Low sex drive :(

heartbreak_star

Urgh, I can't think of a bigger turn-off than the 50 Shades books...if you want proper erotic BDSM fiction read the Story of O.

Another vote for family planning clinics here, they're much better than GPs with contraceptive dealings. I had a Mirena for several years, but have now gone back to the Depo injection and find it much better than any pill.

What's your diet like? Do you get enough protein? I found when I ate too many carbs I got tired and my libido gave out.

Definitely take some exercise as well - strength training and cardio.

Good luck!

HBS x

vanessav

I don't think that you have sexual dysfunction. Like lots of other posters, I think it is likely to be the pill. If you think about it, nature makes us horny when we are fertile. For men this is often all the time as they are always fertile! lol. For women, it is around the time of ovulation. Obviously the pill stops you from ovulating which is why it is such an effective contraceptive! If you did use something else, such as a barrier method, you may find that you feel nice and sexy for a few more days a month.

grey_lady

Agree about the pill, try the mini-pill or the rhythm method (there are modern devices to help) and a barrier method on the fertile days.

jtr2803

It's weird that many assume this issue only applies to women, I am about to marry the most handsome, kind and caring man I have ever met, he just happens to have absolutely no sex drive at all. The way you described having no desire is exactly the way he describes it to me, I went through all the emotions you are probably assuming your partner is feeling now. Yes, at times it's been incredibly difficult for me to deal with and I've done the entire 'is it me, am I not sexy, is he cheating?' etc over the years but I decided some years ago that my love for him is greater than my need to have sex..............to be blunt!

There really may be a medical reason so it is 100% worth getting checked out but sometimes there is no reason, it's just the way it is and sometimes you have to learn to accept it. We manage in our own way! :rotfl:;)

bitemebankers

jtr2803 wrote: »

There really may be a medical reason so it is 100% worth getting checked out but sometimes there is no reason, it's just the way it is and sometimes you have to learn to accept it. We manage in our own way! :rotfl:;)

Exactly this. People's individual needs vary a lot. That said, there are few things more demoralising, in my experience, than one partner having a high sex drive and the other having little or none. It's one area of relationships where I think it helps to be reasonably well matched. Either that, or you work around the problem some other way: in one couple I know, the man has little or no sex drive but they're otherwise very happy together and have a couple of great kids. She gets her release from an FWB, with her partner's consent. They've been together over 20 years.

daska

LOL, hadn't seen this thread but was having exactly this conversation this morning with two carers, we all agreed that going on the pill had been the most effective form of contraception we'd ever tried simply because it killed our sex drives.

Try using a diaphragm, contrary to popular belief there's no need for it to kill the moment