Time to be completely honest

Lucy1982_2

Hi Sea

I hope that everything is ok today. You are an amazing person and can get through anything. Remember we are here for you if you need us. PM me for a chat.

Take care sweetheart xx

chocaholic110

Hope you're doing ok this morning!

postingalwaysposting

thinking of you too sea x

Sea78

Well, we had the talk last night. I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. He begged for one more chance. So like a weak pathetic person I agreed. However, I have issued an ultimatum - might seem really harsh I know, but I can't take it any more - basically, he has to chose between the drink and me (and therefore our life as a family etc). If he repeats the behaviour of the last few days (actually years, what am I on about?) then I will leave him. He has admitted to being an alcoholic and that he doesn't know what to do. He is making a drs app and also getting in touch with the counselling through work. I know that many recovering alcoholics may think I am being too harsh that if he has a relapse then I'll be gone, but with everything that has happened I don't think he'll change unless given an ultimatum.

Feel very strong despite it all and have told him I deserve better, as do the children. That I have thought I had the problem for the last few years but finally realise it's not me - it is him.

My friend is arriving this afternoon which I'm really looking forward to - need to get things ready first.

I don't know how I feel at the moment - thank you so much for all your support. I honestly don't know if he will be able to do this - but he has to if we are to stay together because it's just not fair.

I think now I know I woul dbe financially ok without him, it's meant that the only thing keepin us together now is his desire to make it work.I'll give it this one last shot, but being perfectly honest, I don't know if I still love him.

Sea xxx

Lucy1982_2

Well Done you.

If you think that it the right decision then that is what you need to do. But I would work out if you love him or not, if not then it is not doing anyone any good staying.

Huge hugs and make sure that you enjoy time with your friend.

Do you have any local AA groups?

Take care love x

Sea78

Yes - there is enough need round here!! but he needs to research and find and go himself I think - I can't do anything more now. He needs to take responsibility.

Lucy1982_2

That's very true.

Well you know where I am if you need anything. Remember to take care of yourself and the little sea's as you are all very important and should be number 1!

spud30

Big hugs Sea, I'm sorry to hear things aren't great.

I hope you have a great time with your friend.

Stay strong x

In_Search_Of_Me

hugs for you my lovely Good that your friend is now with you & can give the moral support that you need. Is there an alanon group near you? May help to speak to people who are going through the same...As you say he needs to take responsibility & sort it - it has to come from him and this time he knows the consequences if he doesent. Lets hope he does...if not at least you know you've done all you can & you cant do more than that can you eh? Here if you need a chat...hugs hugs for you - am thinking of you lots

hypno06

I don't think you have been harsh at all. I think you have been very strong, and as you say, it is HIM that has to make that change now, not you.

Enjoy the time with your friend xxxxxx