Depression II

newlywed

Can I just ask... how do you tell if you are just a bit down or are depressed and need help?

I go for weeks being just fine and then just one thing seems to trigger me off and I'm crying for hours and working out whether to take a pile of painkillers or something worse. But I wouldn't even really do anything as even just thinking about it scares me. Then a couple of days later I can be just fine again for weeks. I don't even know what happens or why it happens really.

I don't know. I just know I feel low, so very low and then suddenly it can all go away and brighten again .

rose07

razorbladekisses wrote: »

I have my review at work on Friday :eek: I've decided to rate myself at the bottom of each criteria to avoid any disappointment. Not looking forward to it tbh. I mean, I do really try hard at work but it never seems like my best is good enough. Nevermind.

Good luck for ya review on friday hun

Try not to get down too much about your boss and how they are. As long as you know you are doing your best hun, thats what counts.

I think we all too easily beat ourselves up about not bein good enough, bein down beat by others, but remember hun, you are special, you have good qualities and you do your best, you cant do anymore than that hun



xxxxx

rose07

newlywed wrote: »

Can I just ask... how do you tell if you are just a bit down or are depressed and need help?

I go for weeks being just fine and then just one thing seems to trigger me off and I'm crying for hours and working out whether to take a pile of painkillers or something worse. But I wouldn't even really do anything as even just thinking about it scares me. Then a couple of days later I can be just fine again for weeks. I don't even know what happens or why it happens really.

I don't know. I just know I feel low, so very low and then suddenly it can all go away and brighten again .

It can be hard to understand if your just havin a low time or feelin depressed, but only you will know, best thing is to get to the doctors. There are alot of signs in depression, but then some people may not have any of these signs and still feel very low. I think if you feel you are gettin to a point where you are feelin soo low, then you will know when you need help

What seems to trigger you off? I think even if things like contemplating takin a load of painkillers is ebtering your thoughts hun, you need to get some help.

We can all have good days, and bad days, but its how we deal with them that matters, and it doesnt hurt to have support in place, for when we are feelin low

and we are all here, to talk and support each other how we can, and if you ever need to talk, then come in and pull up a chair

take care

xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Karrie, I know I shouldn't let it get to me but it does. I just feel so useless and unwanted. Work means a lot to me and I'm fortunate that I was allowed to return to the same job after being off sick. I have considered leaving but I know I have no chance of being allowed to work in the same kind of job elsewhere, so that's partly why I stay. I don't know I know it sounds very sad but other than work I have very little else in my life.

Thank you for your kind words Karrie.

Let_Robinson_Sing, I agree that if there had been a problem then the CPN should have called the receptionist at the health centre so that they could have let you know. That is really bad. Do you have a contact number for your CPN? Was it your GP that referred you to a CPN? If so, I'd make an appointment with him/her and explain what has happened and get him to find out what's going on.

juno, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your parakeet Big(((HUGS))) Had you had him/her a long time?

Oh dear lol did your sister laugh when she realised what you had actually said?

Sugar_Coated_Owl

newlywed, I agree with Rose, if you have thought about taking a lot of pills then you do need to seek some help.

Do you find that how you are feeling is affecting work, relationships with others, general day to day life e.t.c?

Usually with depression, you will feel low for quite a long period of time.

It's very hard to distinguish between feeling low and being depressed.

It wouldn't hurt to make an appointment with your GP to discuss how you are feeling.

rose07

Tiff wrote: »

Good morning my little pork scratchings!:hello:
I hope everyone is safe and sound and accounted for.;)

Hi Tiff, how ya doing?

Thanks for all the good wishes for my brother's wedding. I was literally running around like a mad thing Saturday a.m. I got taxis ordered - one for DS who was an usher, and one for me to go 30 mins later. We were about 5 mins late trying to sort out his cravat and his taxi just left even though we'd said wait a bit. So then it was 20 mins before another came for him.:eek:

Awww hun, soo proud of you,time is a valuble thing isnt it? we either never seem to have enough, or not too much, lol.

So 45 mins before the wedding, Tiff as still in her dressing gown, no make up, no hair done!

Ah madness hun, these are always the best times hun, i tend to get ready in slow or double quick time, can be 5 mins or 3 hours lol

I'd been up very early but I'd gotten the idea on Friday that I needed some colour to go with the outfit and I bought 2 metres of royal blue silk as my brother and groomsmen were dressed in midnight blue suits. Now Tiff's paws are not naturally talented at this, but Saturday morning there I was trying to make a wrap!:rolleyes:

And i bet you made a good wrap at that hun, never say never. Well done for getting out and getting the things you needed. it can take an awful lot of strength to just get out the door, so well done hun :T :T

Anyway, dressed, makeup, hair done in 25 mins. Taxi had been waiting for 10 of them. I'd torn the house apart downstairs looking for all the bits I needed, which had been in plain view the night before. My kitchen (pans on the floor!), sitting room and dining room looked like a firing test range. And of course, the more I panicked, the harder it became to find things.:eek:

you need organised chaos hun :rotfl: .

I made a pitstop in the loo then I came out, locked the door and got in the taxi - 15 minutes before wedding was due to start.:rolleyes: Got there 10 mins before the bride.

