Depression II

daisy_doughnut_2

thanks i will do
im hoping with the self harming they will get her some councelling asap but i know how long these waiting lists can be
im thinking about paying private if there to long
any one know how to find a good counceller
im thinking conggnitive therypy as thats wat helped me the most

DD X

Tulip

welcome to the depression thread DD2,

hope all goes well for you later at the drs let us know how it goes

love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

well I have just seen the Pyslogist and it went ok today,but why do I always cry after she leaves? I suppose its about all the emotional feelings coming out and all that I say to her? She is very friendly,understanding and so helpful to me,I suppose sometimes I can be overtired as well but it could be a bit of both I suppose.I had a good cry on my bed and it unleashed all that I was feeling inside

love and light,

Katie xxx

gillette147

Daisy your post moved me ((HUG))

But the thing that hit me the most was the love and caring that you have for your daughter. That is such a precious thing.

Life can turn many ways and sometimes just happens on it's own. Don't blame yourself because no-one can control everything.

The important thing is what you do now.
And it sounds like you are doing everything you can. It's good that you can/are talking to her about it and of course that she feels she can talk to you. I know this may sound flippant (and alot of the time even I can't live by it) but how do you swallow an elephant? Cut it into tiny pieces and then swallow each one.

Tackle each bit of these problems step by step and hopefully things will greatly improve. I wish you luck and will be sending my wishes to you.

xxxx

blinky

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

well I have just seen the Pyslogist and it went ok today,but why do I always cry after she leaves? I suppose its about all the emotional feelings coming out and all that I say to her? She is very friendly,understanding and so helpful to me,I suppose sometimes I can be overtired as well but it could be a bit of both I suppose.I had a good cry on my bed and it unleashed all that I was feeling inside
love and light,
Katie xxx

Hi Katie,
I always felt like !!!!!! when leaving counselling sessions. I think it is all the feelings it brings out.

imported_goldie

DD - please dont blame yourself, my son self-harmed when he was 14/15 and I was devastated when I found out. He was bullied too which wasresponsible for his low self esteem and why he self-harmed. All you can do is make sure that the school does put an end to the bullying and keep repeating how much you love her. The doctor wanted to give my son antidepressants and fortunately he said no (it was seroxat which I believe they now dont believe children should have?) he wanted to sort things out himself. It took a while but he is at uni now and made friends which has given him b ack his confidence. My thoughts are with you as I remember how devastated I was and also felt guilty that I hadnt realised how unhappy he was.

Tiff_2

Hi daisy!
I think it must have taken a lot of courage to post angel - you should feel proud of yourself hun.:T You will find a gold mine of information and wonderful people here daisy and you are most welcome.;)

Okay daisy - first thing to do is to break it all down sweetheart. We'll deal with the important stuff first okay - the practical help.;) Please keep in mind hun that this isn't going to all be solved in a day or so, so slow and easy is the best route.;)

- Angel, you need to be calm.
It's the hardest thing in the world daisy, but your DD needs you to be in control. You are doing all the right things for her and in that, you are a GREAT mother!:T :A


- You are NOT to blame in ANY way and this will not help you in any way sweetie. I know it's a mother's first reaction daisy, but it's not true. I will post more later because I think some of my situation may be relevant.;) I want to post this quickly to see if I can catch you.

- It is a good idea to contact your gp hun because at least you'll know what options there are. At some point though, DD is going to have to see someone. Please be reassured that there's a lot of help out there for her hun.

- Contact her school today and ask to speak to the person who is in charge of Pastoral Care there. If possible make an appointment to see them along with your DD's tutor and her Head of Year.

- The school can provide on-site counselling and support for her and will also be able to monitor her progress. If you can't get to the school hun, it can all be done over the phone. This may be good as it will feel less formal to her and she needn't know that the staff are looking out for her. She will not be made to feel a 'special case'.;)

- Help for you hun. Are you receiving any mental health care? Do you have a CPN or psychiatrist or psychologist? If so, please get in touch with them.
If I were you hun, I'd make an appointment for myself also with the dr. You need as much support as you can get.

