childminder - baby biting issues

Person_one

mikeandrach wrote: »

o(not being nasty but a pretentious trophy wife whose biggest worry in life is her nails/hair)

Come on now, that is a bit nasty! Try to see it from their side a bit.

mikeandrach_2

he is 15 months old, doesnt talk beyond daddy, dog, look, etc and certainky cant hold a conversation. she is physically much bigger and is much more advanced in terms of talking etc. he is with 10-15 other kids regularly and never had an issue with any of them, so why on each occasion this one?

meritaten

perhaps your childminder feels unable to cope with him at this time - especially as he targets this other child. and this worries me tbh. if the other children don't get bitten by him, I would be wondering why this child is bitten so often.
I think perhaps it would be best if you arranged another childminder or nursery - there is clearly a conflict going on.

minimoneysaver

I am sure that your 15 month old child understands the concept of no.

elsien

mikeandrach wrote: »

he is 15 months old, doesnt talk beyond daddy, dog, look, etc and certainky cant hold a conversation. she is physically much bigger and is much more advanced in terms of talking etc.

And in a few months time when your son is bigger, more advanced in conversation and being bitten by a younger child, what do you envisage your reaction is likely to be then?
I'm guessing it certainly won't be to blame your son for provoking them.

I have no idea of the rights or wrongs of the situation, but despite saying you want unbiased answers, you're looking to me like you've made your mind up and just want your opinion validating.

minimoneysaver

Totally agree with Elsien!

mikeandrach_2

to be honest yes i have made my mind up, i know the children involved and i know the scenario and i am confident i am in the right position to have my views. i take on board all comments, good and bad though. it slightly reassures me that i have now spoken to 5 childminders of between 8 and 24 years experience who all agree that for SOME children biting is a normal phase. all of them agree, not most or some. and 2 of them had no idea of the previous issue, so i gave them a hypothetical scenario where i gave no clue as to if he was the bier or the bitten, they both still said the same. as to how woudl i feel, i dont know is th ehonest answer, but i know i would ask myself why just my kid out of 10-15 and why is my 2 year old pushing/taking things from a younger baby? to me that would be a bad behaviour i would punish him for

Cherry_Bomb

mikeandrach wrote: »

to be honest yes i have made my mind up, i know the children involved and i know the scenario and i am confident i am in the right position to have my views. i take on board all comments, good and bad though. it slightly reassures me that i have now spoken to 5 childminders of between 8 and 24 years experience who all agree that for SOME children biting is a normal phase. all of them agree, not most or some. and 2 of them had no idea of the previous issue, so i gave them a hypothetical scenario where i gave no clue as to if he was the bier or the bitten, they both still said the same. as to how woudl i feel, i dont know is th ehonest answer, but i know i would ask myself why just my kid out of 10-15 and why is my 2 year old pushing/taking things from a younger baby? to me that would be a bad behaviour i would punish him for

No one is saying that biting isn't a normal phase It's your attitude that your child is perfectly innocent and somehow the child who's not much older is to blame that isn't right.

Maybe the other child is to blame so to speak.

Or maybe it's you that's not been teaching yours that biting is unacceptable?

You sound like one of those typical my child can do no wrong type parent. He's not a newborn, he should have some concept of what's acceptable behaviour and what isn't. And biting is not acceptable. Maybe you need to focus your energy on reinforcing that instead of worrying about another parents perceived interest in their looks.

mikeandrach_2

i certainly am not a my child can do no wrong parent if you knew me you owuld know nothing is further from the truth, so soryr if i come across that way

mikeandrach_2

my attitude towards itby the way was to go to the parents house when they first complained and seek a resolution. i made crystal clear to them that i wasnt happy with it but that i also fealt he was too young to understand me telling him off later, the childminder hsoudl have done that at the time not me when i get home that night which might be 6 hours after the incident.