Separated, how much should I provide?

Butti

Well done Jack.

mgdavid

Excellent news; like many I felt sure you'd come out the other end of the journey in a much better place. :j

JackRS

I know some of you have very kindly taken an interest since I first posted so I thought I'd give a brief update following this weekends significant step.


I've not seen my daughter since before Christmas when I took her for a meal and a concert. Since then she hasn't been ready to meet with me an my new partner which I can understand. She has taken the split badly and just wants things to be as they were and doesn't like to think of her parents with someone else which I completely understand. I was in my 20's, married and lived a long way from my parents when they split up. Although it didn't directly effect me, it upset me and I remember crying many times over it. So I get that how devastating it is for my daughter. On Friday I dealt her another blow by telling her that we are intending to get married at some point and although we haven't set a date we are looking into options for next or the following year. Obviously she was very upset with this news but I said it was only fair that she should know. Probably a bit too much pressure at this point but I offered her the chance to come and meet my partner on Sunday when we were taking my mother for a birthday Lunch. She finally agreed just before lunch time, I collected her and they met for a few hours. It went ok as there was a small group and not an intense one to one. It was stressful for both of them but at least the first step is done.....

kelpie35

Thank you Jack for giving us an update.

I am so happy for you that you have met someone you wish to spend the rest of your life with.

She sure is a very lucky lady.

I am also pleased your daughter has met your new partner and I do hope they, in time, can have a great relationship too.

You are a very caring father and I still believe, that in time, both your children will resume a wonderful relationship with you again.

Take care of yourself and continue to enjoy your new life, you sure deserve it.

ampersand

Jack, did you but know how wonderful it is to suddenly find your post..............

Welcome, wise, and - as always - so giving and forgiving.

Please also convey warmest happiest wishes to The One who has restored your faith and love and must be very special indeed to have won yours. I am certain of it.

The updates are so much appreciated. Bless you both.

Gigervamp

Fantastic news about the up coming nuptials Jack, and I'm glad your daughter finally met your partner. It must have been quite a big thing for her to do.

Thanks for the update, it's always good to hear from you.

beanielou

Gigervamp wrote: »

Fantastic news about the up coming nuptials Jack, and I'm glad your daughter finally met your partner. It must have been quite a big thing for her to do.

Thanks for the update, it's always good to hear from you.

Seconded by me

Ames

Fantastic news about your new partner Jack, and I'm glad things are getting better with your daughter.

CruisingSaver

*screams* OMG I need to get a new hat!

In all seriousness Jack I'm beyond thrilled to hear your news and I'm so glad that your daughter met your new partner.

I hope that this is the start of a closer relationship with your daughter

CS x

barbiedoll

Do you know what Jack? You have bent over backwards to provide for, and accommodate both of your kids and yet they're still calling the shots and managing to make you feel bad about your new life.

I get that your daughter is upset about her parents' marriage break-up, but it was several years ago now, she'll just have to man up and manage. Like the rest of us that have been through it have had to!

I'm sure that when she settles down and decides to marry, all will be forgiven when she presents you with a bill for her wedding!

I know that I sound harsh, but I really believe that your daughter is very lucky to have you as a Dad, it's about time that she realised that. When my parents split, my dad soon lost interest (not helped by his new partner being very resentful of us) and we now have no relationship whatsoever. Your daughter has a father who has supported her, both emotionally and financially. That is something to cherish, no matter how things worked out with you and your ex-wife.

I think that both of your children have been heavily influenced by your ex, hopefully one day, they will all realise how lucky they are. Even your ex got a good deal from you, honestly, these people don't know they're born.

I wish you, and your partner every happiness in the future. Please don't feel too bad about your children, you have done everything possible to minimise the pain of your marriage break-up. One day they will see that.

Good luck with the wedding....am just off to dig out my hat! :beer: