When friends split up

bluenoseam

Invite both, but she's a class one roaster!

pigpen

Treevo wrote: »

How many one year olds have friends of their own? I don't know about you but at one, it was pretty much all adults here. But maybe you have super duper genius kids. Aged one.

When my children were 1 we invited family members that had children under 3, friends who had children of about the same age.. I think there were 5 children at my 2 y/os first birthday.. all the children were 8-15 months.. the only person who was invited who had no children was OH's friend who is now her godfather and that was because we rarely see him.. as it was he didn't come because it was a party for 1 year olds not adults. The only adults who came without children were grandparents. This is pretty much the same for all my children, always has been the only thing that changes is the ages of the children invited.

I have never in 22 years of being a parent had an adult majority party for a childs birthday. If I felt adults were more important than children I wouldn't bother with a party at all.. after all, they are only one it isn't like they'll remember.

To me their birthday is about them having fun, I can't see being stuck with a bunch of boring adults is much fun for any child.

duchy

pigpen wrote: »

I've had 10 1st birthday parties.. mine are about the children always.. if I wanted an adult party I'd have it on my birthday or a random date. I've been to them at soft play places too.. not really focused on the adults.

That is just complete masochism and hardly relevant though

I still maintain a 12 month old has no idea what a birthday party is and it is more for the parents than for the child at that age. Nothing wrong with celebrating it -but lets not delude ourselves a baby understands the concept.

izoomzoom

We have this a bit with my SIL and her ex husband.

Granted they were married for 15+ years and been divorced about 7-8 years. SIL been remarried for 5.5y now and ex BIL now engaged to woman he met shortly after they split.

We see her every couple of weeks and him every couple of months. I am more friendly with her, whilst DH is more friendly with him.

We always invite them separately. They have grown and nearly grown children and it isn't really appropriate to invite either of them to our youngest DD's birthdays etc as they are for her friends, not ours.

Their eldest son is desperate to reconcile them, but SIL just can't bring herself to have anything to do with it. I really don't understand it, but I accept that that is how she is.

I imagine it will all come to a head when either of their children have children or get engaged / married.

Sorry, I know this doesn't help the OP, but the situation does exist..