MSE pregnancy club II

daphne_descends

Well I'm still here and not handling it very well, I'm afraid. I hoped Agutka's coolness would rub off on me, but it hasn't

I felt really optimistic on Sunday - but what good is being 'ready' for five sodding days if nothing happens?

I've had so many twinges I've lost count, it's nearly three weeks since my first show, I've had period type pains and backache all week and still nothing. I'm thoroughly bored of being at home on my own all day long with nothing to do - if anyone else tells me to 'enjoy these last few days' then I might just hit them - how can you enjoy being overdue? It's not like I can think 'oh goody, I haven't had the baby yet, isn't this great' - really, who can? I am enjoying my evenings with OH, sure, but wouldn't I be if we had our little baby too? OH is also waiting and it's easy for me to forget that it's not all about me - every day he is wondering if it's his last at work and so he's trying to tie up all loose ends every 24 hours - he is not impatient like I am but it's his baby too and I feel awful that I've got a bit wrapped up in it being about me.

The midwife will do another sweep tomorrow and also book an induction - which means making the awful decision of taking it or not - I can only hope it doesn't come to that but it's not looking likely is it.

The early days of pregnancy are so exciting. I remember that first weekend where we kept it a secret and how amazing that time was, it felt so special knowing that everything in our lives had just completely changed, yet on the outside everything looked the same - I wish we'd kept it to ourselves for longer to be honest. Every week is a milestone as you learn more about how your baby is developing, and you begin to feel and see the changes in yourself too. The scans are wonderful and finding out the sex was definitely the highlight for me. Counting down the days to having a 4D scan was like being a kid at Christmas, and the first baby shopping that you do is sooo much fun. I loved all of that, but the last few days SUCK, there really is no other way to put it.

And the last thing I wanted to do was bore the pants off this thread with moaning about it. I sort of feel like you're all sick of me already, I am holding up the list for a start! I'm going to crawl back into my hole now

ginvzt

No, fac we are not bored of you!!!!! I am sure everything will be fine in the end! I understand tat it is not easy to be ready every day and nothing is happening, but the little one will find the way out when ready! Please, hang on there!!!!

Good luck!!! I hope I will graduate to the EDD list soon....

izoomzoom

Oh fac73, if you are still here, we want to know.

Don't stay away, there are lots of people on here who gotten to know you over the past few weeks / months and if getting a little message / support from them can help make your day a little less boring, we want to help. And it even makes us think a little less of our own misery (or at least it does for me).

I am home too now, finished work yesterday, and although I have surfed and slept the day away, I know I too will be climbing the walls if I get to your stage. People who have their babies early, really don't know how lucky they are.

So please post and moan and do whatever helps you through the day.

ab7167

fac
don't worry about moaning - that's all I seem to do all day and I'm sure OH gets truly fed up. Here is a good place to moan - lots of sympathy from people who really know how you are feeling. I'm not quite there yet, as not overdue, but I'm sure there are plenty of people around who know EXACTLY what you are going through. So no going back in the hole. Anyway, since giving up work, the internet is really my only connection with "real people" during the day. I miss working just for the social contact really... OH comes home tired and grumpy and doesn't really understand that I HAVE TO TALK TO SOMEONE! Or my tongue might stop working from underuse?

But I have good news - GP gave me codeine for the SPD when the paracetomol stopped working, and the combination seems to be suiting me, I'm mobile again - hobbling, but able to do everything I need to do. Physio gave me a very large piece of tubigrip - fashion statement for heavily pregnant ladies, cue laughter from OH at me trying to get in and out of it! But again, it's helping.

AND - I saw the MW today, baby is in perfect position, perfect size etc. for 35 weeks - and is 3/5 engaged already. Now, I would interpret this to mean that we are well on the way, and bubs may well be early - but is this true? Can babies become unengaged, therby dashing my hopes for getting this over and done with?

Ali

miss_be

Thanks Curious George for your info about buying the babe stuff. I will write me a list and stick to it. I'm mostly waiting till the January sales to get stuff that needs to be new and getting everything else, hopefully, off Freecycle. Good luck with your up coming (hopefully not overdue) birth!

Fac, I'm sorry to hear that you feel the way you do. The others are right about it being more important to share how you're feeling than to keep away. It's also good learning for others of us who have this to come, so sharing your annoyance is a very useful tool. I wonder if you might have a mental chat with your babe and get an intuition as to what's going on. You could even try persuading the little one that coming out really is the best option! It might sound a bit 'fruit bat' but it might also help. Good luck. x

daphne_descends

Thanks guys :grouphug: you're all fantastic, I just felt like I was bringing things down - 'oh guess what I'm STILL pregnant' :rolleyes:

If nothing else maybe all these late October births will be balanced out with early - or at least on time - November babies?

OH took today off work because I was so miserable - we've spent the afternoon trying nipple stimulation (:o) and it's left me with a rock hard bump but nowt else. And now he's cooking (another) curry, with pineapple for afters :rotfl:

I've arranged to go shopping with my mum tomorrow either before or after my sweep - midwives don't like to tell you exactly what time they'll visit, do they - so maybe tempting fate by having plans for the first time in an age will get things moving?

incognito

FAC - i am so with you on this one. i was doing so well until monday but i have really gone down hill. i am very tired and although not totally depressed i am getting frustrated now. and i havent had anything - no show, no BH and by the looks of my notes, unless the doc and midwife use different nomeclature, by baby is disengaging!! keep your chin up - you are not alone:beer:

jo_b_2

Congratulations Agutka :j

I hope you're going to come over and entertain us on the Parent Club thread!

daphne_descends

incognito - I felt sure your next post would be a birth announcement! :grouphug:

I do have the odd upbeat moment but of course it's easy to forget those

I wish I'd never had a show to be honest because it's happening almost daily now and each time it's more of a nuisance than anything - what good has it done me!

Are you having any intervention or planning to wait and see?

incognito

i am seeing the midwife on monday and will probably have a sweep then - apparently they like to induce you at term + 10 here so that only gives me til next wednesday so i would like to try and get things going before then - i really dont want to be induced.
i have to say i think i would feel the same as you if i had had a show - the anticipation is bad enough and like i said i havent had any signs at all. it is weird, you know it cant go on forever but somehow that doesnt quite register when you are feeling fat and uncomfortable.
good luck with the sweep tomorrow. i have explained to my baby the details of a sweep in the hope that it takes pity on its poor mum but i am being ignored (as long as it listens to my request for a 4 hour labour :rotfl:)