MSE pregnancy club II

cookie08

Keely Kat - Is it the triple test your having tomorrow? EDITED: For some reason i called you kittykat

Every1 else - I had my midwife appointment today im 31 weeks this saturday and have been put straight down now for fortnightly visits as i found out a few weeks ago that i was born 7 weeks early :eek: due to pre-eclampsia, my mums only just told me as i been suffering swelling and told me to mention the swelling and to ask if pre-eclampsia ran in families to my midwife, midwife wasnt very nice about the fact i didnt tell her before, how was i ment to know that i was born early cos of it and that it ran in families, still wouldnt know if i wasnt talking to my mum about my birthing plan (which is to be discussed at my next midwife appointment :eek:) and she mentioned the reason why i was 7 weeks early never thought to ask why before.

Moral of me tellin everyone this is yes pre-eclampsia runs in families (might only be me thats dense and didnt realise it does run in families but thought i would share the info anyway) so make sure you tell midwife straight away as you require closer monitoring

Take Care x

redflame705

Oh poor Cookie08. How were you supposed to know that! Not everyone's mom talks to them about their pregnancy or other "women's things". What if you were adopted and didn't even know a family history???......ooooh it makes me mad :mad:

Anyway, calm down dear, it's only a midwife

I see my midwife again next wednesday and hopefully bub will have had a roll around to a more optimum position than she was the last time. Not long to go :eek: :eek: :eek:

Congrats! to Lashtlashla.

JoJoB

That's a bit poor treatment cookie. I too only found out my mum had pre-eclampsia (with all 5 children) at 31 weeks (I'm 37 now). I thought "cheers mum - didn't it occur to you to let me know about this earlier?":rolleyes: , but when I asked my midwife if there was a genetic element to it he said no. Then when I went to day assessment a couple of weeks ago with high BP I mentioned it to the midwife there who said it definitley did run in families. So great, my midwife doesn't seem to know what he's on about.

Looking through my notes he seems to have just been writing down random dates for how far I am along as well. I see him every wednesday and I should be x weeks +3 every wednesday, but last week it was +1, the week before +5, different every week basically. And my last notes show he has listed me as 34 weeks gone when I am 37. The last 2 appointments I've had with him he has forgotten to book in on the computer so I have turned up to blank looks from the receptionist and then had to wait over an hour to be squeezed in. He really isn't filling me with confidence at all.

I was unsure about him from the start but thought it would be unfair of me to judge him too quickly - I just didn't like his manner. He's perfectly nice and friendly but has such an air of nervousness and seems unsure all the time - which makes me feel nervous in response. But you can't really switch midwife because they are nervous and stutter can you, it's not really very kind! But I worry that he is not competent, so don't know what to do!

cookie08

Hy Redflame, yes i was quite mad about it to, if i would of realised i would of told my midwife straight away, my mum has never carried full term my 3 siblings (1 older 2 younger) was all born between 3 and 7 weeks early so i just thought that she always went into early labour, i knew everything about the labour with me that she was induced blah blah apart from that it was cos pre-eclampsia she had 2 be induced.

Wow only a few more days - are you excited or scared? have you thought of any names yet?

cookie08

wow JoJob i thought i had it bad with my with my midwife - who is general quite nice after 8 weeks (she refuses to see you until then due to misscarriage and believes its wasting her time :eek: )

have you tried correcting your midwife on your dates wen i went to antenatal she put me down for a few weeks ahead of my time and when i asked if i still had same dates she yes so i asked her well why have you put me ahead and she changed it (aswell as looking embarrased)

where i am from the midwife you see during your pregnancy isnt the same as the one who is with you during labour is that the same where you are

if and when on your next pregnancy (scary talking about next pregnacies when this want not over yet lol) you can request another midwife atleast and i would start making sure you check your appointment is booked in with the receptionist before you leave next time as he really does not seem to know his head from his a$$!

BargainAholic_2

Hiya All!

congratulations to everyone that has had their babies & congrats also to the newly preggers peeps!

I have my scan tomorrow & have been secretly worrying myself sick as I am now 12+2 & apart from a small swelling in my belly, I dont feel preggers any more I feel quite good to be honest. Hope to god everything is ok.

I was wondering if someone could answer me a question re SMP .. At my work when I go on maternity I will get 6 weeks at full pay & then 33 weeks at half pay. I have been pooing myself & worrying about money & how on earth am I going to cope with only half my wages, but then someone said that I was entitled to SMP on top of my 50% salary for the 9 months I am off. Is this true or am I going to be seriously out of pocket? I thought that I could only get SMP if I didn't work or self employed etc?

Dont know who/what to believe & whether I should be worrying or not?


Thanks

BA

Fritha_2

BargainAholic wrote: »

I thought that I could only get SMP if I didn't work or self employed etc?

I will admit to knowing chuff all about smp (I'm self-employed so don't need to know) but I might be able to set your mind at ease a bit. Maternity Allowance is the one paid to low earner/self employed et al. SMP is the one paid to people in work. The Government has a guide to smp here which may answer your questions. Sorry I couldn't be more help :-)

Orange29

Keelykat - I am due 18/09 and your posting made me realised only 4 weeks until I see bump again too, as that's when my 20 week scan is, hurray!:j

m_dorph

I am employed on a fixed term contract at a university and since it will run out during my maternity I won't be entitled to any time with full pay - You can only get that if you come back to work for 6 months (which I am happy to do but hard to find a contract just now!).. If you get the maximum 18 weeks of full pay SMP is included (you don't get extra money). Another option is 9 weeks of full pay followed by 18 weeks of half pay - again the SMP is included so the employer is partly "paid back".. I don't know if this is the general rule though! It is a bit annoying that having a baby and wanting to spend a reasonable time on maternity leave gives you such financial problems - coming from Scandinavia I am used to much larger benefits!

