The remaining parent?

tayforth

That was a very touching post, zaksmum. Thank you.

You raise an interesting point. I had always thought of it in this way:

We still have our mum, and I'm pretty sure that it'll be harder to lose her than Dad (if she goes before us). You see, supporting Mum gave us a purpose when Dad passed away. If it were just us left, I could see us falling apart completely.

Even the thought of it makes me feel horrid, right in the pit of my stomach. I hope that my mum is with us for many years to come.

My mum is obviously coping better than your dad did, though. I can't imagine how terrible it must have been for you to see your dad like that xxxx

heartbreak_star

I feel like I won't have anyone when Mum goes. I'm an only child and don't have or want kids. Since the loss of my Nan and Dad there's only been me and her. I know I will have my OH, but it will be strange.

HBS x

red_devil

anymore for me to read.

cannyscot_2

nottslass wrote: »

My Mum was widowed after being with my dad for 50 years.

They were extremely happy and still very much in love.

How did she cope ?

Well she decided that as she'd been happy once,there was no reason not to be happy again and started internet dating at 70 (much to our amusement & embarrassment) she met a lovely bloke and spent a happy couple of years with him untill he died suddenly.She them met another great chap whom she spent 4 years with until she sadly died last year.

She wasn't lonely or needy,she just "wanted someone special to share the beautiful things in life with".

In addition to this she spent time traveling,going to kenya on safari (alone)only eight weeks after my dads death,her reasoning for going were "i need to prove to myself that i can still do it". She also went polar bear spotting somewhere in the Arctic, and oh she also spent 3 months in Peru volunteering in a children's daycare facility............

She also heavily involved in her local community and church,had lots of friends and interests,including micro-gliding on her 70th birthday !!She would also be quite happy to take herself off to the theater alone if she fancied seeing something no one else did.

This was despite receiving palliative treatment for secondary cancer,during one of her last conversations with me she said "well dear,I'll die with no regrets and I'll have achieved everything n life that I wanted to"..............

My Mum was Amazing :A

Wow! that is amazing! If my hubbie goes away for a week I am useless and we have only beeen together 25 years. I am going to try very hard to remember this . Lovely that she could make you feel she was happy to go with no regrets -I hope that made it better?

cannyscot_2

No I genuinely will be useless I am sitting here sobbing after reading zaksmum!