Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

victory wrote: »

jackrs I was following your thread from the beginning, not posted for an age but I do hope that you managed to finally,FINALLY come to the end and you end up very happy and settled with someone else that will bring you lots of love, happiness and fun, you sure could do with some.

and I do, it seems a million miles away but I can see the key gateways ahead, just want them behind me.

Thank you for your kind words and to everyone's support and advice as ever...

kelpie35

Still no end to your nightmare Jack

My thoughts and prayers are still with you.

Stay strong and take care.

duchy

I'm struggling to find sympathy for her bad luck with the weather ............perhaps it was karma !

justme111

So no provision for your changing income can be made then ? And if you are broken/redundant /went selfemployed / changed job and became a postman living in a caravan you would have to apply to court to cancel SM ? Hard to believe. Well I suppose if your income changes dramatically then you may lodge court application without any solicitors and just stop paying it pending court hearing which should validate it .. I would been utterly annoyed at having to go through it again and believe it would be very reasonable to include that clause now , why would other solicitor object ?

beanielou

Keep plodding Jack.

justme111

justme111 wrote: »

So no provision for your changing income can be made then ? And if you are broken/redundant /went selfemployed / changed job and became a postman living in a caravan you would have to apply to court to cancel SM ? Hard to believe. Well I suppose if your income changes dramatically then you may lodge court application without any solicitors and just stop paying it pending court hearing which should validate it .. I would been utterly annoyed at having to go through it again and believe it would be very reasonable to include that clause now , why would other solicitor object ?

Or for changing amount of dependants. . You have like 50% chance of getting into a new relationship in the next few years..

ampersand

Jack, don't quite know why it presses more than usual since I woke to send warmth in wishes and big encouragement.

Real Life awaits a new Leading Man.........prayer and care, in abundance.

WillowCat

justme111 wrote: »

Or for changing amount of dependants. . You have like 50% chance of getting into a new relationship in the next few years..

It's interesting that the divorce laws infantalise divorcing women into dependents that have to be mollycoddled and looked after, but if the female is the NEW partner she is expected to be independent and contribute to the new household.

Never quite got my head around the double standards!

WillowCat

justme111 wrote: »

So no provision for your changing income can be made then ? And if you are broken/redundant /went selfemployed / changed job and became a postman living in a caravan you would have to apply to court to cancel SM ? Hard to believe. Well I suppose if your income changes dramatically then you may lodge court application without any solicitors and just stop paying it pending court hearing which should validate it .. I would been utterly annoyed at having to go through it again and believe it would be very reasonable to include that clause now , why would other solicitor object ?

That's totally normal. Apparently the courts will not take into consideration future events and you have to wait for the change of circumstances to happen then start the court process all over again.

I agree it's crazy, but that's how it is :mad:

Mojisola

WillowCat wrote: »

That's totally normal. Apparently the courts will not take into consideration future events and you have to wait for the change of circumstances to happen then start the court process all over again.

I agree it's crazy, but that's how it is :mad:

In that case, does it open the possibility for a change to the payments when she inherits from her parents - if Jack is still paying at that stage?