Dealing with a Fiance with a lot of debt.

EvieSaver

I think the fine details of this are irrelevant, what matters is that you are asking other people who don't know you whether you should get married. I never felt the need to ask anyone whether I should be marrying the person I did, in fact the opposite was true. If anyone had told me not to marry him I'd have argued why I should. I think that this is the important point here. If you're not sure then don't get married - the reasons don't matter, just wait until you're sure.

LannieDuck

It doesn't really sound as if you want to marry her... and honestly, I don't blame you.

boslamr

LannieDuck wrote: »

It doesn't really sound as if you want to marry her... and honestly, I don't blame you.

I guess the point of my post is my trying to understand if it's even remotely possible to ever trust her with money, or with anything else. If a person can really change, how the hell long should I give it to see. As it is, I'm not really obligated to give it a go. Just out of love and the fact that she seemed sincere. But it wouldn't be the first time that she's been sincere.

londonsurrey

boslamr wrote: »

I guess the point of my post is my trying to understand if it's even remotely possible to ever trust her with money, or with anything else. If a person can really change, how the hell long should I give it to see. As it is, I'm not really obligated to give it a go. Just out of love and the fact that she seemed sincere. But it wouldn't be the first time that she's been sincere.

There's the rub. She's probably sincere. For the moment she says it.
Then, it's "Ooh, butterfly!" or "Ooh, (whatever she wants to spend on)"

She's probably not even honest with herself, which is why she comes across as sincere, because in her head, she believes it, for that moment in time.

You're looking at a daddy's little princess, who is still living that life, not a mature responsible woman, in control of herself or her life.

It's fine if you want a pet female that you're happy to indulge and cosset. Not so good if you want an equal life partner.