Family and rent

OddballJamie

Beachview wrote: »

28, unemployed, student, still at home, looking after disabled parent (who can't work). I get income support and carer's allowance, all of which I pay into the household. I get £2 a week for myself. Out of the household income my clothes etc would be bought. I don't go out at night, or socialise anywhere, or go on holiday. The expectation in my family is not to move out til married, or else its frowned on.

Thought you owned your own home?
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4505917

Mallotum_X

I used to pay about £30 a week in the mid 90's for board and lodgings. That was in the year before I went to Uni. I later discovered my Dad had saved this money and gave it back to me towards living costs as a student.

J_i_m

I'm currently living with my parents. I do not pay rent.

I do however pay a proportion of the key ultilies. So that's house hold goods, water, gas, electric, council tax, broadband, tv liscence. I contribute £295 per month towards this.

I buy my own food and cook my own meals, I do my own laundry etc.

mapcr77

I used to pay £100 rent, plus half the utilities (water, gas, electricity, phone, etc.) when I moved back with my dad briefly after uni.


Rosemary, it should be: "pero me gustaria que me entendieses" ;-)

DippityDooDah

My kids are still too young to pay rent just yet, but my friend had this issue with her 21 year old son, he was working full-time and was complaining that she was charging too much and ripping him off.
She went on holiday for 2 weeks and told him to use the money he would normally have given her to cover his food etc for the 2 weeks she was away and deliberately left the fridge almost empty. By the time she returned he had learned the hard way how much it actually costs to refill that fridge every week and has never complained about his rent money since.

You might want to show your kids the real cost of what you spend each week on the essentials, make sure you include food as well as utilities, Tv packages and any other relevant bills and lay it out in front of them.

hopefully if they respect you and your husband they will soon pay you more (or move out!!)

Good Luck
DDD
x

HeadAboveWater

As soon as we started earning we had to hand over 10% of our earnings. Meant it was fair and in proportion to what we were getting.

Beachview_2

OddballJamie wrote: »

Thought you owned your own home?
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4505917

Imagine that

superflygal

I used to pay £100 a month. Started at £15 a week, but I increased it myself when I got a better job as I wanted my folks to have a bit more in the coffers.

I have friends whose parents never asked for anything, and every one of these friends now has poor money management skills, whereas those who paid (whether they wanted to or not) are much more sensible.

It is a valuable life skill you will be teaching as a parent, that everything costs money, and then when they leave home, it will not be a shock to them. Personally, I think at least £100 each is reasonable. I paid that much 16 years ago!

HTH!

SFG x

japmis

Mallotum_X wrote: »

I used to pay about £30 a week in the mid 90's for board and lodgings. That was in the year before I went to Uni. I later discovered my Dad had saved this money and gave it back to me towards living costs as a student.

I love your dad!!! Sort of thing my dad would've done!!

BitterAndTwisted

It's the sort of thing my father would never have done, even if he could have.

What kids should pay when they are living at home and earning a wage is up to the parents and their own circumstances. I can't see any reason on the earth why parents should beggar themselves while their kids live the life of Riley. That's teaching them nothing, except how the be parasites.

Anyway, when I left full-time education I wasn't given a choice: pay over a third of my take-home pay or make other arrangements. My parents couldn't afford to keep me so I paid