How to sack a childminder? new one hired

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OMG !

I started reading this post, before you mentioned the reason for wanting to sack your CM, and have only looked at it again today.

I have to say that I have been in a similar situation, abeit with my MIL. When DS1 was a baby MIL looked after him whilst I worked PT. We would always unbuckle the car seat and leave it with her everyday, and I made it clear that I wanted the chair used.

Four months into her looking after him, I popped in on my way to a meeting to discover them driving out the yard, with DS1 on the front passenger seat persons lap.

Now I must point out that this was not in this country, and the law there was very relaxed about car seats etc, but I did my nut, and immediately removed my son from her there and then.

For months I never went back to my in-laws and I was terribly upset as my MIL is and was fantastic with babies (he was 7 months) old. I cried my eyes out everytime I thought about it. It strained our relationship for years, but at the end of the day I know I made the right decision. My poor husband was stuck in the middle, he supported my viewpoint, but it was also his mother.

It took us about 10 days to find a CM thereafter, and hubby took DS1 to work with him everyday (his boss was lovely) and then every Friday too, as CM didn't CM on that day, for about 6 months.

OP, you have already taken action with Ofsted and can only wait for that to follow through, but when your child's life is put in such danger you can only take him away immeidately (which you have) and tell the CM the exact reason, and if you affend, then so be it. Rather let her noise be out of joint than your child in a hosiptal bed or worse !

traciekan

simple she hasnt met the terms of her contract by not meeting her insurance terms ie srapping him to to a secured car seat.

AnnieH

O M G *big sigh*

Hubby has now fallen out with me as he doesn't think it was necessary to take the matter any futher than to remove or son from the CM.

As far as he sees it, our son isn't going any more so we don't need to worry about it any more. I don't really agree with his "I'm all right jack" attitude, but it makes for a very uncomfortable atmosphere at home at the moment.

Can I please have some reassurance that I did do the right thing, cos I'm feeling pretty terrible at the moment:(

MummyOf1_2

Hi, i had problems with my childminder, she put my son to sleep in a buggy when he was far too big for it, never took him to park or toddler groups and took him in the car WITHOUT a car seat or even asking me for permission, i had had enough and basically ended the contract, i said to her i wasn't happy and said at the end of the day YOU are responsible for my son during these times, imagine if i had treated her kids they way she did my son?

She always had some excuse and i just got up and walked out, with regards to writing a letter to her i would forget it. whats the point? it won't make a difference, she's probably just lazy and so you'd be best to go the right route by putting a formal complaint into the police etc Take your son out from her and contact whoever regulates her, in scotland its the care commision and they will decide whether she should be de-registered.

It is absolutly awful to think that they can do it day to day but just be glad that you know about it now than something happening to him.

Good luck and

alwaysonthego_2

I would complain to ofstead too if I was in your position. Imagine if you did nothing and a child died whilst in her care. you would blame yourself.

My niece had a problem with her cm, she used to take her in her husbands work van, sit her and the other children in the back

2005CLAIRE

AnnieH wrote: »

O M G *big sigh*

Hubby has now fallen out with me as he doesn't think it was necessary to take the matter any futher than to remove or son from the CM.

As far as he sees it, our son isn't going any more so we don't need to worry about it any more. I don't really agree with his "I'm all right jack" attitude, but it makes for a very uncomfortable atmosphere at home at the moment.

Can I please have some reassurance that I did do the right thing, cos I'm feeling pretty terrible at the moment:(

Well, the thing is, you have done it now.

It's very easy to just take your own child away and do nothing else - your child is safe, there is no hassle for you, there is no worry that you have upset anyone etc. BUT, it's a bit like walking along the street and seeing a schoolboy in trouble - do you wade in and help (you might get hurt yourself), you would want others to help if it was YOUR child. You could take the easy route and look the other way breathing a sigh of relief that it's not your child being hurt. But if we all do that what type of society will we be a part of?

If there was any criticism at all towards you then I would say it was a shame that you were not able to confront her with your worries - but only you know the circumstances and if you felt that you couldn't confront her then you were within your rights to contact OFSTED. You might be worrying for nothing, OFSTED may have a chat with her and feel that she will improve from now on - I don't think OFSTED would be really heavy handed unless it was necessary.

I'm sure we have all been in positions where we have been sick with nerves from "telling" on people - I worried when I had to tell the school that I had seen someone being bullied - the bully was from a very rough family and I was worried they would know it was me etc - but sometimes we really do need to make a stand.

Don't worry, let it pass - just say to your husband that OFSTED are not big bad guys, the CM will be visited but will only have her registration cancelled if OFSTED feel that she should - it won't be down to you.

Perhaps your husband is worried that you have stuck your neck out rather than take the easy route - tell him not to worry, it's done now - tell him you have had a chat with different people on here (parents, parents who use CM's, CM's) and that none of us have said you have done the wrong thing.

ThriftyT

((((((())))))))s, sorry to hear you and dh have fallen out about this. I think you are doing the right thing as all the other pp's have said too. We all need to do what is best for children regardless if they are ours or not.

Hope your hubby calms down about it soon. Take care.

2005CLAIRE

P.S. David Ten-inch is on!!!!!!!!!

AnnieH

yes I'm off to watch - he'll cheer me up LOL:D

2005CLAIRE

Strange, he's not normally my cup of tea at all - I like the more rugged look (Dave Grohl, Marilyn Manson - yes and people still let me look after their kids lol) but there is just something about him that is very nice.


Try not to worry - I don't think you need to have any contact with the CM again unless you want to - if the CM insists on the full money to finish the terms of contract and money isn't too much of an issue for you then pay her and put a line under it.

These things do upset you - but the problem will pass - and in a few weeks you will have sorted a new CM out and you and your husband will be fine. These things do happen. Try not to dwell on it now - don't talk about it to your husband, change the subject and try to have a nice evening.

((Annie))