Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

balletshoes

Yes as i,ve said before, lots and lots of assumptions from just about everyone, including the OP.

Calien27

LannieDuck wrote: »

I really, honestly don't think the OP would have gotten a different response if he were a woman. I'm half tempted to start a new thread just to test it... but that would be a little obvious right now :P

If the the shoe was on the other foot and the dad had gone off to Vegas, the replies from me would be the same unless the dad had a history of something like getting blind drunk and passing out, but then if the ex in this case was like that I would very much be on the OP's side as well.

There's no indication that she's a bad mum when she's at home so there's no reason to believe she'll suddenly become one during a five day trip to Vegas.

aliasojo

miss_independent wrote: »

.....he just wants to know where his kids really are and if they are being well cared for.

The kids are with their Mother, not some stranger, he has no reason to believe she wouldn't care for them properly.

I do think the bloke loves his kids and does care for them but this is about him and his ex biatching at each other more than anything else. you get back what you give out, she lied for a reason. Imo. Which I expect I've shared more than enough. :rotfl:

Calien27

[quote=[Deleted User];61530679]OP - With you all the way on this one.

Ignore the 'girl power' wolfpack that a lot of posters on this forum seem to be part of.

Imagine if genders were reversed. You can guarantee the same posters would be going on about the 'evil man' sneaking his kids away to marry some 'slapper' and how the poor mother was stuck at home worried sick.[/QUOTE]


Nope.

If the dad had no history of being a bad parent (as the mum in this case doesn't) it would still be the same.

The parent wants their kids at their wedding, nothing "evil" about that.

You really shouldn't assume how posters would react if it was reversed. Also there is no "girl power wolf pack" the majority of posters on this section just happen to be females and quite a few in this thread have agreed with the OP.

silvercar

The ex-wife should have said she is going to America, moving around so no address to give and supplied a mobile contact number. OP would have been none the wiser. Why the need to construct a back story?

Dunroamin

miss_independent wrote: »

Working with families in crisis and even just from personal experience, having parents of different nationalities who went through periods of seperation, I know all too well that this kind of thing happens. My sister in law objected to my parents paying for my brother to take the kids to Disneyworld because she felt she "couldn't compete", not realising it wasn't a competition!

But - OP has stated there wasn't an issue. They have been seperated for 6 years, he is settled, she knew he was happy about her new relationship and he is pleased they got married as he feels that the children will have more stability and a family unit. We don't know the history of this family at all. People have painted him as a control freak when really he just wants to know where his kids really are and if they are being well cared for. There are two sides to every story but if he was that controlling surely he wouldn't have given her permission to take them out if the country at all.

Not saying this about you LazyDazy but too many people have made assumptions on this thread .

The OP may have stated this but other things he's said don't really back it up. This probably explains why many people haven't beiieved him.

FatVonD

I don't believe for one moment that the mother forged documents, I think she probably did fly to Florida and LV is a side trip. The OP only offered up the '5 days' once it was clear the thread wasn't going the way he intended (including trying to 'control' who could post and what they could post!) before taking his ball home.

janninew

Calien27 wrote: »

Nope.

If the dad had no history of being a bad parent (as the mum in this case doesn't) it would still be the same.

The parent wants their kids at their wedding, nothing "evil" about that.

You really shouldn't assume how posters would react if it was reversed. Also there is no "girl power wolf pack" the majority of posters on this section just happen to be females and quite a few in this thread have agreed with the OP.

oh the irony in saying don't assume! the vast majority of posts on this thread has been just that - assumptions!

FatVonD

paulineb wrote: »

Im certainly not part of any wolf pack. Nothing to do with girl power as far as Im concerned.

'Tis all part of the derogatory name calling 'to discredit everyone who holds the opposite opinion to you in one fell swoop' ploy that is sadly all too prevalent on these boards of late.

Get with the programme, Paulineb

peachyprice

janninew wrote: »

oh the irony in saying don't assume! the vast majority of posts on this thread has been just that - assumptions!

If OP hadn't been so cagey there wouldn't have been any need for assumptions, but very few details were actually given, and those that were were given with a view to paint himself in a favorable light and his ex less so.