Depression II

Let_Robinson_Sing

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Whhooooohooooooooooo!!! go Alex!!! You're a little star you are! I'm soo glad you're feeling better but the selfish part of me is sad cos we're going to miss you soo much. I hope you'll pop in and see us from time to time and let us know how you're going.

Congrats on the engagement and have fun with all the travelling.. I wish you could fit me in a suitcase and take me along too

*toddles off to ponder how we'll cope without our resident ray of sunshine*

lots and lots of love and huggs for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Well you'll see me around for about another 10 days because i am practically dying of lonlieness because i am missing my OH like maaad.

I do need a big suitcase because i've promised to smuggle RBK in the case too. 17 days until Australia :beer:

Karrie

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Is Lesley gone? She was ACE!!! I've had to be a BB free zone all weekend.. no time for TV at all

I'll have to go find some updates in a bit, lol

Yeah One of the new guys pulled her covers off her while she was sleeping and that was the last straw for her. So she walked. I wanted her to stay.

I try so hard not to watch it, but it just draws me in .....................

Tiff_2

andipandi wrote: »

Hi andi!:hello:
Amen to that one hun!;)
I know the feeling well!:rotfl:




Now don't work too hard in this heat hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

Karrie wrote: »

Yeah One of the new guys pulled her covers off her while she was sleeping and that was the last straw for her. So she walked. I wanted her to stay.

I try so hard not to watch it, but it just draws me in .....................

new guys??? omg I'm off to digital spy to find out whats afoot!! lol

andipandi_2

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Andi, if it helps, my daughter has episodes of Anorexia and Bulimia, as well as self harming but they're hoping to be able to discharge her within the next month or so. There's a guy who posts on other parts of the board here who is developing a program similar to the living life to the full site but for people with eating disorders and I think it will be a dvd rather than a website, he's sending me a copy later this week to have a look at, if you like I could ask him to contact you about sending you a copy too?

Hi Ethel, yes i would be interested in the dvd thanks,let me know and i can pm you my email

Andy

andipandi_2

EthelBloggs wrote: »

I don't envy you!! there's nothing worse than trying to get rid of plaster dust :eek:

:eek: :eek: :eek: is exactly how it is:D

Tiff_2

Hi gem!:hello:
How are you angel?

quote=geminilady;
Hi Tiff,Thanks very much for both your posts,as always you give good advice and have great insight.Have you ever thought of becoming a councilor?I think you would do a great job.
You're most welcome to my advice hun - I wasn't using it anyway!:D :rotfl:
A counsellor? Me? :eek:
Look at me hun - would you want to talk to me?!





You'd be in therapy for years sweetheart!:D :rotfl: Maybe a virtual one some day!:eek: :rolleyes: :rotfl:

I was right when i said N would text me,he did the next day to say he hoped i had enjoyed my birthday.At first i just said yes ty but later i said i don't know why you asked because you don't care.A bit childish i know but it did hurt when he did not remember.
It is not childish hun to express your honest thoughts and emotions.;) I'm glad there's still part of you that will put him right and not be afraid to have an opinion.:T

He did say it was honestly meant but then went on the defensive and said if i wanted to be that way i had best do one lol.I was not suprised as i know he reacts badly to the slightest critism and he has text since.
As he would, because he was in the wrong angel.;)
You are so sensitive and kind to his state of mind and well-being angel, but is it returned to you?
If someone can't take any kind of criticism in a normal converstaion hun without hurting you back, then you should back right away imho.
Regardless of what he's been through (and how many of us don't carry some kind of baggage? ), you deserve the respect of being able to voice your opinion.

I know you are thinking of me when you say i should change my mobile but i just can't at the moment.Anyway he would still be in my head and i can't change that lol.I will try and distance myself though. A couple of things you said struck a chord
Do you ever see this working out for you angel? I would only ever wish you good things. You have to do what you have to do and I'm certainly not going to judge you hun.;)

"Yet you seem unable to move on because what you see in him, are all the things you want for yourself in a relationship"
When we first "met" he was trying to get back with an x girlfriend,he spent months looking for her and was very persistant even though she said she wanted nothing to do with him.He did not give up and eventualy got his second chance,it did not work out but it took him a long time to get over her.Nobody has ever cared about me that way and i have never met anyone who would put in that much effort so i think that is what i wanted for myself.
You want and deserve that same devotion and love for yourself gem, and amen to that sweetheart.:T
Just a Tiffy thought hun,:rolleyes: , but is it likely that what you're in love with, is the love and dedication and passion that he has shown he is capable of, to someone else? Because the key words hun here, imho, are - to someone else.
After 4 years with no commitment gem, it's doubtful he's going to feel like this for you hunnie. But, he's keeping you on a string gem - just in case he needs reassurance that he is in control. Imagine the strength/power he feels he must have over you - either voluntary or involuntary - to have kept your kind heart in the shadows for 4 years?:o Are you regularly in touch hun?
This is not to dismiss the fact that he was heartbroken over his relationship ending hun, and the complex problems you say he has.
When you're ready, maybe you should be asking yourself why did that great relationship end?

