Weekly Flylady Thread 20th May 2013

Valli

decogecko wrote: »

Valli glad you're on the mend

roundtuit has someone who has recently become a 'recovering hoarder' (nothing on the scale that is on the hoarder programmes but I was on a slippery slope and could have easily been like that within a couple of years :eek:) I found great support on the hoarding thread. It helped me address the reasons for keeping 'stuff', some of it was down to not knowing what to do with some of the 'stuff', some of it was 'it's worth something' (was it heck! I've never been able to afford expensive items, I was putting far too much value on some 'stuff'), some of it was 'I might need it' (Justin Case). But the crux of it for me was accepting my life as it is now, not how I thought/wanted it to be. It's involved letting go of emotional ties to 'stuff' as well as letting go of chunks of my past that were holding me back.

It has been a very liberating & positive experience for me - it makes flying so much easier! I also have saved a lot of money as I'm not buying things for the sake of buying them (trying to fill an emotional hole).


Deco x

Thanks

re the Hoarding - my issue was 'it's worth something' or 'it was a gift' and after my lightbulb moment I flung no end of stuff. What I have now. ornament wise, is what I like. DD has announced that she will fling most of it - I have advised her to use e bay to get rid:rotfl:

the most precious (to me) things I have are quite small, really, one is my 'antique' porcelain boy-on-a-chair. I woudl LOVE to take it to an antiques show because then the reason his shoes and other bits are pearly pink can be recorded for posterity. my Great Aunt, who had custody of him before me (he was promised to me as a child) decided they needed a repain, so she did it with nail polish! If there ever was any value in him that act will have scuppered it but a nice family fokelore story! Other thing is a sovereign balance by Grandad gave me - neither my mum(his only child) or his wife even knew he had it - mind you Grandma was an expert flinger...

Trouble with clutter is it owns you - declutter, keep what you like and the balance is restored and you own it! Definitley liberating! One day I WILL empty the attic (need stairs/steps first;))

Don't know if you're arounf IONAFAN - but I have made the cake; it's baking now. Used 150g ground almonds in meringue layer, because that was the pack size and Morries didn't have ground hazelnuts; Aldi's way past mummyoffives and I'm not going over there anytime soon. Used rhubarb straight from the garden and ground ginger because I forgot crystallised or syrup and I was exhausted, shopping. All praise to the checkout girl who packed for me - her mum would be very proud!;)

decogecko

Aaah yes! If something was a gift I couldn't get rid of it even if I didn't like it. I have managed to get rid of a lot of gifts to the CS now though*



*except an necklace and earring set brought by a relative who lives overseas when they came to visit earlier this year. I'd love to donate them to the CS but it would have to be taken to a non-local cs as my Dad's wife shops in local CS and they are easy to identify!

roundtuit

pigpen -

deco - you nearly made me cry ( in a good way - relieved to know I'm not alone): like you I can see that slippery slope :eek: and it's frightening. I'm going to have a look at the hoarding thread when I finish this post...sounds like it could help me too - although I'm not sure how I'll like unearthing that 'hole'!

Since my last post I've:

rinsed and recycled 10 cola cans
recycled an empty biscuit tin brought home from Uni by DS last weekend ?!?
cleaned the worst of the gunk from the kitchen sink - at least you can tell it's stainless :rotfl:steel now
washed a bowlful of pots/cutlery
put kitchen bin out and hung a new one ( I reuse carrier bags for this)

Mrs Starling is going nuts at me as she is used to having the back yard to herself and the brood she's rearing in the outhouse roof; how very dare I keep popping out to the bins!

I'm going to have a look for the aforementioned hoarding thread now .....

Back later xxx

ETA Valli - *waves*

Valli

roundtuit wrote: »

recycled an empty biscuit tin brought home from Uni by DS last weekend ?!?

Which you caould have filled with Twinks (or similar) for him to take back - Kudos to you for 'ignoring' the 'hint' :rotfl:

roundtuit

Am guessing a Twink is some sort of biscuit? Please 'scuse my ignorance.

ooooooh... it never occurred to me that I could do that :rotfl:but I don't feel bad as his step-mum always sends over enough food parcels to feed a faculty for him to take back. :money:

xx

Valli

It's a biscuit recipe on here somewhere

they are VERY good, easy and cheap!

decogecko

roundtuit don't worry about the 'hole' yet. I didn't start dehoarding thinking about why I was doing it. I just knew I had to do something as I was feeling overwhelmed, unable to relax in my own home.

When I was part way through did I question why I was doing it (hoarding that is). I was ready for the change though as I couldn't carry on how I was.

Deco x

ionafan

Valli wrote: »

Don't know if you're arounf IONAFAN - but I have made the cake; it's baking now. Used 150g ground almonds in meringue layer, because that was the pack size and Morries didn't have ground hazelnuts; Aldi's way past mummyoffives and I'm not going over there anytime soon. Used rhubarb straight from the garden and ground ginger because I forgot crystallised or syrup and I was exhausted, shopping. All praise to the checkout girl who packed for me - her mum would be very proud!;)

Good to know you're far enough on the road to recovery to start baking, Valli! I'm sure the cake will taste good, especially with rhubarb straight out of the garden and the ground almonds.

I went shopping today and came back exhausted and aching, but an hour's sleep after lunch has put me right again.

Now, what have I still got to do? Some more things have appeared on the list during the day
[STRIKE]- 2 items on eB@y[/STRIKE]
- no less than [STRIKE]7x WM[/STRIKE] now out on the line in the sunshine
- email T
[STRIKE]- bins
- shopping
- mustn't forget to buy wrapping paper for DGS1's birthday present!
- clean all through downstairs[/STRIKE] - DH helped by hoovering
- mop kitchen floor!
- prepare main course
- find wine
- defrost raspberries
- make up bed so that I can just fall into it tonight
- finish and mail newsletter and nominations forms for AGM
- take photos
- finish leader's notes and relevant forms
- pack Steps boxes
- [STRIKE]think where we might take friends for a picnic on Monday[/STRIKE] - Lyveden New Bield
- make cakes for DS1 and DS2
- sort out what we need to take for visits to DGS3 and DGD1+2 on Tuesday
- sort things for outing with DGS1+2 on Wednesday
- make a decision on removals
- write a reference for a friend (will take quite a long time to do)

Ah well, tonight will be fun, tomorrow is another day, and DH will be out in the afternoon so I can get on uninterrupted.

optimistic-mummy

afternoon all, grandma popped over bit of a flying visit but i was glad. as auntie nightmare was with her and she was moaning about the house, i don't care i know its a mess but i haven't been well... hadn't told them id been bad .. so its gone over my head they don't like it they don't have to come .... my grandma never said anything about it though .... she never does bless her....

chest still hurting but feeling better than i did and not coughing as much .... just gonna have a cuppa and then tidy up etc ... been round MIL all afternoon .... will do what i can manage ... i need to wash up and feed the WM ... grandma fed the TD before she left bless her xx

mummyyof5

Valli...shhhhh dont mention Twinks..if DSs even think Im talking about them they will be on my back to make them now and Im going out very soon xxx