Separated, how much should I provide?

justme111

It does look like jack does not trust his solicitors , he asks the same question here a few times but does not ask them , people who supposed to hold his hand in it , that must be not nice situation to be in .

kelpie35

Jack, I think that is a very wise decision you are making, by moving back into the marital home.

It will give you the opportunity to keep things moving with the EA, it does seem such a long time your home has been up for sale. It will be interesting to see how long it takes now that you will be living there.

As to paying your ex's rent when she moves out, I don't think you should. You are already giving her a car and maintenance. It is now up to her to make a claim for HB and JSA.

You have done so much for her and your children and you need to look after No. 1 now.

I cannot believe this has not all been resolved by now.

Take care and try to find peace in all this mess.

duchy

Maybe I'm missing something - but surely maintenance is for her to maintain herself - which would include her rent ?

However that said -I'd probably offer to cover half rent up to a reasonable level (bearing in mind that she's moving dahn south where we don't do reasonable rents). As you'll be living in the house so won't have rent to pay.

Mojisola

duchy wrote: »

However that said -I'd probably offer to cover half rent up to a reasonable level (bearing in mind that she's moving dahn south where we don't do reasonable rents)

Isn't she going to live with her parents when she moves south?

bellevie

As others have said she will be entitled to housing benefit, if she chooses to find a place that is more expensive that HB will cover, she will have to make up the difference, which she could take from the already very generous maintenance package.

I get that she may be accustomed to a certain way of living, but things change. What would she do if you lost your job and there was no money?

She is taking your money because she can, no one is stopping her, though legally you are already going over and beyond what is expected of you.

I really hope this situation is over as quickly as possible, so that you can attempt to start rebuilding your life.

x

CH27

So if you're moving back in to the marital home you can reduce the maintenance by the amount for the household running costs ie gas, electric, council tax, water, insurances etc.

JackRS

Mojisola wrote: »

Isn't she going to live with her parents when she moves south?

Thanks everyone

She says that she could stay with parents for a bit but obviously wants her own place for the 3 of them. My solicitor hasn't yet advised me but it seems to be even though I am giving her more than double CSA guideline they are looking at what I'd have left from my pay after taking out my living costs. So if I live back the house I'll have no rent therefore they will argue that I should give anything that I don't need to live on to her. However I'm thinking of taking a bank loan to pay off credit card debt (£16K) as soon I'll be paying the interest on them. Or maybe I should buy some where take out a new mortgage and that will need a large monthly out flow. It seems that all the people I speak to that includes some ladies who have been in a similar position can't believe how much I'm giving and what they are expecting in terms of 100% of house etc due to the fact that she has limited earning potential.

Mojisola

JackRS wrote: »

It seems that all the people I speak to that includes some ladies who have been in a similar position can't believe how much I'm giving and what they are expecting in terms of 100% of house etc due to the fact that she has limited earning potential.[/FONT][/COLOR]

Is there anyone who thinks what she's getting from you is reasonable?

She has completely failed to take any responsibility for her own life and is letting you get deeper and deeper in debt.

If you move back to the house, start using what would have gone in rent to pay off your debts. Don't increase what you're giving her!

I struggle to believe that your solicitor is really working for you - you seem to be getting royally ripped off.

Gigervamp

I agree Mojisola. It's been over a year now and she's been trotting out one excuse after another about why she can't work or sign on.

It's time she acted like the adult she is and stood on her own two feet. At the rate this is dragging out, Jack's kids will be having their own kids before he's free of the financial burdon his EX wife is putting on him.

Jack, have you considered using another solicitor?

justme111

Things take time , I would bet on it ending withing the.next year which is not that bad. A silver lining on a cloud could be that jack's kids may be indeed beyond certain age and not taken into account as dependants on his ex in the property needs assessment. Jack , it does sound like a good idea to take.on loan, at least money will be going to clear your.debt instead of your.ex's pocket