Madeleine's Fund : Leaving No Stone Unturned

jetcat

I feel I would respond wholeheartedly if the parents said something like "We made a terrible mistake, our suffering is beyond belief. We are desparate, please help us".[/QUOTE]

i agree 100 %. As a single parent, i know that if it were me (and there is no way that it would have been) i would have been slated - and rightly so. i understand the need for media involvment, however, some recognition of their mistake would go a long way.

TBeckett100

i think the mother knows something if you ask me. I watched one appeal and there wasnt a hint of sadness in her eyes. The way she has been carting the childs toy round leads me to believe this is stage managed.

By the way they wont go home yet, they will be terrified of the backlash. Mark my words, this is just too much interviews, tv appearances for a genuine grief.

lisyloo

i just seen them on the telly, there seems to be no emotion or sadness in his voice no guilt either, it was a very sterile speech imo almost robot like.

I think this is ridiculous.
This could be drugs, some kind of emotional response like denial or some kind of coping mechanism.

Whatever it is, it's not the key issue.

The key issue is the lost little girl and the thousands (if not millions) of other suffering children around the world.

Let's leave the parents out of it.
We don't know what's going on behind closed doors.
I'm amazed people can jump to conclusions about what's been said to them or their emotional state just watching a TV report.

Personally I can think of charities that would benefit more from my money.
It's not that I don't care about this little girl, just that I don't think money is going to help her very much.

EagerLearner

Well said lisyloo, we can't judge them and jump to conculsions about the 'correct' way for them to act as we have never been through that experience, everyone copes differently.

doitmyself

lisyloo wrote: »

I think this is ridiculous.
This could be drugs, some kind of emotional response like denial or some kind of coping mechanism.

Whatever it is, it's not the key issue...

Some people seem to have latched onto this idea, but then how does that sit with the perfectly orchestated 'campaign' being managed by the McCanns? It's absolutely part of the issue for me because it seems inconsistent.
This quote from jw took the words right out of my mouth:

Soundbites such as travelling the world to find her seem a little hollow too - they werent willing to supervise thier children properly but now they would travel anywhere/do anything to get her back?

lisyloo

Soundbites such as travelling the world to find her seem a little hollow too - they werent willing to supervise thier children properly but now they would travel anywhere/do anything to get her back?

I totally agree with that sentiment.

But their actions wouldn't stop me doing what I could to help...if there was anything.
The parents actions would not affect my willingness to help the children.

There are lots of times when someone has a vehicle accident when someone is to blame.
Luckily most people get the injured parties into ambulances and then start doing the liability thing in the following months once all necessary life and limb saving has been done.
Surely you can see the sense in those priorites.
You don't leave someone dying in the road because it was their fault whilst pointing fingers.

David_B_2

Ok, as the original poster, many thanks for everybody who did reply.

My original intention was to at least inform you that the fund was available and no way incline that you should contribute towards it.

What ever our views on the parents and the way it happen I think we can all agree on one thing, it was not little Madeleine's fault, she did not deserve to be taken and hope that she is found safe & well, sooner the better.

emmaroids

lisyloo wrote: »

Let's leave the parents out of it.

i dont see why we should leave them out of it, after all they are to blame for all this.

doitmyself

lisyloo wrote: »

I totally agree with that sentiment.

But their actions wouldn't stop me doing what I could to help...if there was anything.
The parents actions would not affect my willingness to help the children.

There are lots of times when someone has a vehicle accident when someone is to blame.
Luckily most people get the injured parties into ambulances and then start doing the liability thing in the following months once all necessary life and limb saving has been done.
Surely you can see the sense in those priorites.
You don't leave someone dying in the road because it was their fault whilst pointing fingers.

Hi lisyloo
No-one would dispute the point you make in your analogy, you could make 100 similar such analogies probably, but in the event you describe the injured accident victims aren't bundled into an ambulance by the 'crowd'. They are treated and handled by the relevant professionals, and in the search for Madeleine I think the same thing, for everyone's sake should apply.
The police, both Portuguese and British are very much on this case IMO and there will be developments at some point. I'm keeping an open mind as to the possible outcome.

Meantime you are seemingly wondering yourself if there's anything (practically) you can do to help, and the reality is no, there's not, and same goes for the parents as they go on tour. The fact that they are doing what they're doing raises some of the questions now being asked I think...

daisy_doughnut_2

this isnt my first post but i cant logg in as my original

i can empathise with the mcCanns in a small way as my daughter went missing for a short while many many yrs ago

it was only a few hours but she was only 2 at the time its a long storie but i thought my mum had her an vice versa it was a weird senario but in those few hours my whole world fell apart the police were fantastic and i feel that if she hadnt have been found then i to would have begged and pleaded like the mcCanns for help

but

what happenend to me an mine wasnt planned as in i didnt plan to leave her alone in an enviroment where harm could reach her it was crossed info at the time i would never plan to leave my child so young even to pop to the shop on the corner over the yrs there have been so many abductions remember the one where the child was camping in the garden with friends an was taken?
the world is full of evil an to think that u are obsoleate from it because ur of a higher class is ridiculas
i think if u asked the mcCanns would they do this again there answer would reflect on weather they thought it was right to do it in the first place
ive read so many forums the past week or so an they all seem to say the samething one i read this morning said that there was no forsed entry to the room the patio doors were open an even tho from where the parents were they had a veiw of the appartment the bushes obstructed the veiw to the patio doors so they knew that there children were in a room where they couldnt see the unlocked door from which they could escape or someone could enter
it sadens me alot as ive kinda been there that any one could leave there child in an obviouse danger not just from others but to them selfs as if maddie hadnt been taken but come out threw the doors an fell in the pool then the papers would have said doctors leave child unacompanied whilst they have dinner they wud av been slated to death and prosicuted for neglect why does it make it different that she was taken

im so angry i hope an pray to god that this time people sit up an take notice as it seem the ben needham case didnt make a big enough impact

as much as the parents have peed of most of the uk im sure that we all are thinking an praying for maddie