Time to be completely honest

Seaxwyn

Sea, don't feel desperate, there is bound to be a solution to this. Talk to a different solicitor perhaps. Also - why not go to mil and tell her? She should know, he's her son after all. He is behaving abominably, you don't have to keep it to yourself.

In_Search_Of_Me

Wish I was closer & you could come here....how far away is your mum? Hope the workings out work ok. Have pm'd you ...

Sea78

OMG! I can't believe it - just worked out the finances and if I reduced the food etc bill to £200 (obviously would aim for less for just the 3 of us!) and taking into account everything, I could cover the outgoings with increased tax credits and my income and also manage at least £500 towards debt repayments, which would mean they would be unlikely to take me to court/bankrupt me etc. Wow. I'm sure there is something wrong....will have to get to the CAB or somewhere similar for further details about it all.

Thanks ISOM - have written it down and may well use it over the next few days - you are a star!

Sea xxx

Seaxwyn

You go girl! Good for you - you can provide for your family AND protect them from the stress of an unpredictable and abusive father. Best of luck with it.

Sea78

Thanks hon...here we go. i can hear stirring from upstairs...

hypno06

How about giving CCCS a call tomorrow - I am sure they will have come across things like this before and may be able to help you out a bit? I agree though that the CAB should be on your list of places to go tomorrow, but things are looking a little less gloomy than they were earlier aren't they!!

ginormousflares

Hiya Sea, I have no wise words of comfort for you I'm afraid, which is quite frankly appalling considering all the wonderful advice you have given me over the years (yes I can say years!, WOW). Big hugs to you and I hope however it works out that it works out to your major advantage and happiness. Happy New Year. GF xxx

In_Search_Of_Me

Use it any time & I mean that! Am thinking of you after your last post & in view of recent outbursts hope you & the children are all ok. Sounds as if you would be better off without him TBH...living in fear is awful, esp as a child when you dont fully understand what is going on....keep posting

In_Search_Of_Me

Hope you're ok?....

SarahNeedle1872

Hi Sea, just catching up with ur diary, and it sounds as if ur having more fun with ur OH than I am with mine! Why do men have to be so horrid!?!
I also had a look at entitledto.co.uk as a option in case things got worse..... Not sure where to gofrom there if neeed be tho - CAB I guess!
Hope everything is ok with you, as you haven't been here for a few hours...

TC, and lots of hugs.... thinking of you too!

Sarah x