Popping the question

MattLcfc

Me and my girlfriend have been together since October 2012 after messaging each other on the Plenty of Fish website. In March I moved in with her, although I'd pretty much been living there since Christmas, anyway next week we are off on holiday together for 10 nights all inclusive in sunny Turkey and I am planning on asking her to marry me.

I just wanted some opinions on whether I'm rushing things a bit, or it may be too soon? In my mind, I know she's the one for me, we've lived together for the last 5 months and have got on great so why not?

I'm going to ask for her Mum's blessing this evening so wish me luck :beer:

Faith177

As you can see by my signature me and OH met Nov 2008 Moved in June 2009 (7 months) got engaged Jan 2010 (another 7 months) and we finally tied the knot nearly a month ago now.

My mum & dad were engaged after 6 months and they weren't even living together.

It's no-one elses place to say what is too soon. If you feel ready go for it life is very short and you never know what's round the corner.

Asking her mum is a lovely thing to do btw

Alikay

No, not too soon at all . Hope she says yes!

tayforth

There's no right or wrong time to propose, only the right time for you All the best of luck, and don't forget to tell us how it went!

:beer:

SuzieSue

How old are you both and how many previous relationships have you had?

Have you both spoken about marriage, children etc?

Danni-R

I know everyone is different but personally I think its too soon.

you're still in the loved up stage etc which soon passes.

But then I'm cynical.

SuzieSue

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you're still in the loved up stage etc which soon passes.

Yes, it does and getting married during it is not a good idea. As they say, act in haste repent at leisure. Unless you are in your 70s, you've got decades ahead of you and so there is no hurry. Even if you want to get married because her biological clock is ticking, it is still not a good idea until the loved up stage has passed,

Joons

SuzieSue wrote: »

Yes, it does and getting married during it is not a good idea. As they say, act in haste repent at leisure. Unless you are in your 70s, you've got decades ahead of you and so there is no hurry. Even if you want to get married because her biological clock is ticking, it is still not a good idea until the loved up stage has passed,

I tend to agree, I would err on the side of caution, why the hurry.

Having said that I couldn't help but smile when I read your post.

SuzieSue

Also, OP, have you had a major argument yet?

Tropez

I don't remember where I read the statistic but I did read that 3 in 4 marriages that result from a relationship of less than a year fail to last past five years but that does also mean there's a 25% chance of a marriage going past five years, and I don't know whether that statistic accounted for people getting hitched in Vegas after a drunken night (like Britney).

End of the day, do what's right for you. I've no real interest in ever getting married so I'm not really the best to make a case one way or the other, but if you think the time is right then that's all that matters but what I would say is if you were wholly sure that this is what you wanted, then I don't think you'd be signing up to a forum to gauge opinions about it.

Nottoobadyet

It would be far too early for me, too. Not bashing you at all, OP, but I simply dont know anyone well enough in less than a year to decide if I want to spend forever with them. Even living together doesnt do it - I fell that I need to experience some of life's ups and downs to work out if we're really compatible.

That said, you know her better than we do. Id say float the marriage / family (or not) conversations a few times and see what her reaction is.