childminder - baby biting issues

meritaten

mikeandrach wrote: »

to be honest yes i have made my mind up, i know the children involved and i know the scenario and i am confident i am in the right position to have my views. i take on board all comments, good and bad though. it slightly reassures me that i have now spoken to 5 childminders of between 8 and 24 years experience who all agree that for SOME children biting is a normal phase. all of them agree, not most or some. and 2 of them had no idea of the previous issue, so i gave them a hypothetical scenario where i gave no clue as to if he was the bier or the bitten, they both still said the same. as to how woudl i feel, i dont know is th ehonest answer, but i know i would ask myself why just my kid out of 10-15 and why is my 2 year old pushing/taking things from a younger baby? to me that would be a bad behaviour i would punish him for

your last paragraph makes no sense!

mikeandrach_2

if i was the parent of the child being bitten, i woudl question why my child was being bitten but not the others, ie is my child doing a behaviour that is wrong and if he was as he is old enough to know better he woudl be punished accordingly

Funky_Bold_Ribena

mikeandrach wrote: »

to be honest yes i have made my mind up, i know the children involved and i know the scenario and i am confident i am in the right position to have my views. i take on board all comments, good and bad though. it slightly reassures me that i have now spoken to 5 childminders of between 8 and 24 years experience who all agree that for SOME children biting is a normal phase. all of them agree, not most or some. and 2 of them had no idea of the previous issue, so i gave them a hypothetical scenario where i gave no clue as to if he was the bier or the bitten, they both still said the same. as to how woudl i feel, i dont know is th ehonest answer, but i know i would ask myself why just my kid out of 10-15 and why is my 2 year old pushing/taking things from a younger baby? to me that would be a bad behaviour i would punish him for

Is biting more of an issue with trophy wives? Or less? Or are you saying that she shouldn't be concerned about her child because she really is only concerned about her nails, and needs to stop being concerned? Or are you saying that, because she is concerned, it must be quite an issue because it has been a bigger concern than her nails?

Just trying to understand the issues around the relevance of her being a trophy wife.

meritaten

or has your child taken a dislike to the other one? its academic though isn't it?
you could talk to a 100 childminders - but THIS one has asked you to remove your child which she is perfectly entitled to do. Not being nasty but what do you hope to achieve here?

mikeandrach_2

i dont hope to achieve anything i just wanted to see what others views were

Gillyx

No matter how young your child is, they need to be told off/or told not to do something, especially something like biting. So if your 6 month old was about to touch something hot, would you not tell them not to and to stop? Or would you just let it happen?

I explain to my son (who is 14 months soon) why we can't do things, if he tries to bite I will say "We don't bite, as it hurts people and it makes them sad" If he bites or hits when he is sat next to me I will put him down. Yes he doesn't always understand but you need to start young, otherwise they'l be 3 and not understand why they can't do it as they've always done it.

Cherry_Bomb

mikeandrach wrote: »

if i was the parent of the child being bitten, i woudl question why my child was being bitten but not the others, ie is my child doing a behaviour that is wrong and if he was as he is old enough to know better he woudl be punished accordingly

This child is not even 2 yet! He/she's not some scheming genius getting bitten on purpose for the sympathy.

If anything they would associate taking a toy from your child will result in a bite and therefore not to do it again.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

mikeandrach wrote: »

i dont hope to achieve anything i just wanted to see what others views were

I want to know the relevance of being a trophy wife to the issue please, as you made such a big deal out of pointing it out.

mikeandrach_2

have you never said anythin when angry?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

mikeandrach wrote: »

have you never said anythin when angry?

So it's completely irrelevant then?