not have a problem with me taking him on holiday, but I am concered with the legal implications... I.e.

Would I be stopped at the airport ( I have a different surname)?
If he needed medical treatment while abroad would this be a problem... ?

Any help or comments would be gratefully recieved...

Troutwrestler

I would think that as long as you have his mothers consent you can take him abroad, I'm not sure about the medical treatment issue. My daughter has been abroad with her gran before ( different surnames) and no one batted an eyelid

Toto

As above, as long as you have the mum's consent then there is no problem. Get something in writing and make sure he is on the travel insurance in case of medical treatment being needed.

I find the term illegitimate makes my toes curl, it's so outdated and insulting. Please don't use this term to describe your son to his face. If my dad had spoken about me in that way I would have been deeply hurt.

I hope you all have a lovely holiday

antdon

Thanks for the reply...

I didnt think the airport would be a problem

But, (god forbid), he needed medical treatment while abroad would they accept that an illegitimate father has the right to 'consent' for treatment

shelley_crow

I imagine that they would do what was medically necessary in an emergency situation while trying to get hold of his mum over here.

I agree with above poster, I wouldn't like to be referred to as illegitimate either! Horrible, horrible term to use about someone.

antdon

Toto wrote: »

I find the term illegitimate makes my toes curl, it's so outdated and insulting. Please don't use this term to describe your son to his face. If my dad had spoken about me in that way I would have been deeply hurt.

I agree...
And I would never use this term to his face...
But it does best describe the legal position...

I would have loved to have my name on his birth certificate, but it just wasnt possible at the time... (very long story)

shelley_crow

antdon wrote: »

I agree...
And I would never use this term to his face...
But it does best describe the legal position...

I would have loved to have my name on his birth certificate, but it just wasnt possible at the time... (very long story)

So you weren't married at the time your son was born and don't have parental responsibility for your son. Job done, no "I" word needed.

ostrichnomore_2

Not really relevant to your original query, but it is possible to have yourself added to birth certificate even if mother will not cooperate.

antdon

shelley_crow wrote: »

I agree with above poster, I wouldn't like to be referred to as illegitimate either! Horrible, horrible term to use about someone.

I agree... and thanks for the reply

But in the future I dont think it will have the same stigmaa attached to it... After all the divorce rate is 50%
So there is now a substantial percentage of the young population that is illegitimate....

But, He IS my SON.
And this is how he will always regard me...

I have only used the term to indicate the legal problems

valk_scot

I don't like "illegitimate" either, but what is the correct term nowadays? "Natural" son? Is that still used nowadays? Or is it simply "my son?"

peachyprice

antdon wrote: »

But in the future I dont think it will have the same stigmaa attached to it... After all the divorce rate is 50%
So there is now a substantial percentage of the young population that is illegitimate....

Illegitimacy it is a more polite was of saying b'stard It has nothing to do with divorce and you do not become illegitimate when your parents divorce.

It really is not a nice way to describe your son.