Where to hide a secret camera

anniemf2508

gwen80 wrote: »

But in the meantime I don't see what harm working on the relationship and expressing concern for her wellbeing could have done? All you'd have done is worked on the relationship with your daughter and made it very clear that any problems she has, she can come to you.

i don't know where you get the idea that i have a bad relationship with my daughter. We are extremely close (bar the odd hormonal day of a typical 14 year old girl). She comes to me all the time with really quite personal questions so she knows she can talk to me openly.

Spirit_2

anniemf2508 wrote: »

it does concern me a little if it is my daughter sleep eating, as i said she has pretty much always slept walked, so we're used to that, but if it has now turned into eating too i would like to know if there is a reason.
She has plenty to eat during the day and we don't restrict her bar trying to get her to be sensible with what shes eating (not too much sweet stuff etc).

My daughter is now an adult and has now outgrown sleep walking and eating.

For a long time she would get up in the night and go downstairs and help herself to biscuits or other snack foods including making chocolate spread sandwiches. If spoken to during these episodes she would answer but it was plain that she was still asleep. If we woke her she was confused and disorientated.

If the camera is to help the 'culprit' then maybe it is OK but it sounds a terrible breach of trust to do it to entrap.

Could you not just hide a few slices of bread instead of the camera so that you still get breakfast.

gwen80

anniemf2508 wrote: »

i don't know where you get the idea that i have a bad relationship with my daughter. We are extremely close (bar the odd hormonal day of a typical 14 year old girl). She comes to me all the time with really quite personal questions so she knows she can talk to me openly.

I don't know what your relationship with your daughter is like. The language you've used in this thread ('lying', 'admitting', 'combatting') and the fact that you're willing to use a hidden camera and your family 'know it's coming', sounds (to me) like you regard this issue as a 'crime' rather than a problem. If this is how you feel about it and I've picked up on that over the internet, I have no doubt your family have picked up on it too.

If you replace as follows:

'Lying' with 'hiding' and 'feeling ashamed' or 'being unaware'
'Admitting' with 'confiding'
'Combatting' with 'solving'

then things look a bit different.

After all if somebody is sleep eating, they may not have any awareness. If it's an eating disorder, they will probably be ashamed and embarrassed.

Goldiegirl

Just wondering how big the house is.

Unless it's a mansion, surely somebody going downstairs and rummaging around in the cupboards would wake somebody up at some point?

Why not just stay awake one night and when you hear someone in the kitchen, go down and see who it is.

neverdespairgirl

gwen80 wrote: »

Is your husband the only person with health problems? Did you say he was coeliac? I don't know too much about that illness, but wouldn't it soon become apparent if he was eating a lot of bread?

My sister's a Coeliac. A tiny bit of contamination from flour can make her really ill, so 5 slices of bread and she'd be obviously unwell.

lostinrates

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Just wondering how big the house is.

Unless it's a mansion, surely somebody going downstairs and rummaging around in the cupboards would wake somebody up at some point?

Why not just stay awake one night and when you hear someone in the kitchen, go down and see who it is.

Not necessarily, our house isn't a mansion, I often don't hear someone in the other bedroom going downstairs. Depends on layout, and sound insulation.

chewynut

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

My sister's a Coeliac. A tiny bit of contamination from flour can make her really ill, so 5 slices of bread and she'd be obviously unwell.

I was going to say, do the people who are suggesting it might be the husband know what happens when a Coaliac eats gluten?

Bad, bad, unmentionable things. Quite frankly, your nose would tell you if it was him.

Pechow

It might be more inconvenient, but as others have said, I would far prefer to stay up one night and listen for the person going downstairs instead of hiding a camera.

If at 14 I had found a camera hidden anywhere in the house, placed with the intent of watching me, there would have been a huge loss of trust towards whoever placed it there and I'd be forever wondering if there were other cameras elsewhere, and what they were really for. It just wouldn't be worth it.

You also have the advantage of being able to deny deliberately waiting for the culprit-you can just say you weren't able to sleep, or the noise woke you up. You can't do that with a hidden camera. Buy some chocolate bars, make sure everyone knows you did, hide them somewhere not very hidden, and wait.

neverdespairgirl

anniemf2508 wrote: »

i don't know where you get the idea that i have a bad relationship with my daughter. We are extremely close (bar the odd hormonal day of a typical 14 year old girl). She comes to me all the time with really quite personal questions so she knows she can talk to me openly.

The mother of any 14 year old who thinks her child tells her everything (1) doesn't remember being 14 herself, and (2) is in for some nasty surprises.

nzmegs

This may a little far fetched - but as no one has mentioned it yet...

Could your daughter be providing food for someone else? or for a bully at school? Does she have a friend who maybe doesn't get given breakfast or lunch at school? Could her packed lunch be being stolen at school so she is taking other food to eat? Does she hate what you give her for lunch and secretly making her own? is she hoarding food rather than eating it?

My bet is on bingeing and purging (due to the volumes...)- but the above options are worth looking into.