Opinions on RSVPs to events.

bexiboo92

Just bit of a random thread but I want others opinions.

If you receive an invite and you're asked to RSVP by a certain date, do you generally reply before, on the date or require a bit of prompting?

Do you guys think it's rude not to RSVP (whether it's a yes or no) and then to ignore messages from the person holding the party despite the fact they know you've read their message?

CH27

I think it is very rude not to RSVP.

I always reply immediately.

Mrs_Imp

It's rude not to RSVP. Although I'd generally give people the benefit of the doubt and ask them a few days after the deadline, just in case the invitation got lost, or they genuinely forgot.

balletshoes

yes i think thats rude - but my message to them after the rsvp date would have read along the lines of "as you haven't let me know that you are coming to my event, I am assuming you are not able to attend". Then theres no need for them to reply to either your rsvp or your message.

fluffnutter

bexiboo92 wrote: »

Just bit of a random thread but I want others opinions.

If you receive an invite and you're asked to RSVP by a certain date, do you generally reply before, on the date or require a bit of prompting? I reply in good time

Do you guys think it's rude not to RSVP (whether it's a yes or no) and then to ignore messages from the person holding the party despite the fact they know you've read their message? Yes, of course it's rude to do this

Answers above. No one's too busy or important to not RSVP. The least you can do when someone's kind enough to invite you to something is spend a few minutes replying. If you don't, you're rude, plain and simple.

thunderbird

I would reply before the date.

Yes it is rude not to reply

luxor4t

It's just plain bad manners (and inconsiderate) not to reply.

nearlyrich

I always respond before the deadline if there is one and as soon as I know if I and anyone else on my invitation can attend ususally within a couple of days of getting the invitation. I think ikt's rude not to reply as someone organising a party has enough to do without chasing people up.

LEJC

its refreshing to see that so far without exception everyone has replied that yes they would rsvp....

However you clearly arn't some of my family or indeed the relations of some of my friends or associates!....

Take a trip over to the weddings board and you will usually find a bride expressing flustration at the number of invites she's chasing.

And as a mum over the years the amount of childrens parties ive hosted with the flustration of either guessing numbers or simply just booking places in the hope that the invited kids will arrive,happened every year!

For what its worth I always reply...but I know that a lot of the time these formalities are not always adhered to or people see it as acceptable to let you know the day before....

BitterAndTwisted

If you're dealing with people of questionable education or intelligence, it's best not to use French abbreviations and be absolutely explicit. No response by x date means you won't be expected and therefore won't be welcome.

It's really damned rude not to reply to an RSVP within a couple of days and appallingly rude to max to have to be chased up about it. People who extend kind invitations have plans to make and numbers to account for.

bexiboo92

LEJC wrote: »

However you clearly arn't some of my family or indeed the relations of some of my friends or associates!....

Funny you say this!