There was another Tiffy thought, :rolleyes: :rolleyes: , that maybe you should exercise a bit of caution angel and be careful what you wish for.;) That level of persistance could also be seen as controlling or almost possessive. Having said that sweetheart, you're a grown woman and you know him.;)

"Methinks that maybe a little part of you 'enjoys' the challenge of breaking through to him." This is very true,N is very complex,has had mentel health problems and literaly does not trust anyone,just want him to believe he can trust me.Something is bothering him this weekend he told me he fealt like crying from the moment he woke up but won't tell me why, it is so frustrating for me because how can i help if i don't know the reason?I told him what i believe that bottling things up does not help because things just go round and round in your head but he just said that it was his problem and he would be ok.So all i could do is say let me know if theres anything i can do.
I wish I could make your dream come true angel.
He's obviously had a rough time himself and I commend you hun for seeing the good things in such a troubled soul.:A
It sounds like he does talk to you about his problems hun but doesn't necessarily want any feedback from you. Sometimes people just want to talk. I'm hoping that he has a support network in place wherever he is, and that he uses it.:o
He knows you're there at the end of a text message but, in a way, it's unfair to you hun, because he's putting you in a position of hearing all his pain, knowing how you feel about him and still keeping his distance - and all this does is make you worried for him, naturally.
It'll work it's own way out sweetie - just don't forget to keep your eyes open around you and to keep checking that shopping list!;)

Anyway it is not long till your holiday,you must be looking forward to it.I hope the wether keeps up for you.I had to laugh at your post about your son,it will be a learning experiance for him and i am sure he will be fine.
Take care,gem x/quote
Thanks gem hun.
I just don't understand him - I've seen more common sense in a brick!:rolleyes:
He got a B in sciences and yet an F in maths !?!(though he didn't really get enough maths help that he wanted and he will resit it next year). This tells me that he could build an atomic bomb, but wouldn't be able to set the timer!!! :eek: :rolleyes: :rotfl:
So can you see why I may be a bit twitchy about leaving him alone with the microwave for 2 weeks?
I trust him bless him - he's a sweetheart mostly.

As for the weather for my break - as it's me we're talking about :rolleyes:, I still haven't decided whether or not to take my skis and I must remember to check the hurricane warnings for Yorkshire!
Right I'm off - was that a sigh of relief guys? There's all kinds of things needing my attention - including the couch;) - and I think it'll be tomorrow before I can get to the couple of pms I've got.
Take care gem - thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

slowlyfading

Good evening everyone.
Well, my piano recital went okay this morning. I messed up two of my pieces, but still kept going. Dont think I'll be able to do that module next year though just relieved its over, that's my second year done and dusted.
My arms looked pretty bad, even with make up on. I dont think they noticed too much, and if they did, they didn't show any signs of noticing. So that's all good they're so sore now oh well, my own stupid fault.
hope everyone else is okay.
sf x x

EthelBloggs

slowlyfading wrote: »

Good evening everyone.
Well, my piano recital went okay this morning. I messed up two of my pieces, but still kept going. Dont think I'll be able to do that module next year though just relieved its over, that's my second year done and dusted.
My arms looked pretty bad, even with make up on. I dont think they noticed too much, and if they did, they didn't show any signs of noticing. So that's all good they're so sore now oh well, my own stupid fault.
hope everyone else is okay.
sf x x

Well done you :T:T:T:T one year to go

they probably didn't notice because it's more obvious to you because you know it's there, if that makes sense? and also, sad to say, sh is pretty common among students and young people so they might just be used to it and shrug it off, if you see what I mean?

one of the nurses at the hospital where my daughter is recommended comfrey cream, but I keep forgetting to look for it apparenlty you get it in health food/organic/lentil weaving/tofu knitting beardy weirdy hippy shops, lol but she said it's excellent for healing and for minimising scarring too.

queensway_boy

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Well done you :T:T:T:T one year to go

they probably didn't notice because it's more obvious to you because you know it's there, if that makes sense? and also, sad to say, sh is pretty common among students and young people so they might just be used to it and shrug it off, if you see what I mean?

one of the nurses at the hospital where my daughter is recommended comfrey cream, but I keep forgetting to look for it apparenlty you get it in health food/organic/lentil weaving/tofu knitting beardy weirdy hippy shops, lol but she said it's excellent for healing and for minimising scarring too.

When i was about 6 years old i had a bad accident,believe it or not i had a garden fork burried into my foot (Ooooooooouuuchh):mad: Anyway in our street there was this old(well i thought old but i was only six) woman who must have been into potions an that,she used to come round our house everyday to boil-soak and then place when they'de cooled down a bit-comfrey leaves onto my wound,i looked well with all these big leaves draped over my foot,and they stunk as well:rolleyes: Anyways,just to say i think they helped enormously,i felt like a witches guinea pig:rotfl: