Hoarding - Springing Ahead

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

mcculloch29 wrote: »

It probably wasn't as bad as you think Jojo.... If he didn't stammer and do a runner, or blush and hastily change the subject, those are positives. The realisation may creep in to his brain after a while that you may have meant something. I would carry on as normal, unless you really feel this was your one shot at saying something. A good friendship is of value too.

Nope, he didn't. He was his usual sweet and lovely self. Argh. I bet he just thinks I'm drunk and saying nice stuff because I'm nice.

Oh bother.

whitewing

Oh Jojo, I'm really impressed with you. It's a lovely sunny morning, and romance is in the air!

Easter eggs are waiting for DS to get up so that they can be opened together. DD is very excited about it all. DH is a extremely tired as he went to bed really late and DD got him up at the crack of dawn. We'll have a family breakfast later and then I expect we'll all go for a lie down.

Cupboard looks great this morning so I shall finish it off today. I also need to put away the line dried clothes.

I am nearly inspired enough by flylady to wipe down my front door and clean the porch.

This_Year

Catriona_P wrote: »

That's a good idea, I like the 15 minute burst idea. Still think I'll leave the majority of the work to him since they are his friends. One of them in particular is the type to look under a rug or blanket and gossip about what she sees.

How rude!

I would put a note under the rug/blanket which said "I knew some ill-mannered nosey so-and-so would look under here"

whitewing

This_Year wrote: »

I would put a note under the rug/blanket which said "I knew some ill-mannered nosey so-and-so would look under here"

...unless you're having a Easter Egg hunt!

Catriona, do they actually look or do you just feel that they would? I am only thinking that hoarding disorders are often associated with higher anxiety levels.

This_Year

Catriona_P wrote: »

Sounds lovely, now if only I had some girlfriends to call on...:o

Anyway, happy easter everybody

I'll bet you do - I used to think I had no-one to call on but recently I've been really pleased and surprised at the friendship and support I've been given in RL [and on here] I'm actually beginning to get a social life

Have a lovely easter! xx

This_Year

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Nope, he didn't. He was his usual sweet and lovely self. Argh. I bet he just thinks I'm drunk and saying nice stuff because I'm nice.

Oh bother.

Jojo you now need to follow it up - not immediately, but in a couple of days time to reiterate what you said so he knows it wasn't drink talking or anything. Hope it works out for you!

whitewing

I just had a spontaneous declutter of my underwear drawer, and have moved the contents to three smaller drawers in my bedside cabinet. (Yesterday's efforts mean the personal paperwork that would have gone bedside are now either shredded or filed in my new box in the cupboard). Scraggy or never-gets-worn underwear is now out.

DH can have my old big drawer. So he has thrown out two sturdy small cardboard boxes but kept the actual cuff link boxes. He has also thrown out a couple of empty glasses cases, some old boxers and socks. He got new stuff recently.

Much easier to sort clothes out now. I will need to get some new tights - then I can throw out all my old holey ones, but can't risk doing that before I actually get new ones.

It still surprises me how regularly one can move things on that have served their useful purpose. We tend to buy small quantities of the best brands quality we can afford and use them to death, which means we should be reviewing more regularly than once in a blue moon.

Got to go, DD wants to open her Easter Eggs and we're all together now.

minimoneyme

Well, I can tell you things I didn't buy at the Ideal Home Exhibition
A fantastic pair of scissors that cuts cucumbers and carrots, a water saving car washing brush and hose, a £495 blender that can make soup, ice cream and smoothies, and one of those things, you know, that saves so much time and makes your life complete and perfect.

What I did succumb to was a garlic mincer to replace a flimsy press, a whisk similar to one my mum used to have and does the job brilliantly, and some rubber repair stuff that will be used this afternoon. So not too bad considering all the temptation on offer.
I also ate an inordinate amount of freebie fudge and lemon curd.
I made myself a promise too, I saw a bedspread that was beautiful. I've wanted one for years but have never been able to justify buying an expensive item to make my bed look beautiful, warm and cosy when the room that the bed is in does not do it justice. I've decide that when my bedroom is decluttered AND STAYS THAT WAY I can think about buying one. Maybe it is the spur I need.

Jojo, they say men need things spelling out to them or it just goes straight over their heads. That might be a bit of a stereotype but I know it's sometimes true for my hubby. We were on a weekend break for our wedding anniversary and I saw the perfect handbag. As I lovingly stroked the soft, buttery leather, while sighing that it was very expensive he said " oh, why don't I buy it for you?" I gently protested that it was far too much, but with hope swelling in my breast I checked that all my stuff would fit in and it hung nicely on my shoulder. That hope was crushed when he said "oh, ok then" and suggested it was lunch time. We left the shop without the bag . What I should have said is "this handbag is something I really want, buy it as my anniversary present"
So your gentle hints may have gone unnoticed by him, you just have to decide now if you are ready to step up and push for what you want.

Btw I did get a similar (cheaper) handbag 2 years later, but did have to buy it myself :rotfl:

VJsmum

We had a picture cull yesterday :T

After decorating the last few rooms, we have bought some new pictures, rehung some old ones and have many that have never been put back. So we went through them and sorted into "definitely going to be put up", "definitely want to keep and will go up again" and "not on your life". The latter pile - which is the biggest pile - have gone in the wally trolley, ready for the charity shop. There are some decent pictures there and some minging pictures in decent frames. A couple have been binned / recycled.

All in all, we will be left with about 3 that aren't going anywhere yet - as opposed to 2 dozen.:T

blossomhill_2

VJsmum wrote: »

Perfect excuse arose for decluttering the spare room

CARPET MOTH :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

It wasn't as if it was that bad - just a pile of old quilts at the side of a wardrobe, a chest of cuddly toys the kids won't let me chuck and a laptop bag on the floor. Moved laptop bag to hoover and .. "what's this rice doing on the floor? Hmm, I don't think that is rice" - on the lappy, googled "carpet bugs rice" and came up with the above. Get the vac on it - a patch of carpet has been eaten away to bare hessian :eek:

Poor you Vjsmum, we had woolly bears once and as a result I won't ever have carpet with wool content - I was told at the time that they are worst in houses with cluttered lofts
Although they are supposed to hide from light ours were in the patch of carpet in front of the patio doors, so in bright light