Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

Thank you your e-mail of 11 May. Thank you for confirming your position about the risk of proceedingto a final hearing. I justwanted to make absolutely sure that youare aware of the consequences, so thank you forsetting out your position.

I am afraid that following receipt of your e-mail of 8 May containing suggested amendments to the letter, Imade the proposed amendments and then sent the correspondence as instructed.

In respect of your comments:-

1) Ido apologise for the typographical error in your name. I have now amended our computer system to ensure that this does not happenagain.
2) Icompletely take your point on the spousal maintenance and I agree with yourpoint. If there is no agreement in place then there is no obligation upon you to pay spousal maintenance once your obligation to pay child maintenance has ended.
3) Pease do let me know when the notification to order areplacement cararrives. Ithink if we remind her that this must be done now, it may push her to agreewith the terms we are proposing. If it does not, then the costs of paying forthe lease will of course cease.
4)The issue of contents is not one which isgoing to swaythe Court'sopinion at this stage. If we do go to a final hearing then I will ensure thatthe Court are aware that youhave had very little from the home.

I will chase again 14 days after8 May, i.e. on Friday 22 May. I have madea note inmy diary to do so.

I have also e-mailed the Courtas they have still not let me have anOrder or a hearing date.

I will update you as soon as I receive a response from eitherthe Court or her solicitor.

Gigervamp

JackRS wrote: »

3) Pease do let me know when the notification to order areplacement cararrives. Ithink if we remind her that this must be done now, it may push her to agreewith the terms we are proposing. If it does not, then the costs of paying forthe lease will of course cease.

This bit worries me. Is your solicitor still expecting an answer to your proposals and a possible deal? I thought that as Ex hadn't bothered responding to them, you were going straight to court, i.e, she had her chance, now it's too late.

JackRS

Gigervamp wrote: »

This bit worries me. Is your solicitor still expecting an answer to your proposals and a possible deal? I thought that as Ex hadn't bothered responding to them, you were going straight to court, i.e, she had her chance, now it's too late.

Well ex made a counter proposal asking for more cash etc. So my response is 2 options:

1) Final offer as given at FDR then put in writing 20th April.

2)Final hearing let judge decide

kelpie35

As the 14 days are long gone now, why has your solicitor not got a final hearing date for you?

Is this another error to add to the list?

Keep going Jack and stay strong.

ampersand

'I am afraid that following receipt of your e-mail of 8 May containing suggested amendments to the letter, I made the proposed amendments and then sent the correspondence as instructed.'

'Afraid' - why?

Even those she couldn't accurately carry out.

[As for her blaming putah for mis-spelling your name, I have nothing but contempt. Had it been a computer wrong, that would have been consistently wrong, spotted from the first. She then has the gall to have been unaware of an error in her client's name.]

That 8 May email is #2809, effected as per #2816.- so again, why is she 'afraid'?
Does she suddenly see how inattentive she has been, continues to be?

- so, not only did solicitor not acknowledge client instructions of 11 May #2834, let alone discuss or action them with client Jack, she now further ducks ? of whether or not she will charge Jack for reading that latest failure and discourtesy.

Ignoring the slack grammar, I note this, from the replacement car para:
' it may push her to agree with the terms we are proposing'

Jack, you refined and confirmed terms on 8 and 11 May.

Only those are the terms that solicitor has any business referring to.

[Another &footstamp - her royal 'we'...how dare she?]
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Still not faltering in caring about you Jack - semper fidelis. :-)

duchy

Gawd your solicitor goes from bad to worse -still can't proof read before sending <sigh>

CathA

Hello Jack, I've been dipping in and out of this thread for a while now, and this weekend read it all from the beginning!! I was initially interested as my friend is going through a similar situation, albeit from 'the other side'. She was a SAHM mum, a decision jointly made by her and her hubby, chiefly due to his work (he works away on gas rigs, so can be away for 6 weeks, home for 2 etc). With no family back up re childcare, it made sense for her to stay home. She had it all, lovely house, swimming pool (they live overseas in a hot country, lucky cow!) hubby earning a fortune. Overnight it all went, due to something he has done. She's now living in a rented house, he's got her over a barrel regarding the marital home sale proceeds, there's a lot of complications re finance. He refuses to pay a decent amount in child maintenance; if she pursues it he will be awkward over the final financial split. She is older than him and has limited earning potential in comparison to him, at one stage he was earning $1500 PER DAY! However, she has enrolled on a university course with a view to a better career in a few years and is hopeful that the financial problems will sort themselves out soon.

I bet she wishes she was married to you, as you have shown more decency than her ex!

I so hope that your problems can be resolved, and thanks for keeping us updated.

JackRS

CathA wrote: »

Hello Jack, I've been dipping in and out of this thread for a while now, and this weekend read it all from the beginning!! I was initially interested as my friend is going through a similar situation, albeit from 'the other side'. She was a SAHM mum, a decision jointly made by her and her hubby, chiefly due to his work (he works away on gas rigs, so can be away for 6 weeks, home for 2 etc). With no family back up re childcare, it made sense for her to stay home. She had it all, lovely house, swimming pool (they live overseas in a hot country, lucky cow!) hubby earning a fortune. Overnight it all went, due to something he has done. She's now living in a rented house, he's got her over a barrel regarding the marital home sale proceeds, there's a lot of complications re finance. He refuses to pay a decent amount in child maintenance; if she pursues it he will be awkward over the final financial split. She is older than him and has limited earning potential in comparison to him, at one stage he was earning $1500 PER DAY! However, she has enrolled on a university course with a view to a better career in a few years and is hopeful that the financial problems will sort themselves out soon.

I bet she wishes she was married to you, as you have shown more decency than her ex!

I so hope that your problems can be resolved, and thanks for keeping us updated.

Wow thanks for reading it all. I would have thought your friend has a case for fair, appropriate and reasonable share of the assets. After all that's all I've been looking to achieve. Sounds like your friend should seek some advice and guidance?

I've still not heard any more in terms of a response from the other side or final hearing date.

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

Wow thanks for reading it all. I would have thought your friend has a case for fair, appropriate and reasonable share of the assets. After all that's all I've been looking to achieve. Sounds like your friend should seek some advice and guidance?

Guess you will never recommend your solicitors, Jack

I've still not heard any more in terms of a response from the other side or final hearing date.

That is disgusting, I hope your ex will have to pay you some compensation for all the delay this has caused you. I thought she had to legally respond within the 14 days of final offer being made?


Hope you are looking after yourself, Jack

Take care.

CathA

JackRS wrote: »

Wow thanks for reading it all. I would have thought your friend has a case for fair, appropriate and reasonable share of the assets. After all that's all I've been looking to achieve. Sounds like your friend should seek some advice and guidance?

I've still not heard any more in terms of a response from the other side or final hearing date.

My friend is waiting for a difficult financial matter to go through the courts; until that is sorted they can't move on. She lives overseas with different divorce laws, and until this matter is resolved they're in a bit of a quandary.

Hope you hear from the other side soon. Good luck.