You will get through the next few days angel - you've just had a couple of really bad shocks, so try and get through hour by hour ok?
From what you've said, you're a survivor and stronger than you think. We're never stronger than when we fight for our child.
Again, please don't blame yourself angel - no-one at school or anywhere else noticed, did they? It doesn't all fall on your shoulders daisy!;)
Please take a moment to think about this hun - who would be the best possible person to help DD?
Answer - Someone who has already been there!

YOU!:T
You are the best qualified person because you know what she's going through hun. And if it's any help at all sweetheart, children of this age are very resilient generally and there is hope of a good recovery for her.
Just because she is showing some of your symptoms, it doesn't mean that she's going to end up very poorly necessarily and it certainly doesn't mean that she's learned it from you!
And if it had to happen at all sadly, thank heavens it's happened now, before she's at the point where she's revising or sitting her final exams. She's got the benefit of time on her side at least angel.;)

I hope this has helped for now - I will try and post tonight if I can or first thing in the morning. And don't worry about the lack of support from OH hun - if it's any help, we're here any time you need us! Deep breaths okay angel?;) Catch up with you later hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

queensway_boy

daisy doughnut 2

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love the name:D i should be dozy doughnut .....................................

daisy_doughnut_2

thank you all for the support
well i fgeel like ive allready had an exhausting day
hope you dont mind but im going to go on abit

left here this morning to have a brew with friend then another friend whoese dd is also being bullied by the same people called me as she had just spoken to the school who said that there very much with us an they will be with the police this afternoon, she then said that the girls were waiting for them after school yesterday, we didnt send our children in yesterday as they were very scared an then she said maybe we were right not to send them in today also, but i had as she had an exam friend said wel mrs blah didnt just give the impression that my dd wasnt in
so in a panick i called the school the secretary said that my dd should have been in an english exam this morning and she popped in with something and she didnt see her, then she said ile go check an call you back
well!!!
the biggest anxiety attack set on biggest i had had in months if not years crying shakeing imagining my daughter beat up in a ditch ect
after 5 mins which felt like 50 the school called me back appologised for the panick an that she was there an safe she just didnt see her
but that wasnt enough for me
jumped in a black cab an went strait to school
must have looked a right sight shaking crying demanding my daughter?!?!?

so had a good talk with the head who did put my mind at ease i checked all the new security around the school as its a new build just to put my mind as rest the only good thing was that i know this teacher has had similar life experiences so she didnt veiw me as a mum who had lost the plot

any way brought daughter home still an said that she will be off the rest of the week but ile bring her in as she has some exams left
and the school will organise transport to an from for me
i love her school there so supportive and also they do have like councellors there who have kept an eye on her an talked to her

am at the docs at 6

as for me i was only signed off my last psycolgist a few weeks ago i can see me asking the doc for him back

im on tablets the dreaded seroxat an i really dont want it to ever get to the point where dd needs them

thanks all for reading its helpin just getting it out sharing with people that understand i do have supportivce parents my self but there on holiday atm

still very teary trying not to be infront of DD but every time i look at her i want to cry i want to take away her pain her unhappiness so she can smile laugh an not worry any more

i think when i get to talk to my mum an ask her if she blamed herself i may understand an cope a bit better as im sure she did at some point

thanks DD xxx

daisy_doughnut_2

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

well I have just seen the Pyslogist and it went ok today,but why do I always cry after she leaves? I suppose its about all the emotional feelings coming out and all that I say to her? She is very friendly,understanding and so helpful to me,I suppose sometimes I can be overtired as well but it could be a bit of both I suppose.I had a good cry on my bed and it unleashed all that I was feeling inside

love and light,

Katie xxx

hi there i used to be the same
but allways felt relieved afterward an strangely jovial to the point people thought i had doubled up on my meds...:D