Depression II

Tulip

daisy_doughnut_2 wrote: »

hi there i used to be the same
but allways felt relieved afterward an strangely jovial to the point people thought i had doubled up on my meds...:D

thanks DD2 and also QWB,glad I am not the only one feeling like that after a physcologist has been to visit makes me feel I am not alone

Good Luck for the doctors later on DD2

chat later


lots of love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi daisy!:hello:
See hun - hope and help on the horizon already!:T
I don't think seroxat can be prescribed for children. You should talk to gp if that's what they prescribe hun.

Try and coax DD into seeing the gp too angel.
Tell her it's all part of the package for helping her. Suggest that she come but that you do all the talking and that she can correct you if you get something wrong. Keep everything calm, as it must be frightening for her as you can well imagine.
Only you know your DD hun, but suggest to her that if she doesn't want to talk to the dr, she can write how she feels down for them.
I don't know how much she knows about your case hun, but you may want to reassure her that she isn't having the same issues as you.;) Tell her that she isn't the only 13 year old that has had this happen and that the dr will have heard it all before. Also reassure her that she's not going to be snatched away from home and into hospital - obviously unless her wounds are very bad.
Try and think of it all from the point of view of a 13 year old when you talk to her and reassure her as much as you can - let her know that you're right by her side always. I'm sure she loves you very much and it's obvious how much you love her.

As for you hun, make that phone call to your care team.;) They will be happy to see you now rather than later, when things might have gone downhill a bit. They always have a fallback plan for people who have discharged just in case of any difficulties. You need support too - nothing wrong in that hun.;)
Try if you can to keep this all as calm as you can angel - now the school are fully aware, they'll be a good partner for you and DD. Be mindful angel of how it might look to DD if you go haring off to the school - it might make her edgy. I'm not preaching angel honestly - just Tiff thoughts.;)
Well done daisy - you've achieved good things already and I bet you never thought you'd be able to get through today. :T
Make sure your DD knows that there is help for her - lots of mom reassurance.;)

The bullying is happening to other children and the police will be involved to protect them all. A child is legally responsible for their actions from the age of either 8 or 10 - can't quite remember which - and they can get an offical warning or even be charged with assault or harrassment. The police do take bullying very seriously now and will visit the bullies at home if necessary. The school also has a duty of care to your DD hun and there is a police officer assigned to every school.;)
I hope this has been of some help hun? And remember, now's not the time to be assigning blame to yourself - it isn't your fault! You're doing everything right angel.:T You'll need to take it easy for a few days yourself as the shock and upset may take a lot out of you.;) Keep us posted daisy.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

blinky wrote: »

Hi Katie,
I always felt like !!!!!! when leaving counselling sessions. I think it is all the feelings it brings out.

Hi blinky!:hello:
How are you blinky?
I agree hun.
I always used to take a couple of headache tablets before I went, because I know I'd come home feeling turned inside out emotionally, very tearful and with a banging headache.:o
It's bound to hurt bringing up all the pain and as I've said before, crying is the body's natural way of getting rid of all those stress chemicals.
So don't feel bad katie hun - just take it easy and rest angel.;)
Hope all is well with you and r .;) Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

daisy_doughnut_2

well im off shortley can not convince DD to come with me so im not going to push her any more
she has gone off with my sis for tea out somewhere nice

i never thought about getting her to write how she was feeling down thats a really good idea thanks hun
an its me that is on the seroxat not her
i think she was really bemused at why i was at school but i had heard things over the course of the morning that made me very un nearve they were concerning the bullies i just didnt want her to feel scared in school on top of all the other emotions she cant understand she knows i see or rather saw a psycologist because of my shaky things as she has allways called them an we had a good chat about what exactly there job is an im sure she feels ok with the possibility of seeing one
anotherthing i was wandering about is she uses the net alot an i know i have found good online support groups is there one for children where she can see she aint alone and she isnt going mad???

well im off now if i dont come back tonight as DD is out with sis an i think me an partner are going out for tea ile post in the morning

thanks very one
take care
DD x

Tulip

Tiff wrote: »

