Limo on last day of school

fluffnutter

OMG. These are kids leaving primary and going up to secondary school. They're eleven, fgs. Limos?? What a load of nonsense.

OP, rise above all this crap.

pinkshoes

Just ask the organising parents to MAKE room on one of the limos. If they don't, then write to the school and let them know what has happened, and ask what they're doing to do about this bullying by the parents!

Limos are SO tacky!! And most aren't roadworthy!

piglet74

I'm sorry but I am with mandi and fluffnutter...

!!!!!!.. Limos and fire engines.. Just because its the last day of school... That's so OTT... What's going to happen at graduation.. Or when they get their first job at that rate..

On my DD last day at primary school, everyone signed each others shirt and wrote a message on it.

TeamLowe

Could it be a completely innocent mistake? If the school isn't involved then parents a b and c book a limo, ask their child to pick nine friends to go with, so thirty all together in three limos, but there's 32 in the class.

Your son isn't good enough friends with children a b or c to be in their top friends, and the parents don't compare notes as they're just trying to do something nice for their own child.

I agree that more thought should have been put into it and the school should get involved, although maybe the headmaster also thinks it's a ridiculous thing and wants an excuse to ban it x

Bella73

kjmtidea wrote: »

It wasn't arranged by the school, there were no letters, just groups of parents arranging it all. I spoke to the head teacher in passing the other day and he said that it was difficult for him to get involved because it isn't arranged by the school but the limos go onto the school grounds so surely they hold a little responsibility? I think because the tradition was started years ago, it will always continue and the school should get involved - even if it is just sending out letters making everyone aware so that children don't get left out.

My son is quite upset about the whole thing, I haven't really let on about how annoyed I am with the whole situation because I don't want to make him feel worse! I like the suggestion of picking him up 30 minutes early so he can avoid the whole thing, I don't drive but we could go jump on a bus and find something nice to do.

I do agree that it is a little ott but I think that it is a nice thing to do for them, it would be £17 each for the limo. My son is going to grammar and there are only 3 boys from his year going so it's his last day with his friends, I think emotions are playing a big part in this too.

Thanks for all the replies, just nice to get others peoples views and ideas.

Probably jealous that your son got into the grammar school, well done to him:T

I like others have said would pick him up early and do something special especially as he doesn't have to mix with theses children anymore.

Hope he has a lovely time at his new school.

susancs

kjmtidea wrote: »

It wasn't arranged by the school, there were no letters, just groups of parents arranging it all. I spoke to the head teacher in passing the other day and he said that it was difficult for him to get involved because it isn't arranged by the school but the limos go onto the school grounds so surely they hold a little responsibility? I think because the tradition was started years ago, it will always continue and the school should get involved - even if it is just sending out letters making everyone aware so that children don't get left out.

My son is quite upset about the whole thing, I haven't really let on about how annoyed I am with the whole situation because I don't want to make him feel worse! I like the suggestion of picking him up 30 minutes early so he can avoid the whole thing, I don't drive but we could go jump on a bus and find something nice to do.

I do agree that it is a little ott but I think that it is a nice thing to do for them, it would be £17 each for the limo. My son is going to grammar and there are only 3 boys from his year going so it's his last day with his friends, I think emotions are playing a big part in this too.

Thanks for all the replies, just nice to get others peoples views and ideas.

The Head Teacher has a duty to ensure all activities conducted on school premises meet with school policies and procedures, so by allowing the limos onto school grounds he has a responsibility. Knowingly allowing a child to be intentionally isolated from a group is against most anti-bullying school policies. Also if I was one of the other Parents I would not be happy that any child was left out.

sulkisu

I think accusing parents of passively agressively bullying your son, is a bit OTT - that's just my opinion.

I'm not sure why people are blaming the parent here - surely it must be the children, as I doubt if the parents have dictated to their children, which friends they have to go with.

And even then (unless your son has fallen out with the other children or has done something to all of them), it sounds like they were just a bit thoughtless - as teenagers tend to be, not malicious.
If it is a big school, I can imagine a scenario where friends have asked other friends to go with them (until they had enough people to fill the limo) without going around checking if everyone else had been included somewhere. I can understand you feeling disappointed for your son, but anything else seems misplaced.

Many years ago when I was still at school, come the end of term, groups of us would often go out to the pictures or something similar. We decided who to ask, not our parents and I didn't stop to see if x, y, and z also had plans or somewhere to go.

My boys are still babies, but I hope to goodness this 'tradition' has disappeared by the time they are in school - it just sounds so pretensious and B/S***ty.

peachyprice

A few parents tried to organise this when my DD left primary last year, the rest of us told them not to be so silly and leave it for their yr11 prom. The school were equally supportive and told them that if they did arrange it they couldn't bring the cars on to school grounds, as the school is at the end of a narrow lane and they would need to come into the playground to turn round it put a stop to it.

OP, as much as I think it's a ridiculous thing to do for primary school leaving, I would be absolutely livid with the mother who thinks you're good enough to leave her son with twice a week but hasn't included your son in the limo arrangements, what a thoughtless way to behave.

bylromarha

2 of the limos kids in our primary school booked for their last day never turned up. We had 10 kids sitting at the end of the drive for over an hour looking bored and fed up.

Have you got any friends who are firemen/policemen/paramedic/ice cream van drivers/top gear presenters that you could pull a favour from?

geekgirl

In our town you can hire a Harley. If you can ride a bike or have someone you trust that can I am sure he would love to be collected by a Harley.

Or if you have a top Marc car dealership see if you can arrange a test drive for the time that he needs collecting.

But I have to say if it were me my kids would not be getting any of that. We always went out for a cheapy (carvery or similar) meal to mark the end of each term. Sounds a bit naff but we have to live within our means.

I hope you find something that suits you both because the thought of him being left out is not nice at all.