Best of luck,

Mette

lwcus78

EDD
Heavenleigh - 24th march 08
Melg1973 - 24th march 08
Newleafer - 27th march 08
stepneythebluebellengine - 28th March 2008
tranquil - 2 April 2008
Girl And The City - 5 April 2008
snugglepuss - 9th April 08
redflame705 - 11th April 08 (was 8th April 2008)
gemsygem (Sheel's daughter) 19th April 08
MonkeyLady - 20th April 08
JojoB - 20th April 2008
PinkPrincess 21st April 2008
machairs - 24th April 2008 (may change after scan)
cluuuuur - 25th April 2008
debecca - 26th April 2008
Kelsi-Blu - 27th April 08
Katgoddess - 29th April 2008
mandycutiepie - 1st May 2008
lostbuckaroos - 2 May 2008 (although doc thinks that could be 2 weeks out!)
rjh090384 -3rd May 2008 (changed at 12 week scan)
Traveller -May 3rd 2008 (but probably 10th as always a week late!!!
Knotty29 - 16th May 2008
magan- 18th May 2008
destiny_star2006 - 22 May 2008 (or could be 2 June!)
jb - 27th May 2008
clarkey1000 - May 31st 2008
Cookie08 - 7th June - Its a boy
Harding 1985 - 9 June
barriefilms - 9th June
jenza8 - 10th June
nik2108 - 11th June 2008
Nicifer_noonoo - 13th June 2008
Chicken1902 - 15th June 2008
Tinka21 - 24 June 2008
aggiev - 1st July 2008
honeybe21 - 2nd/3rd july 2008
sunday_girl - 6th July 2008
sugababesfan - 10th July 2008
skyeandeviesmummy - 13th July 2008
shazzany - 13th July 2008
LilacPixie - 14th July 2008
I love my Pomeranian - 15th July 2008
Jak - 18th July 2008
bethom - 20th July 2008
skintnutta - 21st July 2008
Warburton100 - 25th July
HStef81 - 29th July 2008
Blink_Blink - 3rd August 2008
ParadiseKidd - 6th August 2008
Carol9uk - 6 August 2008
grad_gal25 - 11 August(My Birthday This was so not planned!)
miss-piggin- 11 August 2008
anm - 17th August 2008
Saver Raver - 16th August 2008
Sarahrey1 - 20th August 2008
handbagqueen - 20th August 2008
LindseyandMatthew 23rd August!
wotnext - 27 August 2008
Linzm - 28 August 2008
Scottish-Diva- ? August 2008
Trish 123-sept 6th
Chutzpah - 8th September 2008 (we haven't had a dating scan yet)
LolaManCity - 16th September 2008
Orange29 - 18th September
Keelykat - 19th September 2008
Emjem - 21st September 2008
JPWhittle - 24th September 2008
Fritha - 26th September
foreversomeday - 27 September 2008 (May change after scan)
BargainAholic - 27th September 2008 (may change after scan)
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
heather38 - 4 october 2008 (may change after scan)
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
Daisykate124 - 3 November 2008 :cheesy:
sarahh112 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78- 22nd November 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008

TTC LIST
Cookiesncream
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
ginvzt
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
bloomin freezing
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
SeptemberBaby
Poppyjoe

BIRTH LIST
Bun - Annabeth Charlotte arrived 2 1/2 weeks early at 3.44am on 7th February, weighing 5lb 9oz.
Cathie - Alice arrived 17 February at 1700 weighing 7lb 5oz
Melly74 - Daisy Hannah arrived 19 February at 1822 weighing 7lb 14oz
ukbandit - Sara arrived 28/02 @ 12.26 weighing 7lb 9oz
Bailey - Molly Louisa 26/02 @ 8.31 weighing 8lb 1 oz
miss_Be - Ember Thomasin Abbie arrived 00.18 2nd March 'Mummy's Day' 7lb 12oz, 10 days late but not overcooked
nicci985 - Ozzie Joe arrived 29th february at 15.56 weighing 8lb 4oz!
alison6692 - Daisy Pamela Smith - February 29th weighing 9lb 11oz!
Elliesmum - Samuel Michael Sid Beardsley - arrived 3rd March 9lb 3oz
3KIDSNOMONEY - Ben Daniel arrived 6th March, 7 days late 8lb 11oz.
mandy2383 - Troy Christian 7 March born at 7:39pm weighing 8lb
Purplegirluk1 - George born 5.47am 10th March 2008 weighing 8lb 2oz
Samantham06 - Charlie David arrived 7.25pm 12th March 2008 weighing 7lb 8 1/2oz
Dougggie- Edwyn Douglas, arrived 5.08pm 15 March 08, 8lb 14oz by emcs
Pink Princess1 - Ruby Elizabeth arrived 19.25 on 26th March 2008 8lb 1oz

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
Marvalous - 12th February 08
Loopy-loo73 - 21 Feb 08
PiscesPrincess - 24th February 2008
Ella29 - 27th February 08
doobees - 4 March 08
svmitche - 4th March 2008

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