sister feud

londonsurrey

I am so very glad you stood up to your mother's unreasonable behaviour, and initiated contact. I wish you all the best.

meritaten

an update for those interested - Aunt was supposed to have an operation 12 days ago - which was cancelled due to a 'machine' being broken. she was told to phone last Wednesday to see if it was scheduled for last Thursday - she did and it was - except they phoned back and said that although she was booked for the operation someone hadn't booked the bed so they couldn't do it!
she was devastated - the consultant had said the original op was urgent and couldn't be delayed as the cancer was so aggressive.
My cousin then got on the phone to as many 'influential' people as she could (without saying too much she works for a very well known person with powerful friends)............and lo and behold a bed was found.
Aunt has had the op - the surgeon is pleased with his work - but, the fact that macmillan nurses have now been arranged for her return home is not, I think, a good sign.
No, I still haven't seen her - she doesn't want visitors. my bro goes to see her - I think that is because he has ALWAYS been there for her? So I am not taking this as rejection. I understand why she doesn't want people to see her.
Ive sent a card and am waiting to hear when she is released from hospital to send flowers. I am going through old photo albums and finding old pics to send her to remind her of happier times.
tbh - I don't ruddy care what she looks like - its HER I want to see! but, its down to my aunt and what SHE wants.

pavlovs_dog

I think McMillan nurses do a lot on the after care/pain management front, so I wouldn't read too much into that as a negative factor

meritaten

I worked for a cancer care charity which works with macmillan nurses - so know that its not just the terminal cases.
I have also researched the cancer she has. its very aggressive and very few reach five years after diagnosis. it is also very unpredictable as it acts like a virus and can attack any part of the body very quickly.
my main concern right now is that she is treated quickly - and that is what her consultant told her. any delay in treatment is obviously not good and is devastating to her.
so to have any operation delayed once let alone twice!!!!!!!!!!!! what they thinking of???????????
she couldn't be in a worst hospital - frankly, they are known to be carp!

Valli

Hope you get to see her.

Families! Sometimes!

justme111

I did not read other replies , its a mo brainer - it was your mum who had a row with your aunt , not you. It is very childish and selfish of your mum to mandate you having no contact with her and wrong of you to go with it.

Yorkie1

justme111 wrote: »

I did not read other replies , its a mo brainer - it was your mum who had a row with your aunt , not you. It is very childish and selfish of your mum to mandate you having no contact with her and wrong of you to go with it.

If you had bothered to read the other replies, you would have discovered that the OP did not 'go with it' and that your post was completely superfluous.

jellyhead

meritaten wrote: »

No, I still haven't seen her - she doesn't want visitors. my bro goes to see her - I think that is because he has ALWAYS been there for her? So I am not taking this as rejection. I understand why she doesn't want people to see her.

I think you're right. Because your brother has always seen her it's a bit different. It's not rejection. I'm sure she'll be happy to see the photos.