Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

RAS wrote: »

JackRS

I would have a quick word with the EA and tell them that the deal HAS to be done before July 30, preferably July 24 because you have to move out and do not want to find yourself having to sort out accommodation.

Not that you could not do it is necessary.

Hopefully they can put a bomb up the solicitor or their client can. After all the EA want their fee, please.

Thanks, am trying but it's all going quiet and EA is not returning my calls I guess can't get hold of seller, I don't really have much bargaining power except to pull out but that causes me more problem than them.??

duchy

But they only know that if you tell them.

Why not ask the EA if you can view a particular nearby property - might wake everyone up

JackRS

Turns out the seller is moving into holiday accommodation as they're further behind in process than they thought, they want completion 31st July but estate agent is asking for 24th so they are considering to see if they can but I feel I've lost this one?

I sent my letter of complaint to divorce solicitor yesterday

LannieDuck

Surely they can come forwards by a day?

Lets_say

JackRS wrote: »

but I feel I've lost this one?

Hey, that doesn't sound like the Jack I've come to know on this thread. Without reading back, when you described the property it sounded like you felt it was perfect. You can't give up now.

Whilst stuff into storage, kipping at friends or a Travelodge thing is a bit of a hassle, surely it's worth it.

You're welcome to stay at my empty place, unfortunately the commute from Spain wouldn't be doable:)

harrys_nan

Tell your EA that you want completion on the 24th latest or you will cancel sale, That may push vendors into moving things along. We had that problem a few years ago, when things seemed to have come to a standstill and that is what we said to EA and things did move quickly after.

melanzana

What a wonderful thread, and an awful one at the same time, if you understand me!

I read from the beginning and incurred a few late nights, bleary eyed next morning too!

It was like reading a thriller novel. And the ending is just as I hoped it would be.

To Jack, and all contributors thanks a million, I enjoyed it so much. I was spitting with rage, shed a tear here and there, was full of disappointment, and now happy that it is resolved. Best of luck Jack in your future life, you deserve it.

On a lighter note, who in their right minds would get married ?? I know breakups don't happen in every marriage, but OMG having read this thread, I'm staying as I am for the foreseeable, which is single but with partner.

Don't live together, each of us with our own house and decent income. Our ahem "sleepovers" are shared between the country house (his) and the townie house (mine). And then we return to the bliss of our own space to recuperate!!

Thread of the decade this one.

duchy

I do think anyone considering leaving their marriage and hoping it will be amicable as they intend to behave decently should read this thread .

I do think it will be referred back to in the future -and I think the level of civility overall was refreshing -The "All woman are parasites" and "All men are barstewards" contingency weren't allowed to derail it -for once !

Of course we aren't finished just yet - we have Jack's moving in and fresh start and of course the solicitor complaint still in progress.

I've been on this thread since day one (and gave Jack a hard time at the off -although we soon got to understand each other - and I hope we are now friends ) and what a journey it has been ! Jack's patience and forbearance and dignity throughout has gained him so much admiration.

I don't agree with melanzana that it is an anti marriage thread -after all she and her bloke have chosen to remain single. They could be living together without marriage and have proper legal protection in place to protect their assets if they chose . A marriage long enough to have produced adult children is a very different proposition - and this thread has brought up some interesting views on what contributions each partner makes -some financial and some not . It also covers the folly of listening to friends advice and how bloody awful solicitors can be at making a difficult situation worse .

Jack you are on the final stretch now - and it's time to enjoy the "normal" in your life again and I'm sure you will.

justme111

The thread should become a sticky !
Re marriage - it is not marriage per se but intertwined lives that matter - children and properties and assets on practical side and emotional connections on emotional. I perfectly understand safety of visiting relationship but I don't think it is a recipe for all even for most unfortunately - or fortunately

JackRS

Lets_say wrote: »

Hey, that doesn't sound like the Jack I've come to know on this thread. Without reading back, when you described the property it sounded like you felt it was perfect. You can't give up now.

Whilst stuff into storage, kipping at friends or a Travelodge thing is a bit of a hassle, surely it's worth it.

You're welcome to stay at my empty place, unfortunately the commute from Spain wouldn't be doable:)

Sorry I meant I lost my planned date for moving on 24th March.

Despite much discussion including me proposing to pull out the seller won't budge on the date. Frustrating as I'm on a forced shutdown holiday next week and wanted to be in at the beginning so I could get things sorted. It's also a pain as I had a lend of a van and friends around who could help. I was also due to be away for a couple of days with a friend at the end of the week but now I'll have to cancel that. I will also have to use a removal service as my friends are not around and it'll be more expensive as I have to be out on the Thursday so I need overnight storage as I can't get into the new place until Friday lunch time. So I need to get over myself and get on with it I know.

I've been told that I probably could wait until the Friday to move out as it's only a day after the order, people have said to me:


'They can't do anything until the bailiffs been appointedand will be breaking the law otherwise'


'No time was set for moving out, you have until midnight on the Thursday. Thereforethey will check on the Friday by which time you would have gone or they willsee you are in the process of moving.'

Any wisdom gladly accepted?