Popping the question

Joons

Bazey wrote: »

Go for it man, of course it's not too soon and if she does say yes, just bare in mind that all relationships fail eventually.

Haha - ouch.

podperson

Me and OH got engaged after 3 months, moved in together a month later. We weren't planning on getting married quickly but we both felt that we knew it was a 'forever' thing and by getting engaged we were confirming that committment to each other. I had been in longer relationships before that and wouldn't have entertained the idea of getting engaged to them as it seemed much too soon but this was different and it just felt natural and like the right thing to do.

That said, I found moving in together was a steep learning curve for us and we did have some big arguments in the first few months of that - just learning to adjust and compromise with the others ways and quirks. If the OP has already lived with them for 5 months then I'm sure they have already got to know each other much better and probably picked up on any issues outside the 'honeymoon' phase.

Good luck with it - I hope you have a lovely holiday and it all goes well x

Robin_TBW

There are a lot of "he was the one, it was perfect" stories here and very little nightmare stories. That surely has to do with us cynical !!!!!!!s like me and Bazey generally not hanging around a Marriage and Relationships section all too much because of past events. Keep in mind the ratio is probably a lot closer than it looks and you are still moving quite quickly.

Stephb1986_2

I was engaged when I was much younger that relationship went bad when he did my best mate behind my back.

I picked myself up after a few years and learnt to trust someone again. I've now been with my fiance for 7 years and we get married next year there has been no rush to get married as we're just so happy being together.

OP do what you feel is right for you. I truly hope everything works out for you but if it doesn't pick yourself up and try again don't give up.

Steph xx

FBaby

I think it is great that you bothered to ask her mum first, show you are considerate of other's thoughts.

Have a wonderful time away, I'm sure she will be over the moon.

MattLcfc

Many thanks for all your replies, and the many nice comments! I've been to reserve the ring today and will be picking it up on Saturday. Excited is a slight understatement. I'll make sure I let you all know how it goes

Thanks again

pops5588

I've never understood the rush with these things! At the end of the dayyou can only go with your gut and no one else knows how you feel but you. However you already live together, once you are married there is kids and then that's it, day in day out! Me and OH have been together 4 years, have just started to process of getting a house together, marriage won't be on the cards for at least another few years and then we both want a couple of years to enjoy lie ins before we have kids! I just quite like knowing that we will be in our 30s and still embarking on new life adventures together, instead of it being all over and done within the space of a couple of years.

But everyone is different!

thehappybutterfly

Robin_TBW wrote: »

There are a lot of "he was the one, it was perfect" stories here and very little nightmare stories. That surely has to do with us cynical !!!!!!!s like me and Bazey generally not hanging around a Marriage and Relationships section all too much because of past events. Keep in mind the ratio is probably a lot closer than it looks and you are still moving quite quickly.

Our marriage certainly hasn't been perfect - in fact we came very close to splitting up more than once but we battled through it because we both want it to work. We love each other, there's no doubt about that, but we've had some terrible arguments. I've occasionally felt trapped, he's often wondered what he got himself into, but hey ho, we're still here and still mostly very, very happy.

angelil

Joons wrote: »

Nice to read a happy story esp after ye'day horrific news, good on you, hope you are both very happy.

Just picking up on some posts here, how can you be with someone for years and never argue - that must be soooooooooooooooo boring. Arguing is normal, not every day or week but I don't get how a couple can live together be it married or not and not have arguments about anything - sounds like an ideal life but totally unrealistic. I think the true test of a relationship is going through the bad times together and sticking together. In the beginning, it's amazing, exciting, you can't see anything but perfection in your partner but as time goes on we all find faults with each other and living together can be hard at times.

How did you get from blazing rows to never finding fault or never having bad times? My husband and I were long-distance for about 3.5 years and we missed each other plenty. We sometimes had gaps of about 10 weeks between seeing each other. I also once had 2 people I knew die within a few days of each other and he was incredibly supportive despite being many miles away. People can experience tough times without having to shout at each other because of them. We are also well aware of each other's faults - and we're not afraid to point it out if one of us needs to calm down or we think the other person is wrong or being silly - but I don't get why this has to result in screaming arguments. I would hate it if we ever argued.

Good luck OP - I wish you every happiness

Orlando_Virgin

Are you engaged man or what?!