Hi blinky!:hello:
How are you blinky?
I agree hun.
I always used to take a couple of headache tablets before I went, because I know I'd come home feeling turned inside out emotionally, very tearful and with a banging headache.:o
It's bound to hurt bringing up all the pain and as I've said before, crying is the body's natural way of getting rid of all those stress chemicals.
So don't feel bad katie hun - just take it easy and rest angel.;)
Hope all is well with you and r .;) Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

So don't feel bad katie hun - just take it easy and rest angel.;)


I will do,thanks Tiff,I showed the Physlogist today this thread as well as I was on here when she came and she was very impressed Who is r? I dont have a boyfriend Well its time for me to go and relax by the television for a while,I will be on later hopefuly,I thank everyone here for their kind advice its really appreciated and it means alot to me to know that I can come on here,post any worries and know that I am being listened to.

Love and light,


Katie

EthelBloggs

Hiya Daisy, I've just got home and saw your messages.

First thing, take a big breath and don't panic! I was in your shoes a year ago, my daughter is 16.

Second thing, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF - you are in no way responsible for what your girlie is doing, they're at such a funny age, hormones going crazy and whatever else is going on, they do all sorts of weird and wonderful things to help release the pressure.

You're doing absolutely the right thing seeing your gp, make sure you get support for you as well as your daughter, cos you're in for a helluva ride in the coming months. Ask your GP to contact your local CAMHS (child & adolescent mental health service) - they can provide family therapy as well as individual therapy for your daughter. They've been an absolute godsend in our case, listening, making referrals if needed etc.

Hopefully you've caught your daughter early enough before she becomes dependent on self harming, but I will say this.. if she's determined to do it, she will - we've got some people on this thread who do it who will be along with a lot more wisdom and insight than I can ever have

I locked up everything I thought she could use to hurt herself but the mind boggles at what can be utilised if she's desperate enough, mobile phone cases and batteries, cds, cd cases, the corner of a remote control, my daughter would even pick up broken glass off the street :eek: it's impossible to completely harm-proof your home and my advice is don't even try, just be vigilant and take notice if things go missing.

The best advice really that I can give you is to make sure she knows you're there if she feels ready to talk and that you love her, it sounds as tho you're well on the ball with that anyway

I'll post some more when my brain is less frazzled, give me a few cups of tea worth of time and I'll be more with it, lol

Big huggs for you Daisy, you will get through this, even tho it feels like an emotional tsunami now.

slowlyfading

Hello Daisy,
I've just got online and saw your messages. First of all, this is not your fault. At all. As a self harmer, its all to do with personal trials you face, and never anyone else's fault. She is at that age where things are very confusing, and situations can take a dramatic turn at any moment.
One thing you have to understand (and i'm sure you already do) is that self harm is normally just an outlet for something deeper. The bullying may be a primary concern and trigger for your DD, but if she knows she has you to turn to, that will be a great help. Your love for her comes across so much in your post, and it will be okay, though it may take a while.
If you need any help, or if your daughter needs someone 'neutral' to talk to who knows what she is going through, you are more than welcome to PM me
sf x x

andipandi_2

Hello Daisy



Pleased you posted and

Let_Robinson_Sing

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Let_Robinson_Sing, :T 1 exam down that's good :T Hope it went well. GOOD LUCK with the other exams. I know you've been doing a lot of revision lately. I've got my fingers crossed for you

10 days will go so fast, it really will and then you will see your girlfriend. At least you can text, call or email We are all going to miss you when you go off travelling.

Thanks very much RBK hun. I've got 2 exams tomorrow but they should be easy its general studies and you've just go to argue on your exam paper and i am good and ranting . 9 days now HURRY UP!!!!!

I went out with my dad to a place near Carlisle he had a meeting for a few hours so i sat in cafe and did my revision. I am feeling really tired but i want to watch Springwatch Nightshift later on.

Tulip

:hello: everyone,

I am going to watch HolbyBlue later I like that programme loads tomorrow I have a very busy day,helping at my local church,then off to my craft course

Have a nice evening everyone

lots of love and light,

Katie xxx