Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

vivatifosi

When I finally get round to my own family tree, rather than my friend's, it won't surprise me to find out I'm related to my husband. It will be distant, but I discovered after about 15 years of marriage that his family's surname popped up in my family's line and they were living in the same area at the same time. It was a bit of a shock when I first found out. I'm talking about a century ago.

Possibly a good job we never had kids... They could have been blue.

Spirit_2

zagubov wrote: »

That blue-skinned family I posted about in the last thread .

Can you please send a link?

Nikkster

Just wanted to say thanks for the support everyone

Lydia - your advice was the height of sensible and reason. I'm trying to be as sensible and reasoned as I can muster, I promise.

I have no social engagements planned in August, am very close to finishing the first results chapter (which has tormented me for about 3 years), and work is hopefully going to be quiet whilst people are on summer hols. I will feel a major sense of achievement finishing this chapter, regardless of whether the others materialise or not.

Despite the pretty foolish addition of buying a house to the list of 'things I am doing', I feel much better knowing that if all goes to plan I'll have somewhere settled to move to, and finally somewhere of my own (well, in conjunction with the bank for a good while). I've put off doing so very many things because of the bloody thesis and I can't do it any longer (esp reluctant to put off buying until next year).

If I don't make it, yes, I'll be disappointed with myself. But I'll know that I did everything I could at the time to make it happen - it just wasn't enough. But I've still come out of my 'not great time' all a lot better than I could have done. I think I've already got most of the self-flagellation out of the way (goodness knows I've had plenty of time to do so!).

Deep down, I can't bring myself to proactively decide not to finish. I know that leaves trying (to a greater or lesser extent) and failing as a distinct possibility.
Silvercar - no, this is a proper dead-end deadline. I don't think I'd try and move it anyway, I know I would end up in the same position again. Anyway, I'm looking forward to it not hanging over me

vivatifosi

Good luck Nikks. Whatever happens, you'll have given it your best shot.

Spirit_2

Viva

You were posting about your experiences of NHS Hospitals recently.

NHS Choices started to publish local ratings based on patient feedback yesterday. It is a bit of a blunt tool but like lots of early inventions it has room to improve, and it is a start.

http://www.nhs.uk/NHSEngland/AboutNHSservices/Pages/nhs-friends-and-family-test.aspx

click the link in the page to services near you. I plugged in my post code and got Hospitals within a reasonable travelling distance.

There is also a 'named and shamed' list of the worst wards although some of them are branded such on the strength of 1 response.

vivatifosi

Spirit wrote: »

Viva

You were posting about your experiences of NHS Hospitals recently.

NHS Choices started to publish local ratings based on patient feedback yesterday. It is a bit of a blunt tool but like lots of early inventions it has room to improve, and it is a start.

http://www.nhs.uk/NHSEngland/AboutNHSservices/Pages/nhs-friends-and-family-test.aspx

click the link in the page to services near you. I plugged in my post code and got Hospitals within a reasonable travelling distance.

There is also a 'named and shamed' list of the worst wards although some of them are branded such on the strength of 1 response.

Blimey, that's a lot of scary red exclamation marks. I may have to move. To another country.

Thanks Spirit. Food for thought.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Looks like I might have found my great-grandmother's sister .... but without fistfuls of certificates at £10 a pop you don't know.

If its just a couple of names and they're likely to be on Ancestry, I'd be happy to get the online scans and email to them if you want to PM me. Worth a shot?

zagubov

Spirit wrote: »

Can you please send a link?

Twas this part of the thread

Hope the link works

Nikkster, good luck however it goes.:beer:

lemonjelly

Spirit wrote: »

Lemon jelly my cabbages are being demolished by tiny green caterpillars. Annoyed. Futile gardening.

You need nets! Stop the butterflies landing there in the first place!:)

lostinrates wrote: »

Nice people, in the vein of mushrooms. views on clotted cream please,.....especially the crust.....

misskool wrote: »

yes, and slathered on scone with jam ON TOP

and a strong cup of tea.

preferably in between sandwiches and cakes

misskool beat me to it (apart from the sandwiches bit - that will reduce the space for more scones...:o)

misskool

Nikki: all the best for what you decide. I absolutely understand how you don't want to give up but I gave you an option to prolong the pain (in case you wanted to finish at some point later).