You got there, you got out, and you got there on your own, in a taxi, on your own, well done hun. I hope you are treatin yaself to somethin nice, after stresses, a nice treat can do the world a good

I felt self-conscious all dressed up and I asked the taxi driver if I looked all right. He said I did but that he'd noticed that my dress was tucked in at the back on my left hand side!
I wanted a rock to crawl under and although my bag was heavy with the Tiff Survival Kit, I didn't have a rock in it for that situation - I have now though!:rotfl: Thank God he had the decency to tell me and not let me go up the aisle like that!:o

Im very glad he told you hun, honest people are great, and he was clearly that way. He could have been cruel but he wasnt. We can often end up in horrible situations due to others lol.

The service was beautiful, the bride stunning and the service had me in tears. I'm not overly sentimental :whistle:, but you could see their sincerity when taking their vows, and I couldn't help but think about my Dad and how proud he'd have been of my brother. The love shone from them. You just knew it was for life for them - perfect!:T It was so funny because when the vicar said 'For better or worse...', we all heard torrential rain start to pour down outside!:rotfl: DS read out a poem I'd written them at the service and he said he was very proud of me, that I looked like a lady and looked so pretty bless him.

Oooo im soo glad hun. It sounds lovely . Awww bless your DS for tellin you how great you looked, and rightly soo too hun , It strange i was at my sisters today and we were talkin about her weddin. Its all planned now, im soo excited lol . I have to get a new dress tho , hmmm what to wear? What did you wear hun? Do we get to see?

They said such sincere vows, quite traditional, and I couldn't help but feel more than a bit sad that all I'd ever wanted was someone to feel that way about me, to love me that much......
I felt so sad that my marriage had ended the way it did in domestic violence and I guess like everyone else, I'd like a happy ever after with someone I was deeply in love with and who loved me the same way.

Aww bless you hun. Its never too late hun. And no sayin your gettin old, you can be young at heart hun. If there is somethin or someone out there, then go and get it, dont live on regrets, do it today hun.
Domestic violence is horrible, some people stay in marriages, but hun, you did the right thing and got out. And you need to realise how strong you were to do that. And you will get there hun, you will have your happy ever after. You just gotta make it happen hun. But failin that hun, you will have a place in my and im sure everyones heart right here, never forget how special you are

I don't know how but through various ways and means, I managed to stay nearly to the end. It was all finishing about 8.30pm. anyway. People were nice enough to say how nice I looked - photos when I feel I can wrestle with the camera or when one of you needs a punishment!:rolleyes:

Well done hun, i hope you patted yaself on the back. And yes photos hun, you know what im like

So sometimes guys, somethings feel impossible to do, such a struggle and so daunting, but we can try to face it and be rewarded with a better experience than we though it would be. I'm still so tired. Got lots of big stuff going on in the Tiffy grey matter.:o

Well said hun , :T :T :T

Thank you so much for your encouragement guys - I appreciated it.:A
Take care all of you. Good luck with your week guys!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Much love hun

xxx

rose07

elona wrote: »

Have spent the last three days - visiting elderly relatives on Sat. - visiting student daughter to bring her groceries, take her to lunch and cheer her up on Sunday - yesterday traipsed all round Leeds trying to coax DD into getting a decent haircut ( even though I was paying she whinged non stop!)

Finally have the house to myself for an hour and peace and quiet!!!!

I wish I still had the figure for the dress but after twins, another DD, three miscarriages, and last DD being breech and a caesarian - i am definately built for comfort nowadays.

Hi elona

Not seen you in a while? How are you doing?

What a good mum your daughters has, bringen one her groceries, and havin their hair cut. I hope they appreciate it hun.

You have certainly been through it hun with births, and miscarriages:(. Birth i cant understand as i never given birth. Sooo many people i know, my age or younger now have kids and i just dont know where the time goes. One person i know got pregnant, just because her twin sister did. I mean that no way to bring a child up . I know when the time is right, i will bring a child up, but not before.

Comfort is always best

take care hun xxx

rose07

gillette147 wrote: »

Well folkes,

I am off to Brum tonight. There's a Health and Safety Expo up there and I can visit family etc. (I baked a sponge cake yesterday and I'm taking it up there - me baked a cake!!). I am going to cut lawn and do some sorting out first.

I have decided that I want to come off the meds. My g/f doesn't like me on them (or rather uses it to justify her smoking/drinking). I don't feel any different on them anyway. And I have fought my depression without them for 20 years so I can again. Some of my depression is circumstantial and things are getting better (g/f,...passed exams etc). My depression was never a debilitating (SP) one.

I see the doctor next week and I'll find out what he thinks.
There's getting to be too many of you to mention by name!!
My thoughts are with you all. And good luck with appraisals/reviews/appeals etc.

xxxx

Hi hun

How was the brum?

And how are you doing?

Well done on makin a cake hun.

I think as farr as your meds hun, you need to do what right for you . Im wanting to take myself off my mdes as well atm. I have an appointment with my psychiatrist on friday and will see what he thinks. (yes, i finally got contact from the professionals :T :T :T ). But its not right of your gf to use it as an excuse.

I hope you ok hun

xxx

slowlyfading

Good evening.
Absolutely shattered - just got back from campus now. I'm off to bed in a minute and might actually have a bit of a lie in tomorrow morning. Then I'm off to campus again for another day of revision and practising. Oh the joys
Hope everyone else is okay.
sf x x

rose07

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