Real-life MMD: Should I shop my brother over his scratchcard win?

Fitzmichael

You should tell your brother to pay up and that you will ask your sister if he has. If not, you will either warn him again and give him enough time to pay before you tell her, or you will simply tell her she ought to ask for her money, without saying why.

rochdalefan

Tell him that he should tell her cause she's bound to find out anyway. She might be understanding and only ask for part of what he owes her. Either way he's still up if she asks for all of it back

DigForVictory

I love the £300 for keeping quiet idea.:D
Perhaps after the "tell her before midnight or I will" blackmail.

Either way, you are being stuffed into a really awkward position, so share the discomfort around.:mad:

And of course, don't lend him tuppence yourself in future. You've just had copper bottomed proof he's a bit unreliable...

itch_for_a_glitch

Anyone who doesnt prioritise debts (especially to relatives/friends) is an 4rse.

A friend of mine lent £500 to a mutual "friend", he hasnt spoken to him since, the borrower later defaulted on his mortgage, went bankrupt, disappeared abroad, returned, got a two bed flat on HB/CTB and now earns the bare minimum to keep his benefits maxed out. Cash in hand work keeps him in beer/cars and entertainment, scumbag.
£500 quid is a handy amount now, he borrowed it over twenty years ago.

goldtop

If his sister finds out which is likely she will likely never lend him any money again. After a year it doesn't sound as if he ever plans on paying it back anyway.

Barryfan

He should at least tell her about the win and let her decide whether she wants any of the loan back. If he's unemployed I would think it would be more important for him to keep some of the money to pay his way. Bit selfish of him to want to spend it all (or the majority of it)

Clueless969

Wonder who else he owes money to?

I'm of the cruel to be kind school, the brother needs a wake up call and it's better to come from you than the school of *really* hard knocks called the loan shop.

You need to remind him that he's not spending his own money but money that he's borrowed from his sister and so to not pay her back is morally indefensible. Then, set a realistic deadline for him to sort things out with her and, if he doesn't sort things out with her within that time, I think you are morally obliged to tell her.

If this is the way that he treats his sister, he's a total rat and deserves a swift and rude awakening to the real world. If he's old enough to buy scratch cards, he's assumed to be an adult but is behaving worse than a spoilt child.

adouglasmhor

itch_for_a_glitch wrote: »

Anyone who doesnt prioritise debts (especially to relatives/friends) is an 4rse.

A friend of mine lent £500 to a mutual "friend", he hasnt spoken to him since, the borrower later defaulted on his mortgage, went bankrupt, disappeared abroad, returned, got a two bed flat on HB/CTB and now earns the bare minimum to keep his benefits maxed out. Cash in hand work keeps him in beer/cars and entertainment, scumbag.
£500 quid is a handy amount now, he borrowed it over twenty years ago.

Probably nearly worth £500 to get rid of him.

Clueless969

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Probably nearly worth £500 to get rid of him.

If only one could be sure of that result. Personally, I wouldn't want a relative (or anyone) to borrow from me, have the money to pay me back - let's not forget that this money is a windfall - and not offer to do so before spending it on other things.

Valli

Having given this some thought I would consider which sibling I most wanted to 'please' as it were; so the sister, who happily lends £300 would 'win'.

I'd tell my brother I would rather he repay his debt to her and tell him I had no intention whatsoever in conniving with him not to repay her.