MSE pregnancy club II

galvanizersbaby

elle_gee wrote: »

*hugs* GB!!

I might be in the same situation.. second scan is on Tuesday.

I sway between feeling positive to then just accepting what feels like the inevitable but worrying won't change anything so now I've moved on to trying not to think about it. I guess when you've been there before it's hard to think it could be anything else.

Take care of yourself xx (I don't want to say goodbye / good luck for next time as I'm still holding out hope)

Hello elle - I was wondering how you'd got on and will keep everything crossed for you for Tuesday x x
I consider myself lucky in a bizarre way that I'm not holding out hope as I already know what's happened - I'm just keen to have the d&c and get on with things.
Was speaking to my sis last night and she's had 2 miscarriages like this so we are kind of old hat at this now sadly!
I have 2 gorgeous children already so lots to be thankful for
I will pop back in the week to see how you've got on hun but I really am hoping for the best for you x take care x

rosies_mum

Glad things are moving again elle_gee! Good luck for next week.

Welcome sarahriley53, another due in Nov, I'm just 20 days behind you! Hope all is going well.

Congrats ANM, what a gorgeous little girl and a lovely name!

cazscoob

i was in the sort of same position as you last year, i had major pain at 4 weeks and was sent home after blood tests, they done a scan at 6 weeks saying possible twins but one had gone and there was a big bleed around other. was basically told no chance of pregnancy continuing. had to go back 2 weeks later for internal scan and things still didnt look too good.

moved house decorated and tried to get on with things, hosp asked me to go back at later date when they would make a decision on what to do next. i had lost all heart and got on with the fact i wouldnt be having this baby however he hung in there and is now 6 months old and driving me up the wall!!! will keep my fingers crossed for you both and sending all my love xxxx

slscarborough

Big Hugs galvanizersbaby x x x

Gem_

Here is my birth story, sorry its so long ....


I was induced, it was really not as bad as I suspected it might be. I was in labour for 7 hours from the time they put in the drip and started the contractions off, they did try getting me going the day before with a pessary but it didn't have any effect.

Two bad things were the fact that you can't move around really at all and giving birth on your back is not a great position as it means gravity is not helping the baby down plus you cant curl up into the foetal position - which is the one in which I found the pain the most bearable. Basically the pain is like the worst period pains you can ever imagine so any position you would get into when you have period pains is a good position to try when in labour. Because I had a really small bump (due to him being early and the fact the water level had been going down for days) the monitor that was supposed to measure the contractions wouldn't work properly. This meant the midwife didn't think I was as far along as I was ....

One thing to watch out for, I asked the midwife when people normally start pain relief and she said when the contractions were lasting more than a minute. I felt really bad when I needed gas and air earlier than that however it turned out that my contractions never got longer than 30 seconds so I would have never got pain relief at all if I have waited for 'normal' contractions to start.

I used gas and air from about 4pm onwards (at which point i was only 2cm dilated), by 5pm I asked for pethidine (which takes about 20 Min's to start working), by 6pm I was thinking this is too much I want an epidural - I was determined before I started that I didn't want one of these but at by 6 we thought we were going to be in labour for another 6 hours and it was really getting too much. The midwife went off to get the epidural sorted and left us alone. By 6.30 she was still not back and suddenly I got this feeling I really needed to poop, Al looked down and there was a head!

He hit the call button and the midwife came back in going "yes yes the epidural, its on its way" to Al saying "I can see the head", the midwife did a little scream and rushed over saying "are you sure" to which Al replied the now immortal phrase "I am not sure, but there seems to be more there than there should be!" :eek:

This, of course, wiped out any chance of the epidural. I started pushing at 16.40 and he popped out at 19.14. Whilst the contractions were pretty manageable and I was only going for the epidural because I was so tired I am sorry to say that the pushing part was the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my entire life! On the plus side it does only last a short time and it is really is true, the second you give birth all the pain vanishes. No muscle aches or anything! During the pushing matron was by my head with the other midwife at the action end. As I was pushing I was not putting my head to my chin but tilting it back, Matron decided to 'support my head' by shoving it down to my chest - she rammed it down so hard that one of my back teeth broke in half!

Alex was delivered onto my stomach and then Al cut the cord. This all happened in about 1 minute then he was rushed off to the waiting paediatric team who were on the other side of the room with an transfer incubator etc ready. They checked him over and to my delight he got a 8 and then a 9 on his Apar scores :T .

After that we got him back for cuddles and photos before they took him down to the intensive care unit. Al went with him and I was stuck in bed, apparently they cant just turn the drip off straight away they have to crank it down slowly so I had to stay put for an hour after he popped out before it was turned off. This was really frustrating as all I wanted to do was be with Alex. I did eventually manage to escape (after and hour and 15 Min's) and was perfectly well enough to get up washed and dressed without help and to walk unaided to the Neo Natal unit.

Alex looked so fragile in the incubator especially with all the wires on him. The really good news being that he was breathing unaided and didn't need a glucose drip or oxygen (which they thought he might). He is doing really well now and making progress in leaps and bounds.

Gem_

lwcus78

Congrats Amn!!:j She's beautiful!

Galvanizersbaby and elle, hoping things work out for you both this week.

Gem - glad thing were ok in the end! Glad Alex is coming along leaps and bounds.

Hope everyone else doing ok
xx

lwcus78

Been looking for cot mattress on the internet today. We've been given a cot from friends (MSE). We need a new mattress and we're trying to be green and natural if possible. My husband has allergies to dust and mould. We looked into having a coir mattress but have heard that it holds dust. Also looked at coir mattress with a natural latex surround which sounds good as its natural and hypoallergenis. Has anyone else got any thoughts on the topic?
Thanks xx

elle_gee

What hours to midwives work?

Mine seems to switch her mobile on at 0830 and has answered txts at gone 1700. Don't know if I could get hold of her now. Not tried yet.

angelfairy

hi ladies,

been trying to catch up with the threads from over the weekend.

elle and galvanizers baby, i am thinking of your re your scans.

morning or should i say all day sickness is still being the bane of my existance at the moment. find it gets me down after a few days because nothing i do shakes it. i know there are worst things to come, but this sickness, becuase I must have had it for about 4-5 weeks now constantly, expect for one day is a bit much.

had a teary moment before hubby left for work last night. the realisation hits me that i am in fact having a baby. silly i know, but it's not just thinking about having a baby anymore, or nappies, how to raise them etc, it is actually going to happen and it scares me silly.

then last night, took a bit of a tumble down the stairs, on my back, didnt hit my stomach or anything. came downstairs because our dog needed to go outside for a loo break and i must have lost my footing and basically slide my way down the stairs on my back. feel okay this morning, no pain or anything. just feel very stupid.

on a brighter note, am meeting a friend at lunch (although not sure if i want to eat) whose little boy is one month today!! woo hoo!!!!

take care girls
xxx

pollyanna24

Hugs Galvanizersbaby. Can't imagine what it must be like to go through something like that.

Thanks for the labour story Gem, but now I'm even more petrified than when I was before. I didn't even realise contractions lasted longer than a minute. I thought they came and went getting more and more frequent. So not looking forward to the giving birth bit. Aarrggh, only 10 weeks to go! When you say the pushing part was more painful, was that because of doing it while contractions were coming or because you were trying to squeeze something very big out of something not so big? Oh gosh, I feel queasy now._pale_

One question re my Quinny Buzz. Was "practising" with it yesterday, and it makes an awful "clunk" noise when I try to put it down. It's hard to put down anyways with a big bump in the way and I was told that the more I do it, the easier it gets, but the big clunk noise really makes me thing I'm going to break it. Is it supposed to do this?