What should we do?

arbrighton

Ciderarmy1987 wrote: »

Ok i understand that completely, but also we really don't want to be left in a position where we are homeless.

We are very tight with money in-terms of deposit and fees etc and putting things into storage is expensive right?

What do you suggest we tell our landlord as we really don't want to move out without a house to move into.

I think it is a real posability that we could wait around 2,3,4 weeks and then have the vendor pull out and then we are in the position that we have no house and all our furniture in storage! what do we do then? we would then have to lock into a 6 month let and be in a position that we really don't want to be in!

I understand what you are saying, but this is an unforseen (well to you, maybe not to vendor) issue and you need to deal with it, sensitively. IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!
I don't have the answers to your issues, but perhaps you and partner should discuss those and have a contingency plan rather than going after vendor immediately. Talk to friends/ family who might have spare rooms/ garages/ space. Look into short term options.
What if the vendor just decided to pull out anyway, without parent having died?

Ciderarmy1987

I understand that it is not all about us but we have to plan for what is going to happen. I don't think that it is completely unreasonable for us to to look out for ourselves and stop us being homeless.

What would YOU do in this situation?

ValHaller

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

EDIT: Just seen Valhallers post and anything more likely to get your vendor to tell you the whole deal is off I couldn't imagine. I would be absolutely horrified and shocked in your vendors position if I were expected to do anything at all for the next couple of weeks other than get on with My Life (including dealing with fathers death). She is likely to have one quick "explosion" in the direction of her EA for even suggesting such a thing to her in the circumstances - followed by a more considered response a few days later in the form of a letter to her EA informing him that the house is off the market and the deal is off.

If vendor is likely to explode at this and take the house off the market, then she was never committed to the sale. So no great loss there.

The agent is best placed to deliver the message, but these are real deadlines imposed by the situation with OP's LL and even in a situation of a loss like this, a reasonable person would not be so precious that they are totally consumed by their own loss to the point of leaving other people's lives hanging in limbo.

At this stage there are no great issues apart from completing paperwork, it would seem. If the vendor needed more time, she should be making a specific request I feel.

ValHaller

arbrighton wrote: »

I understand what you are saying, but this is an unforseen (well to you, maybe not to vendor) issue and you need to deal with it, sensitively. IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!
I don't have the answers to your issues, but perhaps you and partner should discuss those and have a contingency plan rather than going after vendor immediately. Talk to friends/ family who might have spare rooms/ garages/ space. Look into short term options.
What if the vendor just decided to pull out anyway, without parent having died?

Totally unreasonable to expect OP to give up a home and go into spare rooms garages etc, when it is quite forseeable and not unlikely that the life changing consequences of death of vendor's dad could actually prompt the vendor to take the property off the market even without an approach from OP.

lawriejones1

Pay the landlord for another months rent and save the hassle. Whatever it costs, it's the right thing for them and you.

arbrighton

ValHaller wrote: »

Totally unreasonable to expect OP to give up a home and go into spare rooms garages etc, when it is quite forseeable and not unlikely that the life changing consequences of death of vendor's dad could actually prompt the vendor to take the property off the market even without an approach from OP.

I did not say give up, just develop a contingency plan in case it doesn't go according to this timescale
As for what I'd do, well I've said in what I've suggested.

arbrighton

lawriejones1 wrote: »

Pay the landlord for another months rent and save the hassle. Whatever it costs, it's the right thing for them and you.

Yup- there will have been many threads saying don't give notice until you've actually exchanged. Even if it is an 'informal' arrangement.
We didn't give notice until we had exchanged, even though it just missed one rental period as, at that point, the competence of our vendors' conveyancers was in doubt to say the least. As it happens, the overlap of 6 weeks between completion and handing keys back allowed us to get most of the house decorated before having to lump furniture about.

Ciderarmy1987

arbrighton wrote: »

Yup- there will have been many threads saying don't give notice until you've actually exchanged. Even if it is an 'informal' arrangement.
We didn't give notice until we had exchanged, even though it just missed one rental period as, at that point, the competence of our vendors' conveyancers was in doubt to say the least. As it happens, the overlap of 6 weeks between completion and handing keys back allowed us to get most of the house decorated before having to lump furniture about.

Ok, I get that but previously we have had a lot of pressure from the vendor to complete quickly, hence us having already haven given notice to our landlord.

You are not really giving us advice about what we should do right now, in OUR situation

becominganobsessivesaver

If possible commit to another month with you landlord, then get the EA to explain to the vendor that you will exchange asap, but the completion date wil be the date yor tenancy ends. To be slightly flexible you can move this forward a few days if necessary, but make sure they understand that you are doing this because you understand their difficult circumstances, and still want to exchange asap.

ValHaller

arbrighton wrote: »

I did not say give up, just develop a contingency plan in case it doesn't go according to this timescale
As for what I'd do, well I've said in what I've suggested.

I know you did not actually say 'give up a home'. But if they don't give up their home, then they won't need spare rooms, garages etc. So you might as well have said 'give up a home'.