Limo on last day of school

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jellyhead wrote: »

My lovely Nanna used to play bingo with her friend. Not Gala bingo, just a little game in a church hall for charity, where the prizes were tins of peaches and jars of coffee.

Every time she said 'two fat ladies, me and *friend's name*' her friend looked like a bulldog chewing a wasp :rotfl:

Aww nan used to play that kind of bingo too

I'd often go round and she'd let me have one of her winnings..usually a bottle of panda pop (can you still buy that stuff-chrsit it ws E numbers in a bottlle)

duchy

jellyhead wrote: »

Year 6 is age 11. Last time I checked my own children were living below the poverty line. They've never been in a limo. Poor sausages

I've never been in a limo (nor has my son since his year 6 leaving ball -he had no interest in doing the leaving do thing at 16 -and neither did any of the other kids -ironically a private fee paying school).

Should I feel scarred ?

I do think it's nice to mark leaving a school -especially if the kids are scattering. It seems a bit daft if they are in effect just moving building from the local primary to the local high school though.

Ten years ago when the idea was raised (by parents) of a leaving ball for our 11 year olds I just rolled my eyes but they were a tight class and we all knew each other well (state CoE primary one class per year) but it was well thought out -no-one was excluded either on social grounds or cost (the school wouldn't have allowed us to use the school hall, decorate it, steal the dinner ladies and the kitchen , use the staff as chaperones etc otherwise) and the parents were banned -we were relegated to a gazebo on the field with our BYO picnic (wine permitted after we'd decorated the hall )

If these events are going to happen -as it seems they are. I think it is better that the school is involved so the parental cliques can't play exclusion games.

Saturnalia

Spendless wrote: »

My guess/understanding of the situation is that the parents have booked 3 x 10 seater limos -possibly because that was all there was left to hire, if they are in an area where doing this is the norm for the last day of Primary school so there was always going to be 2 not included from a class of 32. How they decided which 2 were going to be left out I don't know. I think an early post said the other child not invited is the class bully. The ops son also being missed out might be an unfortunate oversight or deliberate for whatever reason and OP is only likely to find out why it's happened by asking the parents concerned.

I'm not even sure what to make of the bully being left out. I understand why he was, if he's made the other kids' school life a misery. But on the other hand, it should have been the school that stamped on his behaviour hard a long time ago, and who knows, maybe if they had he'd have ended up less of a bully?

The idea of a posse of parents administering a social humiliation to him - isn't that bullying in itself? 30+ parents against one 11 year old? Again I understand why they want to do it, but do two wrongs make a right?

And will it help matters anyway? It might shock the bully into realising he's out of order and he needs to change his behaviour at his next school... but it might make him into an even nastier character since he reasons no-one likes him anyway?

jellyhead

Maybe he bullies because he's felt excluded since he was tiny? If the parents are so close that they can arrange something like this, which surprises me with year 6 kids because they don't tend to get walked to school by mumsy, then maybe this clique of parents decided long ago to exclude him because they didn't like the look of his parents.

silvercar

Spendless wrote: »

My guess/understanding of the situation is that the parents have booked 3 x 10 seater limos -possibly because that was all there was left to hire, if they are in an area where doing this is the norm for the last day of Primary school so there was always going to be 2 not included from a class of 32. How they decided which 2 were going to be left out I don't know. I think an early post said the other child not invited is the class bully. The ops son also being missed out might be an unfortunate oversight or deliberate for whatever reason and OP is only likely to find out why it's happened by asking the parents concerned.

I agree with this.

Possible "excuses" for dropping certain kids:

1.They made sure they included all the kids that would be together at secondary school.
2. Parents they felt would be unwilling to contribute to the cost.
3. The class bully.

Poppy9

jellyhead wrote: »

My lovely Nanna used to play bingo with her friend. Not Gala bingo, just a little game in a church hall for charity, where the prizes were tins of peaches and jars of coffee.
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I remember going with my mother to the local scouts hall for Bingo with quite sad prizes but it was fun. They were fund raising for a street party (*****chav alert, chav alert*****) for the Queen's Silver Jubilee I think which was quite a big celebration.

carolpinkdreamer

duchy wrote: »

I suspect they are embarassed rather than it's deliberate

If I had overlooked a child and his parent pointed it out to me I would be horrified. I would move hell and high water to include the left out child. I would be apologising profusely and would go to extra expense and trouble to make sure the poor child was included.

The fact that these parents have still made no effort to include him proves that they are deliberately excluding him.

I would write to the headteacher and chair of governors saying I was disappointed that they condoned bullying and then I would keep him off on the last day and take him to the zoo or cinema or wherever he wanted. x

mountainofdebt

Janepig wrote: »

Cheeky mare! :eek::eek::rotfl:

Jx

too bl00dy right !

Dabbers at dawn it is then:D

Poppy9

OP have you spoken again with any of your son's friends parents?

kjmtidea

I spoke to one yesterday and by the sounds of it, it was booked by groups of parents who are very good friends, the kids didn't have much say in it. So now her son is annoyed that he is in a limo with a couple of kids that he really doesn't like and he isn't in a limo with my son.

It's all booked and paid for them though so there isn't a lot they can do, it's not a simple case of squeezing my son in because the companies have strict rules. Also since a few people on this thread mentioned about doing something else and I made the suggestion to my son, he is really excited about having the opportunity to do something different