Family and rent

DRP

Oxid8uk wrote: »

After I finished uni and landed my first job I had to pay £40 a week. My parents told me I could live at home for one year after finishing uni, after which I would have to move out.

Tough love but at least it made me grow up and appreciate the value of money.

that certainly must focus your mind to what you want to do with your life. A very good idea!

Nicky321

Bufger wrote: »

Are you ok with them going out 5 nights a week and you cant afford the time or finances to go out once a week? doesnt feel fair to me.

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We are lucky to get out once a month

Rosemary7391

If I'm still with my parents when I get a job after graduating, I'll insist that they take £50 a week (which currently gets me a room where I study) or 1/3 of the bills, or both. I'll offer it to them while I'm jobhunting too but I expect they'll refuse it. Having lived away from home for 4 years I'm well aware how much things cost! I'm not planning on staying for very long though - only between courses at most, but I won't be restricting my jobhunting to the local area. I can't imagine living at home at 27!

TeamLowe

We've moved in with my parents to save for a deposit and are paying 30 p/w. personally i think it's too little and i keep asking do they want more but they say no.
my parents can comfortably afford their existing bills, our 'housekeeping' is meant to cover what extra we cost them.
we moved in under the understanding we'd be there 6 months before looking for a house but we're going to a mortgage adviser at the end of this month, i don't want to outstay my welcome!

japmis

The day I turned 16 my dad told me to go out and get a job (which I did); whilst I didn't contribute to the bills/food, I was expected to buy everything I wanted from my earnings e.g. shoes, clothes, music, cinema etc.

I moved out in the summer before I turned 17 anyway, so I didn't ever work full time and live at home but I would think a good way to handle the situation would be to have a family meeting and discuss excatly what the monthly outgoings are e.g. mortgage, food, bills, insurance and decide between you what they should be contributing. Perhaps it should be a percentage of their income? 30%?

After uni I was evicted from my rental property (temporarily unemployed) and my dad let me come home for a year on the agreement that I clear my debts (in lieu of paying board); I cleared £6k in 12 months. Maybe in lieu of them paying board they could agree to be saving toward moving out and showing you their bank statements as evidence?

OddballJamie

TeamLowe wrote: »

We've moved in with my parents to save for a deposit and are paying 30 p/w. personally i think it's too little and i keep asking do they want more but they say no.
my parents can comfortably afford their existing bills, our 'housekeeping' is meant to cover what extra we cost them.
we moved in under the understanding we'd be there 6 months before looking for a house but we're going to a mortgage adviser at the end of this month, i don't want to outstay my welcome!

£30 a week? That's amazing. I pay £84 a week for my two cats at the cattery!

Dan-Dan

back in 1993 when i got my first job at 16 , my mum charged me £65 a week for the box room

I think it was a hint , i moved out very shortly after and paid about the same for a bedsit of my own!

Oxid8uk

DRP wrote: »

that certainly must focus your mind to what you want to do with your life. A very good idea!

It certainly did, although at the time I thought my parents were very mean! Looking back now though I am thankful to them for being hard like this -I am in a financially better position than a lot of my friends because of their 'rules'.

I certainly will be imposing the same rules when I have kids and they reach that age/employment status!

Beachview_2

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elisebutt65

My son (18) is driving me mental. I get all the arguments : none of my freinds pay, it's my money. Etcetc. Thing is he's on £12g a year atm and I do need him to contribute so I can afford the rent from next month as I'm having chemo & go onto 1/2 pay.

HB will take his money into account and so I won't qualify for any help. I've asked for 25% as that isn't too onerous. If he doesn't pay then I've said he'll have to move out as I can't afford for him to stay here. His girlfriends mum had said he can move in so its not like I'm booting him onto the street. She's also one of the ones saying he shouldn't have to pay which makes me so mad! I used to give my mum a 1/3!

He'd rather see us booted out through his own selfishness than contribute. Grrr!